Is this trip even feasible?

[chi_girl]

We took our girls to Disneyworld in June for DD 4 birthday. We stayed a week, and had a super magical time. We decided to go again for DD 2 birthday in January. We have everything planned out, plane tickets, a week at the Poly, ADRs, everything. Now, it turns out DH will not be back until mid-Feb. I am now seriously debating canceling this trip. I am just not convinced it is a good idea to go alone. The main problem is that I will be 7 months pregnant. I do not know how I will handle the girls alone at Disney. Even though they are both pretty well behaved, they do have there moments. I am also worried about the stroller situation. Although DD4 doesn't use a stroller at home, she did use one last trip, and I am sure will want to use one this trip. How will I push a double stroller all day long for 6 days? And what about the rides? DD4 will want to ride them all, she is completely fearless. Which rides would I be able ride with her? Will DD4 be completely bored? All she has talked about since last trip are the rides. Especially Test Track, which she was too small to ride last trip. How does Test Track work? I am assuming DD2 and I couldn't go on with her? I am also assuming January is to cold to swim, so what else is there to do besides swimming and rides?

Pls convince me that this trip is either a good idea or a horrible one? Any tips would be apprehiated as well.

Michele
A longtime lurker, first time poster.

 

[KayDox]

Unless your mom or someone can come and help you, I would cancel the trip. I just had a second baby 4mo ago, and I remember I was very very tired towards the end of the pregnancy. I only gained 18lb during the pregnancy, so I wasn't that big, but even taking my 2yr old daughter to a local park made me exhausted. I was often cranky and I felt sorry for her. Traveling alone with toddlers for a week when you are pregnant sounds too risky for you and your unborn baby. You will be tired, stressed. I am sure your daugters would want to go to the happiest place on earth with a happy mom. And most importantly, IF something happens to your baby, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

Staying at disney for a week means a lot of money and it should be well spent. Can you postpone it until your husband comes back?

Kay

 

[metivier]

When I was 7 months pregnant with DS, I barely was able to walk after 2 year-old DD, never mind scoot myself around WDW with TWO DDs, and a 2 year-old one included at that! Not sure if you can pay a change fee on your airline tickets, but I would SERIOUSLY consider cancelling unless you can bring someone along with you to help.

Can you reschedule for later in 2006 (December so you don't have to pay for DD2 as she won't be 3 yet?) and bring DH and the baby along???

Good luck!

 

[Grumpy's Wife]

I would cancel the trip and reschedule so your husband can go with you. It's really not a family trip without him. Good luck with your decision.

 

[daisyduck123]

I would cancel & reschedule. You want this trip to be fun & relaxing for you, as well as the girls, & it sounds like you will have some added stress without the help of DH.

 

[tlbwriter]

I'm sure someone will come along and say "I took 4 kids under the age of 6 when I was pregnant with triplets, and we were fine!" Don't worry about what others can do. You are concerned about this trip, and I think that's a good reason to postpone it.

 

[chi_girl]

Thanks for the replys. Your answers are exactly what I expected, and exactly how I feel.

The problem is the DH. He is going on and on about how great the trip will be, how we'll never forget the 'mother-daughter' experience, and must importantly how we don't want to disappoint the girls by canceling. He won't be home for Christmas or DD B-day, and he feels like this trip would be a way to make them happy. I just don't feel his enthusiam. I feel like this trip would be a mistake all around.

The plane tickets are exchangable for a $100 a ticket, and we could reschedule for early summer.

Any experience will telling the kids? DD4 has talked none stop about the castle, the car ride and cindrella.

Thanks for letting me vent.
Michele

 

[My2Cinderellas]

Unless you can get a good friend or relative to accompany you, as another poster suggested, then I wouldn't go. Your DH is probably feeling very guilty, and has the best of intentions in having you go, but may not understand the reality of traveling alone with a 4yo, 2yo and being very pregnant. A short getaway trip to an indoor waterpark (Wisconsin Dells?) or Camp snoopy (go during the week if at all possible!) or similar place would be much more feasible than WDW.

 

[chi_girl]

I am in negotiations with my MIL. I was thinking of inviting my SIL (17). As we have an extra plane ticket, and she is great with my DDs, but the MIL isn't too entralled with her missing a week of school. Which I can completely understand. Also, I have never taken a family vacation without DH and don't know if I feel comfortable taking a vaca without him. Thus, I will probably end up rescheduling for June-ish.

S'rry for the babbling.
Michele

 

[Temair]

If your kids already know about the upcoming trip. Maybe say you decieded that you don't want the new baby to miss out on the fun to. I would reschedule and not cancel.

 

[ch261]

I'd play the Daddy card. "We will have SO much more fun when we get to go with Daddy! I can't wait until Daddy is home and we can all go to Disney World." When they talk about the rides and castle and things they want to do, mention how great it will be and Daddy will be there and all the things they can show the new baby too.

I can't even fathom taking a trip to Disney World, or anywhere else for that matter, with kids, pregnant and without DH. I hope you can get it worked out. I think kids are more forgiving and resiliant than we give them credit for. I think they'll catch on if you're enthused and excited.

 

[chi_girl]

I spent most of the very early am on the phone with DH. He seemed very hurt, but in the end, agreed to cancel the trip. I think playing the daddy card is the best way to break it to the girls. He wants to wait until closer to the scheduled vacation, and after Christmas to tell DD4. At that point, we will have a new scheduled date to excitedly tell them.

Now I get to plan a whole new trip.

Thanks for all the advice
Michele

 

[Kimmielee]

Michele,

I'm glad to see you resolved your issue.... is your hubby overseas in the war?

 

[chi_girl]

No, he is not. Thank God. He works for a multinational. He is on site in Tokyo for what was only supposed to be 6 weeks (4 months ago!). He is in negotions to get home for the holidays, but with Japan not celebrating Christmas, the office stays open, and they are adamint that he stays.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

I would get a friend or family to go then your dh and girls will be happy and YOU will OK and so will your belly

 

[travelitis]

My dh will be gone most of next year, and I know that the trip you describe is something I wouldn't attempt. I think it's good you cancelled and are going to reschedule. I'd think your dh would understand that at 7 mo. along you probably won't feel like single-parenting across the expanse of Disney.

 

[mrzrich]

When you tell the girls that the trip is postponed, do not list your pregnancy or the waiting so the baby could go too as a reason for the delay. This may cause baby resentment

Have fun planning and good luck with the baby!