Invitation to birthday party at the "last minute"

[RitaZ.]

The neighbor having the party said in a phone message that she didn't invite DD sooner because she (the neighbor) wasn't sure whether we would be home this weekend.

Would you go or would you decline?

 

[Pop Daddy]

tell her yes, then dont go

 

[RitaZ.]

Pop daddy~ You always make me laugh!

 

[palmtreegirl]

Originally posted by Pop Daddy
tell her yes, then dont go

 

[Kallison]

Leave it up to your DD. Maybe she just forgot to invite your DD, I've dont that before.

 

[antbritt]

She was not sure if WHO was home this weekend? Your DD? Well Why didn't she Just ask you?? Sounds like she had decided to invite her at the last minute. But If your DD wants to go I would let her. Although I am not sure how old your DD is she proably would want to go.

 

[trishy]

If you like this person a lot, I'd let the kid go. Although it sounds like she had a cancellation and has to fill up her dd's gift quota and you're the convenient choice. Let's hope not, but it's questionable as to why she couldn't have just asked you. I think she's rude.

 

[Mimi Q]

I would let your DD decide.

 

[RitaZ.]

Originally posted by trishy
If you like this person a lot, I'd let the kid go. Although it sounds like she had a cancellation and has to fill up her dd's gift quota and you're the convenient choice. Let's hope not, but it's questionable as to why she couldn't have just asked you. I think she's rude.

That's my take on it too.

There is a bit of history here... which is too long to get into. In previous years, the mom was always quick to tell me when the party was taking place and to mark the calendar. The reason she gave for not inviting DD sooner makes no sense at all. If she really had wanted to know if we would be out of town for the holiday weekend, she certainly could have asked me sooner. We used to be good friends until she allowed herself to be manipulated by my next door neighbor (I don't get along with that woman). Even after that happened, I still allowed my DD and her girls to play at our house and theirs. After a while even the friendship between the girls turned sour when the next door neighbor's DD started to call my DD names and the girls joined in.

This is all nonsense. I hate being petty...

 

[Mimi Q]

Did your DD go to the party?

 

[Nutsy]

I'd let your DD decide. Does sound a bit fishy tho hey?

 

[Rafikifan]

I hate it when that happens! I know, I know, my kids have had their share of birthday parties but as they get older I've HAD to have less and less since they have tons of cousins, neighbor friends, school buddies, ball team friends....if I invited them all it would cost a fortune, if I didn't someone's feelings would get hurt. BUT when I did have parties for them I thought it was only FAIR to their parents to get an invitation to them at least a week beforehand. I have a neighbor and a sister in law that both seem to never know plans for their child's birthdays until the last minute. The neighbor has sent hand written notes on notebook paper to me on THE day or day before she is going to take her son to the park for a party. I have very nicely declined. I UNDERSTAND why people don't want to or maybe aren't able to have a birthday party for their child. But if they do want to have one just give me a little notice so I'm not running to Toys 'R Us on the way to the party! Then I always wonder, did they REALLY want to invite him or her or were they "guilted" into it. It depends on the relationship your child and her friend has I guess. I know my kids get invitations from classmates all the time who they may not even hang out with but EVERYBODY in the class has to get one. If it's truly someone my child likes and plays with then I'll go, if not, I send our regrets. I know this sounds downright pitiful but if we said yes to every invitaion my 3 kids get, we'd go broke just buying birhtday gifts. They have 12 cousins for goodness sakes - there's always a birthday in our family as it is!!!!

 

[RitaZ.]

Mimi~ No, DD didn't go to the party. I called my neighbor/the mom Saturday morning hoping to talk to her, but I had to leave a message on their answering machine. I thanked her for inviting my DD, but told her that we couldn't make it. I also said that if she had let us know about the party earlier, we could have made plans to take DD. Then, I finished my message by wishing her DD a great birthday party. She never returned my call, and I'm not expecting her to. I have no idea where the party was held, but it wasn't at their home. The neighbor never said anything in her message as to when (time) and where it would be.

BTW, my DD is 6 yrs. old.

 

[Microcell]

Just remember, Stay positive in every interaction, kids are amazing at forgiving and forgetting! There is a girl in our neighorhood who is a brat for lack of a better word and just when I think DD wants nothing to do with her, she sees her outside and wants to play. Then it bites me on the behind because I like the girls mom just fine and now I live in fear because DD knows I don't think much of the kid and I am sure she will say something sometime!

 

[wilderness01]

Kids do forgive easy. At least she is little and hopefully won't realize she was excluded.