Is tipping generously ever a faux pas?

[NancyIL]

I think a $5 tip for a $16 meal is VERY generous, and I wouldn't have tipped that much. I can see how your friend would've felt uncomfortable to be obviously tipping less. I usually pay with a credit card, so the amount of my tip would've been known only to me.

 

[TXYankee]

My neice and nephew are servers in NYC. You are right, a couple of extra dollars really matters to them.

Thank you for leaving the generous tip.

As my neice would say, "watch out, you never know when GOOD Karma will catch up with you!"

 

[GrillMouster]

This sounds like an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm.

 

[englishteacha]

We wouldn't tip that much on a $16 check, but if you financially can do so, that's great. I understand it making your friend uncomfortable because one of the couples we sometimes go to dinner with are very generous tippers. We tip appropriately, but they tip 25% or more. We just can't swing that much.

 

[JennCa]

I think your tipping should be more private, just use the credit card and add what you like. I am in the minority here, but I can't stand when someone over tips and draws attention to it, I find it rude. If you said the tip could be from me also and added another $3 I would have said no thanks, I can pay my own but it would be awkward since I would feel obligated to tip what you did. Depending on the amount I honestly doubt I would want to have lunch with you again. If you just took care of it privately I would never know or care. I think tipping is personal preference, I feel that I give what I think it appropriate. When we eat at a place where there is a lot of service, but the bill isn't high like Spaghetti Factory I usually leave more a 30-40% tip sometimes happens, but the kind of place where you see your server just to order and then to the bill it $30 they just get 15%. If the service really sucks or if I have an issue even less. That said it happens only once every 4-5 years or so that it is that bad.

I used to work as a waitress and received tips, but I never seemed to meet those of you who tipped that over the top!

Jenn

 

[babyrich]

my DH and I tend to overtip all the time. If the service is really good than we really overtip. One time we were in a diner and liked the coffee so much and the waitress kept filling up our cups that we left a huge tip. Like the OP said, we are at a point where we can do it, so why not?

 

[disfan07]

In general, we tip 18-20%

Usually though, we tip about 25% because I have so many food allergies that it involves a lot of request of the servers to find out ingredients, etc. and if the servers go above and beyond by finding out ingredients, answering all of our questions, and everything else like that, on top of good service, we tip about 25%.

We spend about $50 on lunch every friday at the same restaurant by the hospital....we usually have the same waitress everytime and we tip about $15

 

[scrapquitler]

We just had this issue in action today at lunch with my In-Laws (she is a very cheap tipper, she's usually in the $1 per person club). We went out with them, and she asked for separate checks for FIL and her (which irritates me, but whatever). She went to the restroom and the bills came, so FIL paid it. Their bill was $26.83, and my FIL tipped $6.00 which I thought was about what I would have tipped with their bill (close to 20%, and do some rounding to not complicate things). As soon as MIL came out from the bathroom, she started on FIL that he tipped "WAY too much". She told him that he should have tipped no more than $3.00. Our bill was $40.83, I gave the waitress $49.00 (I would have given her an even $50, but I didn't have the right bills). And I was tempted to leave extra beyond that because both of the in-laws are a major problem when we go out to eat (but my thoughts for that belong on the "Things you wish you could say out loud to other people" thread.

 

[*Seanaci*]

Ditto what others have said. You were perfectly within your right to leave what tip you felt was appropriate (be it too much or too little in someone elses opinion). Also agree with the poster who said your friend commenting was the faux pas.

When my parents and I dine together but get seperate checks, I never ask what they'll be tipping to make up for it in my tip. I always tip what I feel the server deserved for their service. Outstanding/above and beyond service will get a much higher tip than sub-par/didn't do much service...regardless of what others at my table tipped.

 

[ohlas]

We just had this issue in action today at lunch with my In-Laws (she is a very cheap tipper, she's usually in the $1 per person club). We went out with them, and she asked for separate checks for FIL and her (which irritates me, but whatever). She went to the restroom and the bills came, so FIL paid it. Their bill was $26.83, and my FIL tipped $6.00 which I thought was about what I would have tipped with their bill (close to 20%, and do some rounding to not complicate things). As soon as MIL came out from the bathroom, she started on FIL that he tipped "WAY too much". She told him that he should have tipped no more than $3.00. Our bill was $40.83, I gave the waitress $49.00 (I would have given her an even $50, but I didn't have the right bills). And I was tempted to leave extra beyond that because both of the in-laws are a major problem when we go out to eat (but my thoughts for that belong on the "Things you wish you could say out loud to other people" thread.

OMG There is a thread out there that has "things you wish you could say out loud to other people"

I do that everyday except for at work lol ..... im bad lound mouth

Anyways most of the time we tip 20% and round up to the nearest dollar just easier that way...

unless it is bad service like the girl who didnt bring the refills walked past us sat in the booth couple behind us and smoked for like 30 mins omg it was horrible...I got our own refills from the bar,, and left her 0 which was a first. manager gave 50% off too she also gave us someone elses food and wanted us to eat it lol .... your going to eat chicken and like it lol