Is anyone else's family like this?????

[Saphire]

Most children who misbehave do so because there is nobody supervising. Next year, get a few of the men to do shifts with the kids, playing games or doing some other activity. Keep all food in the kitchen. Problem solved.

 

[barbeml]

It's not just kids. I wish the grown ups were as considerate as my 5-year-old nephew!

Let's see: There was the time the idiot my mother married dumped a whole plate of orange-sauce-coated hot wings onto my pearl gray carpet and walked away. No effort to clean up or even alert me to clean up. That man has stained every dining chair I own.

Then there was the day I moved into my just-built townhome. One of my Step-Mother's "dear" friends (world's worst sponge who has been imposing on my family for decades) showed up ininvited (who show's up at someone's house on moving day, unless they are there to help?) with her cretin of a "boyfriend." The boyfriend tramped all over my brand new carpet in his mud-caked boots. Never apologized or attempted to clean up the mess. The stains never came out.

 

[VSL]

OMG! I would have had a conference in the bedroom with all of the girls who witnessed it...........

 

[malibuconlee]

Then there was the day I moved into my just-built townhome. One of my Step-Mother's "dear" friends (world's worst sponge who has been imposing on my family for decades) showed up ininvited (who show's up at someone's house on moving day, unless they are there to help?) with her cretin of a "boyfriend." The boyfriend tramped all over my brand new carpet in his mud-caked boots. Never apologized or attempted to clean up the mess. The stains never came out.

UGH!!! I'd want to kill!!

The day after we moved in here my SIL decided she wanted her husband to see our house. We had spend the weened painting before the movers showed up and still hadn't replaced all the outlet covers, and she brings a 19 month old and a 4 yo to come see the house!!

Hello!! We've been in the house 24 hours and we're supposed to entertain??!!

My MIL did offer to pay for pizza for everyone because she and FIL came too.

Just called this SIL and the 2 yo was SCREAMING because he wanted a video in. It was about a 90 second conversation.

 

[debden]

I don't even like my sister and her family to visit.They get food on the carpet and don't pick up after themselves.
It seems like we all have our 'sisters family' horror stories.
Uhggg....
Debbie

 

[jgmklmhem]

The real problem as others have stated is your sister's reaction. The "my child couldn't have done wrong" syndrome seems to be getting more and more pronounced. Hearing the stories my aunt, cousin, and mother tell of school children who misbehave and are extremely disrespectful and the parents never believe it. Their children are angels. This is a far cry from when I was in school and my word was usually the last to be believed. I am not sure that is the best but the pendulum has swung way too far the other way. I also wonder if the divorce in your specific situation plays a role in that she doesn't want to upset her daughter and just lets her get her way.

 

[Texan Mouseketeer]

My DH tries to get it where every birthday party we have is somewhere else so we don't have to worry about everyone being over. The one time we did have a party at our house, we enforced our usual rule of all kids eat in the kitchen. Well, my 9 year old nephew was eating his hot dog in the living room and spilled ketchup on our carpet - one month after moving in. I said, I asked all of y'all to eat in the living room. He responded with, you said the kids, I am not a kid. And his parents agreed. I had to clarify and say that I meant all non adults. Good grief! He got upset, rolled his eyes at me - in front of his parents - and went to the kitchen to throw his food away. He would rather not eat than eat in the kitchen like he was supposed to. He also stole one of my son's matchbox cars (and my son was 3 at the time). So we don't have them over unless it is absolutely necessary. And it hasn't been absolutely necessary for the past two years!

 

[LMC]

The real problem as others have stated is your sister's reaction. The "my child couldn't have done wrong" syndrome seems to be getting more and more pronounced.

I am just the opposite. If someone tells me my youngest DS5 has done something, I am pretty inclined to believe that he did. He is an absolute terror. A disciplined one but still a TERROR! I swear if I'd had him first, I would not have had any other children. (He's the 3rd, hence 3senuf!)

 

[phorsenuf]

hence 3senuf!

Hehe...I resemble that remark! LOL

 

[ChristmasElf]

People don't care about anyone elses furniture or carpeting! Because they are selfish or don't want someone else to have something nicer than they themselves have.

Consider the person you are talking about here. Ask yourself how do they live? What does their house look like as far as cleanliness and appearance, and then what condition is their furniture in?

I bet MOST of the people you have trouble with, have worn out beat up stained furniture with stained carpeting to go with it, live in a somewhat disorganized and messy house with NO semblance of order.

So their thoughts are, Why should anyone else have it?

What is that saying? You can't pick your relatives?

 

[tallym]

Just want to repeat what someone has already said....Disfan you are a wonderful kind person
That you dropped the issue for the sake of your older relatives is truly selfless.

If it were me I would be hopping mad and would definitly have confronted the sister and called the witnesses...i would then have expected a full apology.

I can totally understand how this would have caused a scene though...But Iam afraid Iam not as nice as you.

What a lovely attitude you have

Your kids are lucky to a mum like you

 

[Disney Doll]

You know the worst part??? These kids are going to grow up and everyone is going to hate them and they are going to have no idea why because they have never been taught the proper way to behave.

I have a SIL who has 1 child like that...we affectionately call him The Spawn of Satan. The child has no discipline, no sense of conscience, no sense of right & wrong...it's deplorable. And all his parents do when he does something is say "He's 7"...duh!!!!!! I know he's 7 and when he's 7 is when you are supposed to be teaching him right from wrong!!!!!!!!!! In the next breath she says "he's gifted". Well, perhaps he is, but he's a little (censored) and will grow up with no friends because I can't imagine anyone tolerating him for any length of time. He has no friends now, and he's 7.

Someday I will be being interviewed on 60 Minutes about my nephew the serial killer, and you will hear me say "I knew from when he was a child that he'd grow up with problems".

 

[minkydog]

You know the worst part??? These kids are going to grow up and everyone is going to hate them and they are going to have no idea why because they have never been taught the proper way to behave.

You are exactly right. My brother's two kids are like that and I do not enjoy them. One has graduated HS and we no longer have to associate with her. She made advances toward my son when he was about 13. Once she found her grandfather's Playboys' and then told that my 16yo son had taken them(another cousin saw the whole thing.) Her brother is just deceitful and sly. He has stood before me and lied to my face. I wouldn't trust either one as far as I could throw them. I fully expect to see them on America's Most Wanted some day.

 

[macraven]

that's a sad situation.

makes me think about my own situation.

one felix living with a lot of oscars.....