Is it wrong to spank your child?

[Pooh Girl 71]

A spanking every once in awhile is not abuse.

I have spanked my daughter. I didn't do it often and the point was loud and clear because it wasn't the normal means of punishment.

 

[Sandy22]

Where's the "I'm laughing so hard I pee'd myself" smilie?

Where's my OMG I have to watch some loony frazzled parent smack her kid again in front of everyone while at Disney, at Walmart, at the restaurant. Whatever

The worst is that you guys are actually PROUD you hit your kids.

 

[Aidensmom]

Where's my OMG I have to watch some loony frazzled parent smack her kid again in front of everyone while at Disney, at Walmart, at the restaurant. Whatever

The worst is that you guys are actually PROUD you hit your kids.

When you put your child in timeout, they refuse to stay, and come over and bite you, how do you handle it?

 

[ktink]

Where's my OMG I have to watch some loony frazzled parent smack her kid again in front of everyone while at Disney, at Walmart, at the restaurant. Whatever

The worst is that you guys are actually PROUD you hit your kids.

Ok, #1 I don't smack my child in public. #2 When they are spanked it is a rare occurance and it is the means that I feel is appropriate. #3 For someone who thinks I need to spend more time with my kids, take a look at my sig. Do you see my kids or my PETS? #4 My family is my TOP priority and I LOVE them and want them to be respectable citizens. #5 There is a difference between beating and a spanking, a HUGE difference.

 

[katerkat]

The worst is that you guys are actually PROUD you hit your kids.

I'm not proud that I'll (eventually) have to punish my child, in ANY way. Life would be a whole lot better if he didn't do anything wrong. Life will be wonderful if he's like his black kitty brother and learns from easier lessons, like "No!" Life will not be fun if he's like his white kitty brother and "No!" means scratch the couch harder. For that cat, the only thing that worked was squirting his butt with a Supersoaker. Only had to do it once and he learned his lesson!

(See, told you the cat analogy was gonna come out!)

 

[Aidensmom]

There is a difference between beating and a spanking, a HUGE difference.

As an abused child, I can tell you this is the absolute truth. Big difference for getting spanked with a hairbrush repeatedly because you accidentally spilled your milk, and getting a swat on the butt with a hand because you refuse to listen and sit in time out.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Do you see my kids or my PETS?

BINGO!!!!!

 

[Sandy22]

Ok, #3 For someone who thinks I need to spend more time with my kids, take a look at my sig. Do you see my kids or my PETS?

EXCUSE ME...but putting your kids picture on the internet is an extremely personal decision. I don't want crazy people, pedophiles, creeps, psychos, stalkers to be ogling my kids!!! For me personally, there is no way I would put my kids at risk like that! Think of it....anyone could now recognize your family and call child protective services because they heard you spank your kids (I'm just giving an example here). Any psycho stalker who fixated on your daughters could come after your family. And what about your daughters' right to privacy...have you asked them if it's ok to show their picture to 60,000+ people? What if someone at school recognizes them and they get teased for something you said on-line. Maybe for being spanked? And you think that exposing your kids to that kind of risk is demonstrating that you're a better parent than I am?

 

[tiggersmom2]

For that cat, the only thing that worked was squirting his butt with a Supersoaker. Only had to do it once and he learned his lesson!

LOL....I wonder if that will work on the two year old with jumping on the bed?!

 

[ktink]

EXCUSE ME...but putting your kids picture on the internet is an extremely personal decision. I don't want crazy people, pedophiles, creeps, psychos, stalkers to be ogling my kids!!! For me personally, there is no way I would put my kids at risk like that! Think of it....anyone could now recognize your family and call child protective services because they heard you spank your kids (I'm just giving an example here). Any psycho stalker who fixated on your daughters could come after your family. And what about your daughters' right to privacy...have you asked them if it's ok to show their picture to 60,000+ people? What if someone at school recognizes them and they get teased for something you said on-line. Maybe for being spanked? And you think that exposing your kids to that kind of risk is demonstrating that you're a better parent than I am?

If I thought my children were in any more danger with their picture being posted on a family friendly website than what they are in everyday life then I wouldn't have done that. And I don't think posting their picture here is any worse than some HOSPITALS that post their new arrivals online. And I do have some friends here in our town that DIS and most of them spank their children when appropriate as well. BTW my kids wanted their pics on here like they've seen in some other PROUD PARENTS signatures.

 

[Charade]

Ok, #1 I don't smack my child in public. #2 When they are spanked it is a rare occurance and it is the means that I feel is appropriate. #3 For someone who thinks I need to spend more time with my kids, take a look at my sig. Do you see my kids or my PETS? #4 My family is my TOP priority and I LOVE them and want them to be respectable citizens. #5 There is a difference between beating and a spanking, a HUGE difference.

WOW!! There's a huge age difference between the first and second!!!

 

[Sandy22]

When you put your child in timeout, they refuse to stay, and come over and bite you, how do you handle it?

How old is he/she?

 

[sunni]

The worst is that you guys are actually PROUD you hit your kids.

Yeah, I even got the t-shirt to prove it

Where's my OMG I have to watch some loony frazzled parent smack her kid again in front of everyone while at Disney, at Walmart, at the restaurant. Whatever

Who said smack? who said in public? The question was about spanking, not about hitting, smacking, slapping, or being verbally abusive. No one should ever spank a child when they are frazzled or in the heat of anger, and I don't think anyone here condones that. The key word in your sentence was "loony"... an abnormal parent, someone that should be an exception to the rule.

BTW, just curious about the ages of your children and if you work outside the home. You mentioned us spankers might need to devote more time to our children. Mine have access to me almost 24/7; I stay at home and we homeschool. You might be surprised to know that my kids are also beautiful and amazing like yours... they are turning out quite well in spite of a few spankings they had here and there in their younger years... amazing isn't it?

 

[ktink]

WOW!! There's a huge age difference between the first and second!!!

Yeah about 24 years.

 

[Aidensmom]

How old is he/she?

He will be 4 next month.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

I think there are children in this world who have temperments that are more likely to be obedient

My DH has a niece who has always been very quiet and has done everything her parents told her - without a single question

then there are children who have a little more sassiness in them (my Julia and Nick are those children) we always said we wanted kids with spunk - we are both very outgoing and I don't think we would have known what to do with a shy child

my kids question everything I tell them (Nicks pic in my signature is from when I told him to take his finger out of his mouth so I could take his picture - instead he put all 10 in) - I have to logically explain everything - sometimes logic just doesn't work and for the well being of my child - I have to swat them - I don't think there is a parent on here who would say they find joy in spanking their child

I am often told how devoted I am to my kids and how pleasant they are and what a delight they are to have around -

I don't think the fact that I have spanked my child makes me any less of a parent nor does not having their pic in a siggie does -

the problem here is judging others for their belief on spanking

 

[WebmasterAlex]

I think if you are doing it because you are angry/frustrated/at wits end and you hit your child out of your own frutration that's wrong

I think if you are in control and you are doing it because the child is out of control and you believe that this is the right way to handle it then it is ok

Like many things in life sometimes the "why" does matter

 

[sunni]

Like many things in life sometimes the "why" does matter

ITA

 

[ktink]

I think there are children in this world who have temperments that are more likely to be obedient

My DH has a niece who has always been very quiet and has done everything her parents told her - without a single question

then there are children who have a little more sassiness in them (my Julia and Nick are those children) we always said we wanted kids with spunk - we are both very outgoing and I don't think we would have known what to do with a shy child

my kids question everything I tell them (Nicks pic in my signature is from when I told him to take his finger out of his mouth so I could take his picture - instead he put all 10 in) - I have to logically explain everything - sometimes logic just doesn't work and for the well being of my child - I have to swat them - I don't think there is a parent on here who would say they find joy in spanking their child

I am often told how devoted I am to my kids and how pleasant they are and what a delight they are to have around -

I don't think the fact that I have spanked my child makes me any less of a parent nor does not having their pic in a siggie does -

the problem here is judging others for their belief on spanking

My youngest sounds like your Nick. And I have never been accused of being anything but a great mother. I'm proud of my parenting skills and I've learned alot from my beautiful girls. They provide fullfillment to my life as well as DH. And I don't think a spanking every once in awhile takes away from that. There are times when we have talked to our girls about things that could harm them and they pay no attention, so as a means of last resort they are spanked. And if anyone wanted to call child protective services as Sandy22 "suggested" in her reply, I say go for it. They would find that my children are provided with all the love and support that a child could ask for and nothing more.

 

[Sandy22]

some other PROUD PARENTS signatures.

Give me a break....have you even looked below the dogs? I do happen to do some parental bragging in my siggie. Not sure how relevant what we put in our siggies is to spanking though. Different parenting styles I guess.