Is your Dad still alive?

[Buckalew11]

only in my heart... :"(

We made a deal that he'll meet me when it is my time.

 

[december]

Had supper with my daddy tonight. He's 70, and I'm 38, and he refused to let me pay for mine and the kids' meals. And when he saw my baby sister (she's 33) and me fighting over the crispiest pieces of fish, he started picking them off the platter and sneaking them on my plate. Love my daddy!

 

[JessicaR]

I read each and every post. My heart breaks. Thank you for bringing to my attention how very precious life is and how fortunate I am to have my Dad in my life still. Happy Fathers Day to all that are here and all that have passed.

 

[heatherwillmom]

I lost my Dad Jan 1998. It still hurts. I am crying as I write this now. He was healthy. He had some chest discomfort the end of Dec 1997. He went to the Dr about 2 weeks later. They admitted him to the hospital for testing & told him that he had a "mild" heart attack. They ran some tests & discovered that he had some blocked arteries so they decided to do a cardiac bypass before he had a "bad" heart attack. The surgeon, who was well known as a good cardiac surgeon, made a mistake that cost my Dad his life. He "nicked" a major artery. Since my Dad was on the cardiac bypass machine at the time, the blood loss was not immediately apparent. When they noticed, the artery was repaired & they pumped in several units of blood but it was too late. My DF did not recover. One of the worse parts was the surgeon didn't tell us what happened. He came out & said that he didn't know what had gone wrong. He didn't realize that a surgery nurse had already came out & told us. It was such a shock to lose a healthy man like this. Please cherish every day that you have with your father those of you who still have one.

 

[Dee77]

Sadly no- we lost Dad in March 2009, it was very unexpected. He died of a massive heart attack at the age of only 63 years, until then anyone would have thought he was the picture of great health so you never really know.

It is very bittersweet for me right now because I miss him terribly and I am so glad that my daughter still remembers him and talks of him often (she was only 2 and a half when he passed away) so it shows what an impact he had on our lives but sadly my in-laws have not had much to do with us as of late and so I feel my little one is missing out even more...

I am also sad because Mom and Dad would have celebrated 45 years of marriage this year and the fact is that she will never be the same without him. They were really a perfect pair, truly in love with each other.

I am glad my husband is working tomorrow because Father's Day is such a tough day for me to get through. I guess it will never be easy and time really hasn't helped in my grieving process.

 

[shaylyn]

My dad passed away when he was 48 due to Cancer.

I was in my early 20's.

 

[tvguy]

My dad died May 13, 1967 when I was 9. Lung cancer. Still with me in my heart.

 

[PaulaSB12]

Mine died 26th September 2004 and from the moment I saw his body at the local hospital (don't know where he was found and never asked) my memories of him went, to this day I have no memory of him at all.

 

[Danauk]

My dad is still alive and although nearly 70 he is very active (he works on a steam railway). My mum and dad are coming with us on our 4 week trip to Australia next month which will be nice.

 

[mamamary]

Yes - my dad turned 80 on his last birthday

 

[abdmom]

Add me to the list of those who lost their fathers in 1999. My dad died on Dec. 22, 1999. Christmas wasn't so happy that year. He was 63. He died of a cancer he'd had for 3 years.

DH died at the age of 42 on December 10, 2005. His cancer was diagnosed 5 months earlier, 2 weeks after our youngest was born. We had planned on having more children. The first thing he said to me after being diagnosed was his regret that that wasn't going to happen. We had both come from families of 3 children and we had promised each other that we weren't going to have 3 children, after seeing the emotional pain of the middle children (DH was one of them). It was either going to be 2 or 4 children, so when we had that 3rd child, we were going to have another right away. Well, two weeks wasn't nearly long enough to make that happen. I ended up with 3 children, and yes, middle child has middle child syndrome. Luckily she's the only girl, so it isn't so bad. She's quite mad that she doesn't have a sister.

I did not like having the "Your class is making presents for Father's Day. Who should you make a present for?" discussion that I had to have with the 5 year old last week.

FIL is still alive, but sees the kids rarely. He lives half way around the world. When we called him the first Father's Day after dh died, I got told off by MIL. Now SIL and BIL wonder why I don't call their parents.

So, both Father's Day and Christmas are holidays I try to get through as quickly as possible. They just seem to come around every year though.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Mine died suddenly 6 months ago....just a few days shy of Christmas. I miss him so much.

 

[Rora]

My Daddy is still alive. I don't know where I'd be without him. My heart goes out to all of those who have lost their fathers.

 

[can84]

Mine died June 24, 1974 from Pancreatic Cancer. I was 4 years old--wish I had some memories of him of my own.

 

[Lovely2CU]

Thanks for sharing. Cherish the time you have with your Dad before it's too late.

 

[DVC-Don]

No, mine passed away two months ago at age 85. We took him to WDW back in 1998. After that we was always telling folks "You should see how Disney does it".

 

[PixieDustandEeyore]

Mine died when I was 12 in 2000 he was an intelligence warrant in the army. I miss him very much.

 

[disney1990]

My Dad died in 1961, when I was only 9. It was hard to grow up without him.

However, I married DH in 1984 and his Dad, has been a wonderful Dad to me since then. He is almost 90 years old and if you met him, you wouldn't know it. He goes with us to Disney AND rides every ride there is. He walks the mall every single morning even though he has macular degenerationm nothing stops him.

He is an inspiration to me and to my girls and, of course, my DH.

 

[Andtototoo]

My father died more than 10 years ago.

I'll be honest: I don't miss him in the slightest. He was highly self-absorbed and beyond that, since I was a female, he had no real interest in me. Long before he died, I made my peace with the fact that I didn't have the kind of father all children deserve and that he was really nothing more than a donor. So I was not at his bedside when he died and I did not attend his funeral. People told me I would regret those choices. I do not.

 

[Promomx2]

My dad died suddenly of a heart attack when he was 40 and I was 4yrs. I remember that day he was complaining of a headache and he and my mom were planning on going to a dance. But other than that no other memories. I've often thought about going to a hypnotist to see if I could remember more. Really miss him, especially when ds plays baseball and when my grandson was born.