IS IT REALLY SO HARD TO TEACH YOUR KID HOW TO BEHAVE IN A RESTAURANT?

[lustergirl]

What do you do if they scream at the top of their lungs? Put your hand over their mouth? If they writhe and kick and scream with tremendous force and determination? Sit here and pin them down with both you and your husbands hands? Getting hurt in the process and possibly hurting your child in the process? Do other patrons want to see and hear this?

And then after doing all that what is you had to repeat for over 30 restraunt visits in a row?

A tap on the but might work You are the parent, not the other way around. Never in a million years would I let my child act this way. But then again I am old school.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

Brat is a word not used??? since when?

Sadly, people treat it like it is a curse word. I was called "childish" on this very thread for using it.

These days, we are supposed to call brats "spirited"

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

I would always cringe a little inside whenever my wife and I received compliments on how our children behaved in public. I'd think, "you haven't seen what they're capable of, and if you had, you certainly wouldn't be saying that".

 

[Lilacs4Me]

A tap on the but might work You are the parent, not the other way around. Never in a million years would I let my child act this way. But then again I am old school.

Haha, if my kid was screaming, they would get a smack on the mouth and told "NO! Nobody wants to hear you scream". If they were wriggling around and wouldn't stop, a smack on the butt and a "I said, sit still!" always worked, at least until the learned the "I swear, kid, if you embarrass me for One More Second in this restaurant..." death stare. If neither of these things worked, we would be away from the table and into the bathroom or car in a heartbeat, and trust be, it wouldn't be a pleasant "this is rewarding the behavior because this is what my kid wanted in the first place" kind of moment. My kids learned early on that they had two choices - to behave within the parameters of what their age group could reasonably be expected to handle, or face the wrath of a very cranky mommy. I decided from the start that I wasn't interested in being the good guy or the friend, and being the mean mom who expected her kids to behave was perfectly acceptable. There was never any walking the kid around the lobby of the restaurant or letting them run around outside to blow off energy. It was a choice of either sit and behave or you won't like the alternative.

Somehow, my kids have grown up to be the kind of kids that people enjoy being around. Most of the time....LOL

**as always, here is the call out that my kids are not special needs and very capable of behaving themselves while we eat, no matter where it happens to be.

 

[Christine]

Haha, if my kid was screaming, they would get a smack on the mouth and told "NO! Nobody wants to hear you scream". If they were wriggling around and wouldn't stop, a smack on the butt and a "I said, sit still!" always worked, at least until the learned the "I swear, kid, if you embarrass me for One More Second in this restaurant..." death stare. If neither of these things worked, we would be away from the table and into the bathroom or car in a heartbeat, and trust be, it wouldn't be a pleasant "this is rewarding the behavior because this is what my kid wanted in the first place" kind of moment. My kids learned early on that they had two choices - to behave within the parameters of what their age group could reasonably be expected to handle, or face the wrath of a very cranky mommy. I decided from the start that I wasn't interested in being the good guy or the friend, and being the mean mom who expected her kids to behave was perfectly acceptable. There was never any walking the kid around the lobby of the restaurant or letting them run around outside to blow off energy. It was a choice of either sit and behave or you won't like the alternative.

Somehow, my kids have grown up to be the kind of kids that people enjoy being around. Most of the time....LOL

**as always, here is the call out that my kids are not special needs and very capable of behaving themselves while we eat, no matter where it happens to be.

Not that I would care but most parents today will not smack their kids in the mouth or on the butt in public for fear of do-gooders calling CPS on them in the middle of a restaurant.

Have you ever been on a smacking/spanking thread on the DIS? Ugly. Makes anyone afraid physically disciplining a child. So, while many parents of kids who act up might be inclined to agree with you, most will not actually go through with that in public.

 

[Christine]

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[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Not that I would care but most parents today will not smack their kids in the mouth or on the butt in public for fear of do-gooders calling CPS on them in the middle of a restaurant.

Have you ever been on a smacking/spanking thread on the DIS? Ugly. Makes anyone afraid physically disciplining a child. So, while many parents of kids who act up might be inclined to agree with you, most will not actually go through with that in public.

My siblings and I would certainly be in foster homes in this day and age when I think about the parenting and discipline my parents did back when I was growing up. Heck, they'd probably be behind bars and that's pretty depressing all things considered.

 

[FairestOfThemAll37]

Not that I would care but most parents today will not smack their kids in the mouth or on the butt in public for fear of do-gooders calling CPS on them in the middle of a restaurant.

Have you ever been on a smacking/spanking thread on the DIS? Ugly. Makes anyone afraid physically disciplining a child. So, while many parents of kids who act up might be inclined to agree with you, most will not actually go through with that in public.

Yeah, I'm not going to call CPS but I admit that I just don't get the whole smacking children thing.

If you hit an adult it's assault, but if you hit a minor it's "discipline." I don't really understand how it teaches anything but violence and fear.

Adults get loud and rowdy all the time. Adults will yell at one another and not do things they're supposed to do. Would you support every time an adult yelled in public taking them out and having somebody belt them a few times? How about a good paddling for missing a loan payment? You wife/husband/friend starts screaming at you? Go ahead and give them a smack across the mouth and tell the "I said quiet."

I just personally think there are far better ways to reach obedience and earn respect as a parent than beating a child into submission.

It's always seemed a bit lazy to me. It's super easy to just hit somebody until they change their behavior.

 

[Christine]

Yeah, I'm not going to call CPS but I admit that I just don't get the whole smacking children thing.

If you hit an adult it's assault, but if you hit a minor it's "discipline." I don't really understand how it teaches anything but violence and fear.

Adults get loud and rowdy all the time. Adults will yell at one another and not do things they're supposed to do. Would you support every time an adult yelled in public taking them out and having somebody belt them a few times? How about a good paddling for missing a loan payment? You wife/husband/friend starts screaming at you? Go ahead and give them a smack across the mouth and tell the "I said quiet."

I just personally think there are far better ways to reach obedience and earn respect as a parent than beating a child into submission.

And here begins the spanking/smacking debate.

 

[Maxpowers]

This is why we stopped going to Chef Mickey's

Are you complaining about there being loud kids at a restaurant in WDW that caters to families/children and literally has real life representations of cartoons come out to meet them? Surely you can't be serious? I mean it's described as "a lively, all-you-care-to-eat buffet in a bright, happy space" on Disney's website.

For the record, I do not condone the behavior described by the OP. If you child starts banging on plates with silverware you stop them, if they won't stop you take the silverware away, if they freak our from taking the silverware away you take them outside until they calm down. My 2 year old does not do well with silverware and plates and thus we never let her have any within her reach...bring your own plastic versions.

 

[FairestOfThemAll37]

And here begins the spanking/smacking debate.

Hey, the door was opened when the PP made the comment about how a couple of good smacks (and more to follow when ignored) is the end all cure all for ill behaved children.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

You know, a couple of well placed smacks could result in loss of consciousness, so they aren't completely wrong.






I kid, I kid...

 

[Christine]

Hey, the door was opened when the PP made the comment about how a couple of good smacks (and more to follow when ignored) is the end all cure all for ill behaved children.

Absolutely! And then I made the remark "have you ever been on a DIS spanking debate?" You then fell right in with your views on smacks/spanking, etc. Oh, and I am typing this with a smile on my face. I find it pretty funny and predictable for the DIS. I just saw that one coming like a freight train, yet it happened even faster than I would have imagined.

 

[Kimberlyann11]

Hey, the door was opened when the PP made the comment about how a couple of good smacks (and more to follow when ignored) is the end all cure all for ill behaved children.

But only that view is allowed to be expressed. The other view is considered "predictable". Oh, and "funny" too.

 

[Christine]

But only that view is allowed to be expressed. The other view is considered "predictable". Oh, and "funny" too.

Don't be sensitive. The "view" is not predictable or funny, it is the quick jump to a spanking debate that was predictable and funny. If people want to discuss, there should be a spinoff thread made and not turn this thread into a historically hot DIS topic. I can tell you from past history that the "no spanking" view is the prevailing view on the DIS and it's most certainly tolerated, accepted, allowed, and celebrated.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Don't be sensitive. The "view" is not predictable or funny, it is the quick jump to a spanking debate that was predictable and funny. If people want to discuss, there should be a spinoff thread made and not turn this thread into a historically hot DIS topic. I can tell you from past history that the "no spanking" view is the prevailing view on the DIS and it's most certainly tolerated, accepted, allowed, and celebrated.

I'm wearing a party hat to the next one!

 

[Christine]

I'm wearing a party hat to the next one!

You should, they are great fun! They rival the breastfeeding threads and the "boys in the ladies room." We actually haven't had one in a good, long while.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

You should, they are great fun! They rival the breastfeeding threads and the "boys in the ladies room." We actually haven't had one in a good, long while.

Now you're just tempting me to start one, aren't you?

Some subjects just never disappoint, that's for sure.

 

[Lisaloo]

Peanuts on airplanes!

 

[Kimberlyann11]

Don't be sensitive. The "view" is not predictable or funny, it is the quick jump to a spanking debate that was predictable and funny. If people want to discuss, there should be a spinoff thread made and not turn this thread into a historically hot DIS topic. I can tell you from past history that the "no spanking" view is the prevailing view on the DIS and it's most certainly tolerated, accepted, allowed, and celebrated.

First time in a long, long time I am accused of being sensitive. But whatever. The poster you quoted isn't the one who opened the door. Maybe you needed to reprimand the folks who brought it up in the first place.