Not flaming, but how are you getting five kids through college? We have two very good incomes - and saving for TWO to go through college was a challenge, I can't imagine five.
And for us, vacations are a luxury, but college tuition wasn't - I don't want my kids graduating with $40k in debt. With two very good incomes, we knew there wasn't a snowball's chance they'd see a penny in aid.
The kids are: 24 (mine from previous marriage), 22 (mine from previous marriage), significant other of the 22 yo- he's like our own- our three year old even calls him "his brother", 19 (stepdaughter), 16 (stepdaughter), 3 (ours)
24 yo- started at a jr college, lived at home, earned his associates. transferred to a big university but has a job as a waiter/bartender to help with tuition and expenses. Between his dad, grandparents and my husband and I he has a lot of his expenses taken care of. He will graduate with some loans, but not a lot. I am not opposed to helping him pay them until he gets his feet under him. With the amount that he has I might even be able to just pay them off.
22 yo- started at a jr college, lived with friends, worked and earned her associates. Is now at a large university. She is paying as she goes now. Her dad and grandparents help her financially quite a bit.
19 yo- is at a jr college now. She is under her mom for her financial aid so she qualifies for grants that my biological kids do not. She also has scholarships. So far she's free of any debt. It's been a good thing that she has grants because she hasn't had the work ethic like the older three. If she didn't have grants either she'd be deeply in debt or her dad and I would be footing the bill for everything.
22 yo SO- he started at the same jr college as the 22 yo and lived at home. He qualifies for grants as well.
16 yo will fall under her mom's income to be eligible for grants. I am hoping that she does as the others and gets her associates at a jr college and minimizes her debt.
I figure that by the time the 3 yo gets to be college age we'll be done with the others and we'll be able to afford Harvard. lol
We've bought the others' vehicles, paid car insurance, cell phones, food, gas money, spending money etc etc. By the time we get the 16 yo self sufficient we'll be living the high life with the money we're able to hold onto.
It's taken a village, to answer your question directly. We handle each semester as it comes up. The 22 yo and her SO still have many many years of school left. I'm not sure how we will handle that to be honest. I know I'm good for one bachelor's degree but beyond that I'm not sure how I feel. I'll help however I can for sure. Again, we'll handle it semester by semester. If they both are going on to be doctors that's going to get costly.... we'll figure it out as we go I guess.