Is this too evil?

[saratogadreamin09]

So, there's a boy in my class who Ive had a crush on for awhile now (we'll call him J). He's had crush on this girl (K) for awhile now too. Both K and J are good friends with this girl(E) who is the meanest girl alive!

Back in January I poured my heart out to J and all he said back to me was "alright".After that conversation he started to pretend I didnt exsist and went to such a extreme one day that when I sat down next to him in english he got up and moved! This got me so upset and I seriously went into a depression for like a month. Everything was ok for awhile but then E started to "bully" me about J. She would say the stupidest things, but after awhile they really started to upset me because I was still geting over J (i still am to thi day)

Well, last wek I found out J and K started dating, the thing is K doesnt really like him and she's probably going to break up with him soon. Thing is she doesnt want anyone to know they're dating and the only reason I know is because me and her have 1 mutual friend. So they're in a "secret" relationhip

My friends keep telling me that I should tell everyone they're dating as a way to get back at all of them but Im not so sure. Id feel really guilty doing it but I also think they have it coming to them. What do you think? Do you think its way too mean if I tell everyone about them?

 

[My Wild Love]

Don't do it. Honestly, I have been in a similar position as J, and it's not fun. His way of letting you down easy was trying to avoid you. :[
I'm sorry you are in this situation but take the higher road.

 

[PirateSnowmen]

Honestly, I think people will find out quickly whether you tell them or not. I don't see how this could "get back" at them, though. If they don't want people to know they're dating they shouldn't have told anyone. Word spreads quickly.

 

[imabrat]

Are you freaking kidding me? No way in hell do you tell anyone anything just to "get back at someone". That's petty, juvenile, and frankly, just stupid. Don't sink yourself to their level.

Not only that, rumors and drama alway come back to bite you in the rear. I've seen it happen and I've also been apart of it.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Don't do it. Honestly, I have been in a similar position as J, and it's not fun. His way of letting you down easy was trying to avoid you. :[
I'm sorry you are in this situation but take the higher road.

Honestly, thats no way of letting a girl down easily. Id rather have the guy tell me to my face that he doesn want to date me.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Are you freaking kidding me? No way in hell do you tell anyone anything just to "get back at someone". That's petty, juvenile, and frankly, just stupid. Don't sink yourself to their level.

Not only that, rumors and drama alway come back to bite you in the rear. I've seen it happen and I've also been apart of it.

Well, what he did to me was pretty juvenile and stupid.

 

[My Wild Love]

Honestly, thats no way of letting a girl down easily. Id rather have the guy tell me to my face that he doesn want to date me, which wasnt the case here. He wanted me, but he was afraid that his friends didnt think I was "popular" enough

Actually I think you're right. He just made it easier for himself. He sounds like a jerk!
Still I wouldn't tell everyone about it.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Honestly, I think people will find out quickly whether you tell them or not. I don't see how this could "get back" at them, though. If they don't want people to know they're dating they shouldn't have told anyone. Word spreads quickly.

The thing is we only have 2 more day of school left and they've already been dating for a week, so I dont se it getting out on there own before school ends

 

[imabrat]

Well, what he did to me was pretty juvenile and stupid.

That's because he's a boy.
It doesn't matter what he did, be the bigger person and let it go. What you want to do is just as juvenile and stupid. Why do you want to get down to his level when all it will do is make you look bad?

 

[saratogadreamin09]

That's because he's a boy.
It doesn't matter what he did, be the bigger person and let it go. What you want to do is just as juvenile and stupid. Why do you want to get down to his level when all it will do is make you look bad?

Thing is, the whole class knows what he did to me (E made it pretty public) and I honestly think most of them wouldnt think less of me if I did it. Most of the people were really sympathetic of me when it happened.

I speant the last 6 months trying to let it go and it aint gonna happen

 

[andy.b]

That's because he's a boy.

Ouch. But when I first saw the title of the thread I thought it be something actually evil. Like throwing eggs at him or filling his bedroom with jell-o with him still in it. But then again, I don't think filling a room with jell-o would be evil, I think that person would be pretty lucky to swim(if it's possible to swim in jell-o) and eat their way out of a jell-o filled room.

 

[imabrat]

Thing is, the whole class knows what he did to me (E made it pretty public) and I honestly think most of them wouldnt think less of me if I did it. Most of the people were really sympathetic of me when it happened.

I speant the last 6 months trying to let it go and it aint gonna happen

Which is exactly why you don't air anything out. And in your other thread, you say there's 2 days of school left. Are you seriously going to create drama this late in the school year?

Be smart, get over it. I've been where you are. Stooopid boy laid out all the hints, flirting, and whatnot. Never did anything beyond that. I've just recently gotten over "getting over" him. He's a boy, there's plenty of them.

And seriously, what good is it going to do as far as your relationship with him? He's already expressed he doesn't want to date you. Doing this isn't going to make him suddenly want you again.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Ouch. But when I first saw the title of the thread I thought it be something actually evil. Like throwing eggs at him or filling his bedroom with jell-o with him still in it. But then again, I don't think filling a room with jell-o would be evil, I think that person would be pretty lucky to swim(if it's possible to swim in jell-o) and eat their way out of a jell-o filled room.

I agree, that would be a treat

Which is exactly why you don't air anything out. And in your other thread, you say there's 2 days of school left. Are you seriously going to create drama this late in the school year?yeah, best time to since you dont have to deal with it over the summer and everyone forgets before school starts

Be smart, get over it. I've been where you are. Stooopid boy laid out all the hints, flirting, and whatnot. Never did anything beyond that. I've just recently gotten over "getting over" him. He's a boy, there's plenty of them.

And seriously, what good is it going to do as far as your relationship with him? He's already expressed he doesn't want to date you. Doing this isn't going to make him suddenly want you againi dont think its gonna to make him want to date me again, I dont want him to but I want him to have to feel like crap like I did.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Im seriously having mood swings tonight LOL

now I dont think I can do it because Ive always been known as a nice girl and I dont want anyone to think otherwise (I dont even want E to think Im mean!!!!!)

 

[imabrat]

Ouch. But when I first saw the title of the thread I thought it be something actually evil. Like throwing eggs at him or filling his bedroom with jell-o with him still in it. But then again, I don't think filling a room with jell-o would be evil, I think that person would be pretty lucky to swim(if it's possible to swim in jell-o) and eat their way out of a jell-o filled room.

I said boy, not man.

I agree, that would be a treat

Girl, if you think people forget about drama before the summer once the new year moves in, you live in a strange place. No one ever forgets when someone wrongs you. Heck, some of them even bring up junk from elementary school! (You stole my red crayon and I never forgave you for it!) It's insane.

Don't make him hurt like you did. Show everyone that you are stronger than he is, by letting it go and ignoring him.

 

[PirateSnowmen]

Since school is about to end, just try your best to get over it during the summer. Start fresh for the new school year in the fall. You wouldn't want to damage your reputation because of this one thing. Your reputation lasts longer than a boy.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Well, I didnt do it today. As of right now I probably wont tomorrow either

 

[Cinderelli16]

Do NOT do that, because 1. It's really none of your business & 2. It's really immature and rude.

Be the bigger person here, if you do that it's only gonna make things 100 times worse for yourself.

In the end you'll never get "J" if you do that, he'll realize that you're just immature and dumb and that is a big turn off. And just to make things clear, I did not call you immature or dumb.

Just wait things out, that's all you can do. Or you can find yourself a new guy to crush on.

 

[DramaQueen]

I'm glad you seem to be deciding against doing it.
In the beginning it sounded like you were going to do it no matter what we told you.

But seriously, that's a very small-minded thing to do.
Sure you spilled your guts to him and he just said "alright", but what else was he supposed to say? Unfortunately he doesn't have the same feelings for you as you do for him. And it sounds like it's been tough to get over him and that "E" hasn't made it much easier, but outing this couple will absolutely NOT make you feel any better about yourself or the situation.

I really hope you don't do this, it'll give you a bad rep as a gossip/someone who can't be trusted, as well as have you sink down to "E"s level by spreading info that the 'public' has no business knowing.

Honestly, it's J & K's business what they want to do. You say they're bound to break up soon, so you can just quietly smirk to yourself when that happens, no need to be cruel and vindictive.
Do the right thing

 

[BabyPiglet]

If you have to wonder if it's too evil a thing to do, you probably shouldn't do it.

Honestly it sounds like you want to make their lives miserable, but not have any of the blame or backlash. Do you know what that is? It's a cop-out.

If you're going to do something, I always say do it 100%! Which means not telling everyone at the end of the year when nobody cares (like they would anyways) and will soon forget about.

So, get over him. Just because he was a jerk doesn't mean you have to be too.