Is it rude to not stay in the room when a "guest" is not there to see you?

[Papa Deuce]

If someone comes specifically to see people in your family - but DEFINITELY not you - is it rude to go to another room to continue what you were doing? ( This is a social call by the guest )

 

[pyrxtc]

no, If they are not there to see you then why would they want you listening in on their conversation ??

 

[pandora174]

No I do that all the time. BIL comes to visit, usually to see DS or talk "car", "electronic" stuff with DH. I would be bored to tears listening to them go on & on about car parts, stereos, computers so I usually do laundry, go to the bedroom watch tv etc. I've known BIL since I was 16 so I don't think it's rude. My SIL does the same too when DH goes over

 

[Papa Deuce]

no, If they are not there to see you then why would they want you listening in on their conversation ??

Well, in this case it was a family member, so who knows? My wife thought I should have stayed around. Not a big deal, but she did mention it.

 

[Just Jan]

Not at all rude. They are visiting the other person. Say hello and a pleasantry and leave.
Now, If you definatley do not like eache othe just leave and mumble under your breath LOL

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

Absolutely not...my parents each have their own friends and while neither one dislikes any of the other's friends, they would not stay in the same room - particularly since the friends usually stay a long time when they come over.

 

[Keli]

If it's family then I think you need to put in a few minutes to be polite but otherwise no.
I make my dh hang around a few minutes and shoot the breeze when my family is around even though they are visiting with me and I do the same with his family.
But when it's someone who is just my friend or just his friend then no, no hanging around is required.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Depends on the guest.

If dh's friends drop by or my family, it is polite to make an appearance and say hi. After that you are free to go.

If it was his side of the family I would be obligated to stay around and chat. We do not see them as much so it would be rude to them.

 

[KristaTX]

Depends on who it is and the situation.

Someone we both know equally who is just stopping by to chat and visit for a little while? Yeah, I'd most likely want my husband to hang around.

Someone who is awkward, who I may or may not even want to see, or who I don't want to be alone with for whatever reason? Yeah, I'd like my husband to know my feelings and the situation well enough to not leave me alone. This situation doesn't happen very often, but could. If it does, it's usually someone we both know equally, so we're both stuck .

One of primarily my friends who is just stopping by to visit? Or someone here for a specific task or project involving me but not him? Nope. He can greet the person and then go wander off to do his own thing.

 

[EthansMom]

On the one hand, no, I don't expect DH to stick around in exactly the same room when I'm talking to a guest.

On the other hand, if the guest was a family member of DH's and he took off, leaving me to entertain his family alone for an extended period of time, I wouldn't be happy about it.

That actually happened one day... DH's family members (who live nearby) were over for a visit. DH went down to the basement to toodle with his stuff without saying anything, basically abandoning me to deal with his family on my own. Turns out his family was driving DH nuts. I gave him what for later.

 

[C.Ann]

I live with my DD and her family 5 months out of the year.. DD's IL's are there several times a day - every day.. Other people also drop by to visit with my DD, her DH, or both.. I always say, "Hello.. How are you?" - that sort of thing - and then retreat to my bedroom or downstairs to my scrapbook room..

I don't know if these people think it's rude, but since they aren't there to specifically visit me, I just don't see the need to hang around..

 

[JR6ooo4]

depends on the frequency of visits and the length of travel endured to create the visit.

Also it depends on if they brought a gift?

Mikeeee

 

[Ember]

I said it was rude, but I think I mis-read the question. I thought you meant was it rude to leave before the person the guest was there to see came into the room. You know, Aunt Mary is there to see Wife, Husband answers the door and chit chats for a few minutes while Wife finishes up in the kitchen type thing. If you show someone into the house and abandon them I think that's a little rude. It doesn't take much effort to say a few words while they're waiting. But once the person they came to see is there then by all means, go back to what you were doing.

 

[sbell111]

Well, in this case it was a family member, so who knows? My wife thought I should have stayed around. Not a big deal, but she did mention it.

I've had the same conversation with my wife, and I will again.

 

[Liberty Belle]

If it's a family member, then, yes I think it's a bit rude. If you stay a length of time (at least ten minutes), then excuse yourself to go do something you need to get done, I think that's ok.

 

[LuvOrlando]

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