I currently have 4 cats and only one is really a "lap cat", but all are affectionate in their own way.
Tigger likes attention by me and likes me to carry him around. He loves my 6yo, who can carry him, but is leery of my DH (who has never done anything to him) and is scared of strange adults, but fine with kids. He will hide for a week when we have guests and some frequent visitors don't even know we have him.
Belle, Tigger's sister, is very affectionate and the lap cat. Very sweet, but doesn't like to be carried.
Apollo is very affectionate, rubs up against a person and will go where we keep the cat toys and ask to play. He is the favorite of my children since he is so personable.
Venus, Apollo's sister and the kitty in my signature, is affectionate, but in a princessy way. She struts around deciding when she should be petted.

She is my kitty for sure. She likes everyone, but my family thinks she is snooty I think.

She is extremely playful and instead of asking to play, she will find things to play with, which means getting into all kinds of trouble (one time I started a thread about her).
The two younger cats are the only two who will really come when called.
Bottom line--they are all affectionate, but in very different ways.
PAW, you are what my DH's worried about me having! I've already said that I'm not getting more cats when my next child goes to college (like I got Apollo and Venus when my DD went to college last year), but joked that I was getting 2 kittens in 5 years when the next one went to college. He said, "no way". My plan was to not get more dogs (we have 2) when our dogs age and die

and only have the cats, but if he's going to veto more cats in the future, I guess I'll get dogs.

Can't say that I'm not flexible.
