Is this a little creepy?

[postage stamp]

Or am I just being overly sensitive?

So a few weeks ago a guy I dated in high school asked to be friends on facebook. our breakup wasn't awful and we remained friends for a few years after that, so I figured what he heck.

Well he sent me a message asking about my best friend from high school. The two of them had always gotten along and the three of us were together most of the school day. Well he had heard that she was killed in a car accident about 7 years ago and asked me if it was true because the person he heard it from wasn't POSITIVE that she had died. I told him it was and he asked me where she was buried because he wanted to bring her flowers and pay his respects. So I gave him the address of the cemetery and he thanked me. I thought it was sweet of him.

A few days later (yesterday) I log in to facebook and he's changed his profile picture to her headstone.

Now call me crazy, but I think a picture of a headstone as your profile pic is weird enough, never mind when it's someone you haven't spoken to in years and didn't even know she died YEARS ago until 2 days ago.

Am I being weird or is that just creepy?

 

[IdesOmarch]

Maybe it moved him in a hard way, maybe she is the only person that was once close to him, or from your class that has died and has made him think about his own mortality.

Its not the weirdest thing in the world, but its not the most mainstream normal thing I've ever heard either.

 

[disneychic2]

It's high on my creep-o-meter! Makes no sense at all IMHO.

 

[Cinderella94]

Or am I just being overly sensitive?

So a few weeks ago a guy I dated in high school asked to be friends on facebook. our breakup wasn't awful and we remained friends for a few years after that, so I figured what he heck.

Well he sent me a message asking about my best friend from high school. The two of them had always gotten along and the three of us were together most of the school day. Well he had heard that she was killed in a car accident about 7 years ago and asked me if it was true because the person he heard it from wasn't POSITIVE that she had died. I told him it was and he asked me where she was buried because he wanted to bring her flowers and pay his respects. So I gave him the address of the cemetery and he thanked me. I thought it was sweet of him.

A few days later (yesterday) I log in to facebook and he's changed his profile picture to her headstone.

Now call me crazy, but I think a picture of a headstone as your profile pic is weird enough, never mind when it's someone you haven't spoken to in years and didn't even know she died YEARS ago until 2 days ago.

Am I being weird or is that just creepy?

 

[stepmommyof1]

I do think it is weird and creepy but some people take any death really hard so maybe it's just his way of dealing with it?? Weird, but if it's what he wants to do and the family doesn't mind, then ok.

 

[krcit]

CREEPY

 

[wdwmom0f3]

That's just weird!

 

[Hannathy]

I don't think it is creepy. I think maybe it is his way of honoring or memorializing her since he didn't know about it when it happened.

I think he is just trying to do something in her honor.

 

[stepmommyof1]

Weird, but if it's what he needs to do to deal with death, and if the family doesn't mind, then whatever

 

[LuvOrlando]

I vote for eccentric. Creepy is too strong but it definitely isn't normal either, check out the rest of his FB posts, if he's nutty it will shine though. Could be he's just paying his respects for someone he thought highly of in an offbeat way. Now, if it the profile pic stays there for an ongoing time he's a wack-a-doo.

I have a friend who periodically posts pictures of a doll she named Baby DB (Dumpster Baby) from Always Sunny in Philadelphia. It usually looks crazy and I wouldn't pose that doll around, but if I know her it's just her being her and she can pull it off.

 

[postage stamp]

OK, I thought maybe I was being weird.

I didn't think it was weird that he wanted to bring flowers to her grave and pay his respects. I thought that as nice of him. But to take the picture in the first place and then not just post it on Facebook, but make it his profile picture seemed WAY over the top to me.

 

[IdesOmarch]

I have a friend who periodically posts pictures of a doll she named Baby DB (Dumpster Baby) from Always Sunny in Philadelphia. It usually looks crazy and I wouldn't pose that doll around, but if I know her it's just her being her and she can pull it off.

OK sorry but that is just

 

[nmmom95]

OK, I thought maybe I was being weird.

I didn't think it was weird that he wanted to bring flowers to her grave and pay his respects. I thought that as nice of him. But to take the picture in the first place and then not just post it on Facebook, but make it his profile picture seemed WAY over the top to me.

I agree.

 

[tlbwriter]

It's either creepy or drama-queeny ("Look! Someone close to me died! Ask me about it!")

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

I have a friend who would do something like that. She had a very traumatic thing happen to her 20 years ago and since then she gets extremely emotional over anything death related.

Even if she has only met a person once, if she finds out they have died/been injured she mourns for them. It is even worse if it is someone she is actually close to. It is just how her PTSD manifests itself.

 

[bamajenn]

I dunno... I agree with what some of you have said but I think there is a difference between posting it as his profile picture and simply posting a picture of it in one of his albums and/or on his wall. It's a little odd as a profile picture to me.

 

[krcit]

It's either creepy or drama-queeny ("Look! Someone close to me died! Ask me about it!")

I know a few people like that.

 

[postage stamp]

It's either creepy or drama-queeny ("Look! Someone close to me died! Ask me about it!")

See I don't think I'd think of it as creepy if they WERE close, but he hadn't seen her or spoken to her for at least 5 years before she died. If her mom or her fiancée had put that picture up I don't think I'd have batted an eyelash. But this was a guy that the extent of their relationship was eating lunch with me in high school. Yeah, they got along, but that was about it. I don't know why but it just gives me the willies.

 

[2binak]

It's either creepy or drama-queeny ("Look! Someone close to me died! Ask me about it!")

I'm going with both - creepy & drama-queeny.

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

It's either creepy or drama-queeny ("Look! Someone close to me died! Ask me about it!")

I was thinking drama queeny.