Is dancing with someone numerous times considered cheating?

[disneysnowflake]

A relative of mine went to a Halloween party on Friday night. She went with friends. Her husband of 20 years didn't want to go because dressing up and seeing people dressed up is just stupid in his eyes.

This relative danced with a bunch of people. There was a band. This relative danced with one man about 6 times during this dance. Most were fast dances and 2 slow dances.

Last night someone told the husband they saw his wife slow dancing all night with a man.

Now the husband is telling everyone the wife cheated on him. He threw all her belongings out onto the lawn, kicked her out, etc.

They both spend a lot of time at this bar, but most of the guys there are siding with the husband claiming it's cheating if you slow dance with the same guy more than once. But it's not cheating to have a lap dance at a strip club.

This relative claims it was no big deal. She went to the party and came home. Nothing else happened. The husband got friends involved, etc. It was so bad at that bar last night people had fist fights over this, etc. I guess I have a boring life because I stayed home and watched Little People, Big World again.

So, is it considered cheating to you if your spouse danced with the same person several times at a Halloween party??

 

[Poohlovr]

Nope. If hubby didn't want her dancing with someone else, maybe he should have gone with her. Some people.

 

[autumnbaby9]

This is something ever couple needs to decide for themselves. In my oppinion she did nothing wrong, especially if he is allowed to get lap dances at a strip joint.

 

[MushyMushy]

Sounds like she's much better off without him!

 

[Cool-Beans]

Well, if the "regular" boys down at the bar say it is, what more do you want?! Drunks are well known for their propriety and good taste.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Well, if the "regular" boys down at the bar say it is, what more do you want?! Drunks are well known for their propriety and good taste.

I don't think it is a good start for the relationship. After all cheating can start this way, but in and of it's self it isn't cheating.

But lap dances are O.K???????? In what world?

 

[maddiemouse]

than a few dances at a Halloween party.

 

[monymony3471]

I don't see it as cheating. But could be a red flag.

 

[disykat]

I don't see the big deal - except that I probably wouldn't "slow dance" with anyone but my hubby - depending on what your definition of slow dancing is. I'd "ballroom dance", but to me "slow dancing" kind of brings to mind just sort of standing there swaying with our arms wrapped around each other.

Lap dance? Well, I can see some of dh's clothes on the lawn then.

 

[disneymama73]

Well if lap dances are ok, I think there's nothing wrong with a slow dance.

The whole thing sounds really strange. I think they must have been having problems to begin with.

 

[PrincessMom2002]

It'd be interesting to find out what is really going on with these two. For him to throw her things out on the lawn and kick her out, surely this goes way deeper. Who knows, maybe he is the one "cheating" so is finding any reason to lay blame on her. Often-times with my friends, if someone is screwing around, they blame and accuse the "innocent" one to take the heat off of themselves.

 

[disneymama73]

It'd be interesting to find out what is really going on with these two. For him to throw her things out on the lawn and kick her out, surely this goes way deeper. Who knows, maybe he is the one "cheating" so is finding any reason to lay blame on her. Often-times with my friends, if someone is screwing around, they blame and accuse the "innocent" one to take the heat off of themselves.

Exactly! My ex-husband cheated on me constantly and would always accuse me of cheating on HIM even though I never did. Must be easier to shift the blame...

 

[Disney Doll]

No, dancing with someone, even multiple times, is not cheating. Neither is slow dancing, unless by slow danicing you mean they were wrapped aournd each other, grinding and hyrating and playing tonsil hockey.

These folks have bigger problems that a few dances (fast or slow) at a Halloween party.

1. Hubby didn't want to go with her because he thinks it is stupid.

2. Hubby gets mad at wife and throws her clothes onto front lawn for dancing with other men at a party that he did not even attend.

3. All his friends at the bar have any opinion at all that he is remotely considering as valid.

Sounds like she's better off without the guy. And he may be better of without her, since she is obviously not the "kind" of woman he wants.

 

[lulugirl]

Her Dh sounds like a jack***

 

[rie'smom]

than a few dances at a Halloween party.

I agree with you. If the husband's throwing her clothes onto the lawn and if she danced with other people knowing her husband would freak,then both are better off elsewhere.

 

[shortbun]

He's an idiot and she married him probably knowing it. Get them on Springer.

 

[momof2inPA]

Not cheating, but I bet she was enjoying the flirting and dancing a little too much. I wouldn't do it.

 

[Stitchfans]

My DH doesn't like to dance and I do. When we go to a wedding I dance with whoever will dance with me. DD doesn't consider that cheating and neither do I. Besides like he says it is him I always go home with.


But lap dances, totally yes, IMO> is cheating.

 

[MELSMICE]

I would consider it cheating, but it certainly isn't a good choice.

Personally, I'd be pretty po'd if my DH was out dancing with some other woman - fast or slow. I wouldn't do it myself either.

Sounds like they have more issues than a few dances with a person of the opposite sex.

 

[snowwite]

No, I dont think it is "cheating". That said, if my DH goes out with the guys and slow dances with another woman I would be extremely angry w/him and would probably kick her fanny for slow dancing with a married man and trying to be a homewrecker. I wonder if the guy knew she was married?