Is it wrong to not invite everyone?

[My5Mouseketeers]

I have 5 kids and a big sign in my dining room that says:

"FAIR" means each child gets what they need, not that everyone does everything the same way.

It is a major theme in my household. I know your niece does not "need" to go to Disney, but it isn't "fair" that someone shouldn't get to do something special because everyone can't do it.

It is your gift to give and the parents job to teach their children that life doesn't play out the same way for everyone.

Just my .02 cents

 

[cindymouse6]

what a great sentiment! Exactly what I was trying to express in such few words! That's why I'm not a songwriter!

 

[Coach81]

Tough call... you may get some feathers ruffled with this one...

 

[ILuvTigger]

I'm laughing and shocked at how offended everyone seems to be.. and off topic.. so I'll stay on topic. I own the timeshare and bring my step sis, her kid and stepmom with my family... stepmom always pays for stepsis passes, food, everything and never gives me a dime and I am paying for the room... and my kids sleep on the floor and couch to make room for them....

is that fair? no, and I have stopped inviting them this past year... life isn't fair, but this is your gift to give... give it with the spirit you initially had when deciding to invite her.... I have brought all 3 of my kids at 6weeks old to WDW (during the end of maternity leave) and I have to say, it is a different experience and I loved it.... you will get to experience it as well. You realize WDW it is not all about rides and character breakfasts... sometimes it's about relaxing in a beautiful park or by a beautiful pool and just breathing clean air and celebrating a new life... creating dreams for one day .... you will not be encouraging anyone to "have a baby" to get to go to WDW... but I bet you'll give them a gift they want one day that fits their needs at the time... and needs are different and gifts are different.

Do what you want... give what you want to give and the rest of the family has to get over it.... there will be pangs of jealousy, but they'll get jealous over other things like Xmas presents as well. And the husband is probably glad that his wife and newborn will have a chance to do something they probably would never have been able to do and wishes he could join but can't. Mom will come home more relaxed and enjoyable I bet... stop trying to keep everything perfectly even... life isn't that way...

enjoy giving your gift!

I totally agree!

I have the same problem, we are going to SSR in Feb. It will be, dh, ds (15), dd (16) and I. We are driving this time and have room for 1 more person, so we decided to take our godson (3 yo), we have a total of 19 neices and nephews, and among them both of us are godparents to 2 of them (3 yo godson, and 5 yo goddaughter). We know it will stir up something, but we will never be able to take all of them at the same time.....yes some feelings will be hurt, but what can you do?? You can't please everyone all of the time....to be honest, only one sibling will be mad....she thinks everything is owed to her....she is the only one that has her children ask us when we are taking them....I can't stand that.....

 

[RumpleMom]

I don't think it is a good idea to separate mom, dad and baby for a Disney trip. They are a young family that needs to build strong bonds together, whether traveling or staying at home.

 

[winnapooh]

We kinda ran into this issue with our family. We've taken members of my family, but haven't taken anyone from DH's family. We recently asked if they (DH"s family) would be interested in a family trip where we would cover the room and they would have to pay for tickets, food, and transportation (though we'd help them get the best deals) (same deal as we had with my family). The only people that were remotely interested were those that have their own Orlando timeshare. So we figure that covers us...we asked, they said no. However, we are taking DH's nephew this spring. He's the oldest of 3 boys (he's 8), but we aren't taking the other two. One is on the Autism spectrum, and the other, well, it will be a few years before we'd even consider (I"ll leave it at that!) And there's a chance we will never take the other two ourselves. I'm confident that somewhere down the road, the parents will hint at us taking them, but we have our reasons for not, and for taking the oldest one. Down the road, however, we may again offer to put the entire family up in a room.

My point is that either you could take the suggestions of others and say that this time is the neices and babies turn, and the others will come later (maybe 9th birthday and a graduation present for the older one or something like that). This is a baby gift from you, there's nothing wrong with that. As far as the neices husband, you may want to say that if he were to come along you could only pay for half of their trip...however, you may find out that he has no interest in going anyways! Luckily, that happened with most of our family

Like a pp said, it's your timeshare; you aren't obligated to take anyone. So you should do it on your own terms. You may want to lay those terms out before you ask the neice, but you paid for the points!