Is it the MOM in me or am I right? Long Rant!

[pirateofthecarolinas]

I feel your pain. It wouldn't have killed her to include your son.

I also had to leave a library this week because of my 2 year old. He was rolling on the floor right beside me while I was looking at books. No one was even remotely near us. He was quiet. The library was practically empty.

The librarian felt that she had to come across the room to tell me to get him up because he might get stepped on. I picked him up. He is a wiggle worm and heavy so I put him back down. He started for the floor again and was silent. She came back over and told me again. I picked him up and left. She yelled at me, "I hope I didn't run you off!" Yeah, right. I truly feel that we weren't disturbing anyone and she makes me not to want to bring my son ever again to that library. (Flame away, I don't care!)

Lori

 

[momof2inPA]

I think the librarian was just being mean and should have let the 2 year old have some ice cream. How silly to stick to the rules so ardently when hardly anyone had shown up for the reading time. At this point, I would just let it go.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

Well apparently I was not the only one who thought her behavior was rude. A coworker of hers apparently reported her to the board. There is a message on my machince from the head librarian asking me to phone her.

To those who understood what I was talking about thanks. Well for the others, just let me clarify in no way did I ever feel a sense of entitlement, I would nver have asked, save for the fact that there were only two other kids in the room with one also being underage! This was not a story time nor a craft session, but just an ice cream party. I feel I acted appropriately and with decorum. It may not have come across that way but I did. For the record, there were 4 kids that attended the party, 2 seven year olds, 1 three year old and 1 four year old. I beleive in rules, but that they should be followed for all.

Its easy for those who say that my son should just have sucked it up as a life lesson. Gimme a break!

Also found out that this is a hot topic on another board Glad to give people something to talk about.
Talk about needing a life.

 

[Bojangles]

Originally posted by MOMTOMOOTOO
Glad to give people something to talk about.
Talk about needing a life.

Well, you could come up with something to do other than reporting a librarian for not giving your child ice cream. What if she gets fired? Would you want to lose your JOB over someone getting pissed off over a dish of ice cream?

Since when does referring to someone as "Pussface" consitute acting appropriately and with decorum? FWIW, I get pretty sick and tired of parents who think they should be able to include uninvited younger siblings in everything.

 

[Dakota_Lynn]

Originally posted by Bojangles
What if she gets fired? Would you want to lose your JOB over someone getting pissed off over a dish of ice cream?

I feel very strongly that Bojangles has made a very important point.

I worked several service jobs while attending college. In every job I EVER worked, some snippy person would expect me to break the rules for him or her...rules that I could have been fired for breaking....and threatened to tell management if I refused. As a kid, I always felt between a rock and a hard place. You either break the rule and risk getting fired, or you let the customer complain to management and risk getting fired.

An example: I worked at a jewelry counter in a department store. We sold gold neckchains and a rule was that we could only take one out of the show case at a time. A woman wanted to compare several chains on top of the counter and I told her I couldn't do that. She argued with me for 10 minutes and then threatened to talk to the manager. Being 17, I went ahead and gave her what she wanted. Security saw the whole thing, and as bad as he felt (he could see the pressure I was under), he had to write me up. This woman HAD HAD HAD to have her way, and badgered a 17 year old until she got her way. She didn't purchase anything and I got in trouble for it. But she got her way, and that was by far the most important thing to her. I feld damned no matter what choice I would have made because she would have pitched a fit to management had I NOT given her way and for all I knew at that age, I could have been written up for allowing a customer to get so angry. Now that I'm older, I know management would have supported my decision had I enforced the rule, but at the time I just didn't know what to do! I'm 34 and still remember that incident like it was yesterday. I learned a very valuable lesson: When you work for somebody, you MUST abide by the rules, even if snarky customers pitch a fit. Perhaps a rude customer had previously taught that poor librarian the same lesson and now she's watching her own skin. The wants of a two year old child probably isn't worth getting written up to that librarian.

 

[Kimberle]

Originally posted by Bojangles
Well, you could come up with something to do other than reporting a librarian for not giving your child ice cream. What if she gets fired? Would you want to lose your JOB over someone getting pissed off over a dish of ice cream?

Amen.

 

[Disney Doll]

The sense of entitlement people feel these days about everything drives me crazy!

Your youngest was not part of the group, therefore should not have been included int he group. I don't care what other people were doing.

BTW, a 3 year old is certainly old enough to understand "no this is a group for your older sister". I don't blame you for not wanting to leave the older children in the library without you there, but what did you do for the other weeks that they were attending the group, and you didn't want to leave them, and you had the 3 year old with you, when there was no ice cream being offered?

No...a word children hear MUCH, MUCH, MUCH too infrequently these days.

 

[Tea Please]

Originally posted by Disney Doll
BTW, a 3 year old is certainly old enough to understand "no this is a group for your older sister". .

I wish I had your secret when my kids were three. There would be no way that they would have understood that their sisters and friends could have some ice cream but they could not You are really lucky to be raising such delightful, well mannered, understanding children. Kudos to you and your husband.

As to the OP, you did the best you could. I do not feel you had an entitlement issue going on here. I actually feel bad for the little one. What was the big deal?

 

[poohandwendy]

I totally hear you Disney Doll.

What I don't undertstand is that a question was asked and was answered, the answer was no. That response is always a possibility when you ask a question.

If parents think the word ''No'' is unacceptable, how on earth are the kids supposed to learn that sometimes you just have to live with NO? Large or small issue, justifiable or unfair, life doesn't always go our way. These lessons are what we are teaching our children every single day. That is why they have parents.

If hearing 'no' is going to cause a huge problem, why take that chance to begin with?