I'm a HUGE believer in kid-free trips! Honestly, my first kid-free trip, I felt incredibly guilty and actually lied to my youngest (then-8yo) daughter about it initially. I told her I just needed some alone time to chill out (which she totally understood, as we're both major introverts). I told her I was going to the mountains and river for the weekend. It was a half-truth, right?? Splash Mtn, Space Mtn, Big Thunder Mtn, Grizzly Peak, Rivers of America... She said, "You should go to
Disneyland instead. You really, really like Disneyland. You even like it more than I do!" I told her I'd think about it, and then a few days later, I told her I liked her idea, and thought I would do that instead of the mountains. She asked for me to bring her back something (I think it was a sweet treat she requested, haha). I still felt a little guilty, but then remembered something so, so, so, so, SO IMPORTANT:
Our kids need to SEE and KNOW that moms and dads work hard and that taking care of kids is so worth it, but *so* tough, and to be the best mommy/daddy we can be, we need to practice self-care, no matter what that looks like (mostly).
In my opinion, our current parenting generations wouldn't feel so much guilt about taking kid-free times if we had seen this modelled by our parents. I know my mom was 100% about caring for my brother and I and neglected what she needed to recharge. So my kids (even the grown-up ones) know that I go to Disneyland to recharge, and that it's a normal, healthy thing for parents to do. I have shared my initial guilt about it, but then also share how much my mental health depends on it. Okay, off my soapbox.
For those freaking out that I go to Disneyland without my kids-- you can see in my signature that they've been several times, so we aren't refusing to take them. In fact, our youngest daughter (referenced above) has asked that we take her only every few years so it seems "new" each time she goes; we do more adventurous, outdoorsy trips with her, which is totally her happy place. So, we're not depriving her of Disneyland.