Is This Weird To Anyone???

[KMLOVESWDW]

Dh & I will more than likely be going back to the World next May. Sister, BIL & DN & DN we be going too. Have traveled with either friends or family for the last 4 years, & while we do have fun, we have a different idea about what our vacations should be like. After traveling with just DH 3 weeks ago, I found that I missed that. That being said, DS would want to stay at POP, while DH & I really enjoyed our stay at POR & would like to return there. Anyone think it's weird to plan a trip with others, but maybe stay at different hotels??? We do sit down dinners, they really don't, we spend more time at the parks & doing extra recreation, they spend more time at the pool, we like to park hop, they pretty much do a park a day, we get right up in the am & go, they get up later, have bfast, then head out. These are just some obvious differences to me. I don't expect anyone to pay for something that they are not comfortable paying for either. Is the thought of staying seperately rude or weird to anyone? DS says it wouldn't bother her but I don't know..

 

[Trekker]

I think as long as you have certain things planned where you all do it as a group it would be great - it gives everyone the freedom to do what they want without feeling guilty for being an imposition for anyone else.

It sounds like you all do different things even if you stay at the same resort - so this is not that much different - just be sure to spend some quality time together at different times during the vacation.

But then I kinda like weird.....

 

[cccm]

If it were me I would also have difficulty deciding. The only reason why I be hesitant is the convenience of being in the same resort just in case DSister wanted me to watch her kids. If that is not an issue then stay in separate and make plans to meet up here and there throughout your vacation.

 

[thunderbird1]

I don't think it's weird at all, especially knowing your different vacation styles. We travel often with family members (though not to WDW), and have stayed at different hotels before. It's usually a matter of $$$ (we got a great deal on a certain hotel, but my dad didn't, so he stayed somewhere cheaper nearby). I would say it's not as convenient, but at WDW that isn't really true since you wouldn't be doing all the same things at the same time anyway. As long as make a few plans together (ADR's, shows, same parks/same days), I think you'll be fine, and everyone will enjoy their vacation more, knowing they can just go on their own schedules. Really, with cell phones these days it's so easy to hook up with people and change plans I don't think it matters where you stay.

In fact, you might have fun taking breaks at each other's resorts. You could get a piece of tie-dyed cheesecake, and your DN's might enjoy the pool slide at POR (I don't think that would be considering pool-hopping, would it?).

Go for it, and have fun!

 

[kapoof]

you stay where you want and let the others stay where they want..nothing weird at all...have a great trip

 

[Amy&Dan]

I don't think its weird at all. In fact, you may be doing all of you a big favor in the end! I agree, make a few ADR's for everyone to enjoy together, meet up when you can but in the end its your vacation and theirs and sometimes its not easy to combine the two all the time. If you do decide to stay at the same resort, you might think about going down a few days early or staying a few days later to have your alone time. Of course thats if your own schedule and budget can make that work. Thats what we are doing for our upcoming Disneyland trip with dh's family. We will be there a few days early to do our own thing and then will be ready to be with them when they arrive. For that matter, we did that when we went to WDW with them a year and half ago. It feels like the best of both worlds.

 

[SB in KY]

We have a rule for our family vacations....no one old enogh to make a mortgage payment has to do anything they don't want to do on family vacations (those not old enough have to do what their parents tell them to!!).

My children were a lot younger than my sisters, we were morning people and my children took naps, they were night owls and never left the room before noon, we had different size vacation budgets, different meal preferences, etc...we often stayed at different resorts at WDW.

We planned 1 meal or activity together as a group each day and then went from there. Often we would decide to meet for dinner and hang out during the early evening hours and when we were ready to turn in we would part company. It made for ideal family vacations because everyone was having a great time. Cell phones make this a much easier process!

The only really unpleasent vacation we had was when we all stayed together at Ft Wilderness and thought we had to be together every minute and everone was disgruntled half the time at least.

 

[Kimberle]

No, I don't. I do think you'll need to define your meeting places and what you'll do during them. I think as long as you have a plan that everyone agrees upon, you'll all have a wonderful time.

 

[kathie859]

I think it's healthy to discuss up front what one's expectations are of a vacation. It woul appear that you have that well in hand. Particularly a vacation that can be so jam packed with things to see and do. Let's face it WDW can wear you down!

What we usually do is have a pre trip meeting to plan what each person's "must see/must do" item or items are and go get some sort of gameplan. Everyone doesn't have to do the same thing at the same time but I think a once a day "touch base" either over a meal or drink or at the pool allows everyone to feel as connected as they want to be.

 

[MareSINY]

I was at the world in December with my sister, BIL, two nieces and dad. My brother who lives near Ocala came down for the weekend. He stayed at Pop and the rest of us stayed at the Poly. We met up at MVMCP the first night and planned to meet the next day, but he ended up hanging out with friends instead. Basically, I say go for it! We went on the last trip figuring we weren't going to worry about anyone else's plans and just plan our own things, which is what we did and we had no hard feelings all around. It's the best way to do it!

 

[pospisil]

I don't think it's weird at all. DH, DS, and I went a couple of years ago with my brother, 2 cousins, and my cousin's DD. We al stayed at ASMo, but just cuz we're all cheap! It wouldn't have made any difference if some of us had stayed at a different hotel, we rarely saw each other at the hotel anyway. We all split up most days, though we did get the 2 kids together with various combinations of adults for some activities like the pirate adventure and tea party. We all met up for dinner almost every night, then would usually, but not always, hang out together for the evening. It was funny, as big as WDW is, we ran into each other by accident several times! We had a great time.

 

[KMLOVESWDW]

Thanks to all that posted. I feel better knowing I'm not the only one. You all make it sound as if it turns out better for everyone in the long run. We'll see what happens-it's a long ways away from May