Is it weird my son wants to do BBB as a princess?

[Jey12]

Why is it that Christian opinions always draw hateful comments from people who talk of being tolerant?

I haven't on this board either, I think the mods do a great job here. However, that hasn't been the case on other boards.

I also have not seen that on this board and I lurk and post from time to time. Why even ask that question and bait or stir the pot? So far I think everyone on this thread has been respectful and just agreed to disagree to an extent. You gave a valid opinion and your reasoning to back it up. Your reasons and opinion I respect, even if I do not agree. Why keep reaching and ask about hateful responses?

I would be more than happy to share my opinion on why sometimes religious reasoning draws a more heated discussion but I believe that is something that is not encouraged on these boards, and just like your opinion I also respect the rules and guidelines of the site I am posting on.

 

[saxman]

I also have not seen that on this board and I lurk and post from time to time. Why even ask that question and bait or stir the pot? So far I think everyone on this thread has been respectful and just agreed to disagree to an extent. You gave a valid opinion and your reasoning to back it up. Your reasons and opinion I respect, even if I do not agree. Why keep reaching and ask about hateful responses?

I would be more than happy to share my opinion on why sometimes religious reasoning draws a more heated discussion but I believe that is something that is not encouraged on these boards, and just like your opinion I also respect the rules and guidelines of the site I am posting on.

I may have jumped the gun when expecting the hateful comments, maybe I didn't give the posters on this board enough credit. I has just been my experience that when I base my opinion on my faith that hate usually follows.

Also I am not attemting to stir the pot anymore than is already has; the fact that we are on the 20th page of posts says that its already been stirring.

I just wanted to explain my reasoning and needed to back up my statements with scripture. This is my last post here(I don't want to stir anymore) and again I encourage the OP to live their own life and make thier own decision. I may disagree with you but I respect you.

 

[Eeyore98]

Wow, this thread has exploded since I was last here!

um...so being a woman is 'downward mobility'???

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why are we so hung up on what a person wears? why is it ok for women to wear flannel shirts, jeans and work boots? why is it SEXY when a woman wears a man's shirt? Why is it taboo for a man to wear lacy lingerie even if no one ever sees it.

Pbrim was not saying she personally believes that being a woman is "downward mobility". Rather she was pointing out that such a sentiment is the unspoken undercurrent in our society of why it's ok for girls/women to do stereotypically masculine things, but NOT considered ok for men/boys to do stereotypically feminine things. Anything feminine is considered "less than". Girls wanting to play with Legos? Hey, cool. Boys wanting to play with dolls? Uh...not so much. Women in flannel and work boots? Sure thing. A man in a lacy bra that no one can even see under his shirt? Oh, he must be a freak!

This is also part of why lesbians are more acceptable to straight society than gay men, especially when they are a little more "fabulous". Oh, no, the horror of a feminine man!

These are the social ramifications stemming from a very ugly little core of bigotry against women in general and femininity specifically.

The way people have been going on about this in the thread so far, you'd think the kid is aware that other people are not somehow extensions of himself and understands that a certain amount of water stays the same amount even when poured into two differently-shaped glasses.

Hooray for developmental psych nerdery!

 

[DISNEYSIX]

Has anyone else had this experience with their little boys? I am an open minded mom and would possibly let him but I don't want him to be made fun of. I know, I would be taking my chances-lol. Help!

Our 3 yo son and 4 yo daughter came into our bedroom a while back wearing our DD11's old princess dresses and shoes and we thought it was cute. Why don't you photoshop your DS' face in a photo of a little girl dressed as a princess and hopefully he will see how out of place he would look in public and change his mind (or maybe not)?

 

[GrumpyDad1974]

I know it's PC to say yes but NO WAY would my son be allowed too...

 

[jackieinJuneau]

I think its fine, it really depends on your personal beliefs as we have seen in earlier posts. I would use it as a teachable moment to talk to your son about the possibility of other people treating him differently if he is dressed as a little girl. I am guessing that part of your fear of letting him do this is that he will be treated badly by people who believe that its wrong. And that is a possibility, I was a nonconformist kind of kid even when I was young and did get negative responses form both kids and adults. But because I had a supportive mom that explained to me in age appropriate ways that I was loved and supported and that we did not share the beliefs of the people who where negative, I always felt good about myself and true to myself. Only now do I know how much courage that took my mother, because of those experiences I am a kinder person who has always been more sensitive to people who are "different".

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

So, my 4 year old wants to do BBB and dress up as Cinderella. I have offered Prince Charming or another character costume but he keeps saying he wants to be Cinderella. He has done the Pirate League 2x this past year and doesn't want to do it again. Has anyone else had this experience with their little boys? I am an open minded mom and would possibly let him but I don't want him to be made fun of. I know, I would be taking my chances-lol. Help!

It is not wierd in the least for a 4 year old, not wise in the ways of society, sexual roles, or sex, to want to play dress up. That's all it is to him. Dress up. Nothing more. It's a tough decision for you. On the one hand, you want to teach him to be creative and independent. On the other, there could be some blow back. But with him being only 4, I would think most of it would come your way, not his. And I doubt he'd care if he's mistaken for a girl. I won't presume to tell you what to do. Good luck and have fun at Disney.

 

[Magpie]

I gave my opinion and then gave the reason why I feel this way. If you are not a Christian poster you wouldn't understand why I mentioned the hatred from "tolerant" people. I know from past experience that when a poster uses Christianity or the Bible as reasons for opinions, that there is usually hate from non-christians that follows.

It's not particularly Christian, however, to ASSUME the worst of people, before they even have a chance to offend you.

The correct, and Christian, way to phrase your post would have been, "My religious beliefs, as a Christian man, prevent me from allowing my son to wear girl's clothes, under any circumstances. I don't want to violate the board rules about discussing religion in this thread, so if anyone would like me to explain, please feel free to PM me."

By being so defensive and randomly accusatory, you may have just missed an opportunity to witness to someone.

(And by the way, Christians can be tolerant, too. Christianity is not a synonym for intolerance - at least, not everywhere.)

 

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[mickeem]

Sheesh.. He's Only 4.. Let the kid be a kid, and dress up how he wants... if you as an adult are going to make fun of a 4 year old, then its you who needs the help..
Don't worry about what some other family is doing, go over and ride Space Mountain..

he's gonna have the costume off in an hour anyway, so what the heck...

 

[TLinden16]

Since religious discussions are against DIS guidelines, and this has turned into a religous debate, I'm going to close this thread now.