Is it me? I'm annoyed...

[Poohgirl]

If your child has a step-parent, would you be bothered if the school called the step-parent (only) when there was an issue with your child at school? I can see if they can't reach me (or Dad) and THEN they call the step, or even call both of us, but just calling her and her having to call the bio-parents just rubs me. Am I wrong?

 

[Master Mason]

The school will call down the list until they get to the first person that answers the phone, they are not going to make multiple calls. If you don't want the step parent getting the calls then take them off the call sheet is your only real answer.

 

[Stacerita]

Like the previous posted said, they will call who is on the list. If you don't want them calling, take step parent off the list.

It wouldn't bother me though as long as my child was being taken care of.

 

[MichelleVW]

If your child has a step-parent, would you be bothered if the school called the step-parent (only) when there was an issue with your child at school? I can see if they can't reach me (or Dad) and THEN they call the step, or even call both of us, but just calling her and her having to call the bio-parents just rubs me. Am I wrong?

I guess if my kids had a Step Mom and the school called her it might bother me. The girls live with me and their Step Dad and if the school calls they talk to whoever answers the phone.

 

[sunnyday123]

If the school doesn't bother calling you or the father first, I totally agree with you. I can't think of any reason why they would call the step-parent. If there is a medical emergency I don't think a step can even give authorization for treatment, can they?

 

[Poohgirl]

Don't get me wrong, I want whomever to make sure the call is addressed. I just think me or Dad (in this case me preferably since I am the custodial parent), to at least TRIED to be called first. The first call they make is to her.

Yes I have requested they call me but she is very vocal with my son (special needs) and the school and they just keep calling her first. (For the record we all get along fine.)

 

[kim929]

I have had this problem. I was not a happy camper. they just dialed the first number that stuck out. ( this women hates me, never met her, never said 2 words to her, she's afraid I'm going to want him back ewww) They didn't call me or ex. I went to the school the next day and took her off the list.

 

[NikiM20]

Don't get me wrong, I want whomever to make sure the call is addressed. I just think me or Dad (in this case me preferably since I am the custodial parent), to at least TRIED to be called first. The first call they make is to her.

Yes I have requested they call me but she is very vocal with my son (special needs) and the school and they just keep calling her first. (For the record we all get along fine.)

Bolding Mine

They call her because she has a relationship with them (not saying you dont). Ask them not to call her first

 

[Poohgirl]

Bolding Mine

They call her because she has a relationship with them (not saying you dont). Ask them not to call her first

That is correct. The three of us all attend the same meetings for my son so yes they know me too, she is more "in your face pushy" then I am. I have requested they call me. I just find it strange and very frustrating.

Now I need to draft a calm yet to the point email to the guidance councilor asking again.