Inspired by Zurealsoon: phone calls at work

[hugsquared]

DH and I talk on average twice a day--once during the day either to get information (Did you pay the ComEd bill? What time is that meeting tonight?) or to say hi, and once at the end of the day to do the "I'm on my way home, what are we doing for dinner" thing. I should add that both DH and I have office-type jobs and we manage our own daily schedules.

As for why we talk during the day, sometimes we need to exchange info, but basically it's because we love each other and it gives us both a lift to hear from each other during the day. It's really not that hard to understand.

Us too. Thanks for saying what I didn't manage to get out.

 

[Marseeya]

As for why we talk during the day, sometimes we need to exchange info, but basically it's because we love each other and it gives us both a lift to hear from each other during the day. It's really not that hard to understand.

Same with us. Plus we don't see much of each other. He leaves for work between 6 and 7 a.m. and doesn't get home until after 7 p.m. Some evenings I have school. We don't have a whole lot of time after he gets home from work even when I'm home because he has to do more work on his laptop. When we both worked jobs where it was strictly 8 hours a day, we didn't call each other hardly at all.

 

[Disney Doll]

His company has no problem with personal contact as long as it doesn't impact work flow. I call him if I need hi for something. I'll e-mail him if I want to communicate something to him that is not urgent.

I try not to be a real pest though.

I can receive personal calls at work in a limited number. Again, they can't impede your work flow, but my boss is pretty lenient.

 

[Nancy]

I've never been able to understand couples that feel the need to talk to each other several times a day when they are AT WORK

It would drive me nuts to have DH calling me all the time, and I know it would be the same for him if I was doing the calling. We see each other every day, anything we want to talk about we do on our own time, unless of course it is an emergency.

I am so with you here. When I am at work, I am at work, I don't feel the need or have the time to be chatting with my husband. He also does not have the time to be chatting with me. It is one thing if there is an emergency, but not just to talk. I see him at home we can talk then.

edited to add a few things.

I love my husband too, we have been married 20 years. If he needs to ask me about a bill or something that came in the mail he can do it when I get home, nothing I can do about it at work so it can wait. Now if you are talking on your breaks or lunches and OFF company time, or if your company has no issues with personal phone calls then I see no problems.

The only call I get every day is from my 12 year old telling me she got home from school. We have a registered sex offender living on our street, I want to know she is in the house ok.

 

[icebrat001]

I have 2 jobs, one as a pre-school teacher, there is no phone there, so no phone calls unless the cell phone is used and that is RARE. However my other job, I am a desk clerk and after doing 2 hours of work it's 6 hours of down time and my SO calls me, chat online, post on the Dis whatever, we only have 24 rooms at my hotel so once people are checked it, it's not a lot for me to do. Oh yeah, and we have 4 employees total and the shifts never overlap so no one is in the conversation.

 

[Marseeya]

I've never been able to understand couples that feel the need to talk to each other several times a day when they are AT WORK

It would drive me nuts to have DH calling me all the time, and I know it would be the same for him if I was doing the calling. We see each other every day, anything we want to talk about we do on our own time, unless of course it is an emergency.

How much time do you actually get to spend with your DH?

 

[lvs_eeyore]

Dh and I talk a couple of times a day....usually on my break. His company doesnt mind it because he keeps on working while hes talking to me. Most of his job is computer work so he can do that and talk at the same time. We do communicate with each other because we love each other. He is under a lot of stress at work and most times I call just to say I love him and see how his day is going. It makes him feel good. I also do a lot of the tasks that need to be done for the kids, house, etc....during my breaks so I make him aware of whats going on with that too. By night time I would forget to tell him and then he would be out of the loop as to whats going on with things. I on the other hand cannot get calls at work at all unless it is an emergency. I have my cellphone on vibrate and if someone needs to reach me they call me on that and I get back to them when I can.

 

[Nancy]

How much time do you actually get to spend with your DH?

Can't answer for chatty, but I see my DH every morning before he heads off to work. I see him when we get home from work and 3 nights a week before he heads off to job #2. If I am off during the week (usually 2 days) and not running around I see him for 1/2 hour when he comes home for lunch. I work weekends if I am off during the week, so I see him when I get home, because he doesn't wake up with me, he sleeps in. In that time we have plenty of time to talk, to go over things and enjoy each others company.

 

[lulugirl]

I only call if I need to ask a specific question, never just to chat. He usually calls to let me know he's on his way home.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

My hubby calls me about 3 times a day. Just a simple: how's your day, here's how mine is, what's up, I love you. That's about it He keeps it short and sweet and keeps his voice low. He works in a cubicle farm so he respects the folks around him.

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

I personally don't see anything wrong with it. If it makes the couple happy, they're not breaking company rules and they're being couteous to those around them, then who cares?

 

[golfgal]

I talk with DH a couple times a day. He has always had a private office since he was in charge of all the staff there so that part of it isn't a big deal. We just like to say hi mostly but there are times when I need to tell him something or he needs to tell me something. His company never had issues with it as long as it wasn't excessive and they do keep phone logs.

I know I was doing some temp work at his office and the gal that sat next to me would get about 20 personal calls on her cell in the few hours she was there (she worked about 20 hours/week). Our boss was commenting about her job performance and I had to say something (the boss is a good friend of ours) about all the phone calls she was getting. They were trying to decide if they should add someone to the department and I said that if the other people in the department didn't spend so much time chatting on the phone and with each other they could get a lot more work done.

 

[aprilgail2]

They were trying to decide if they should add someone to the department and I said that if the other people in the department didn't spend so much time chatting on the phone and with each other they could get a lot more work done.

Wow those employees must REALLY love you being there!!!!

 

[daisyduck123]

I teach 1st grade. I just about never call DH from school....never any time to.

 

[golfgal]

Wow those employees must REALLY love you being there!!!!

It sounds worse then it was. They don't know that I said anything. They just told the staff in that department that they weren't going to replace the person that moved to another department because their numbers were down and they couldn't justify adding another person at the time. They just adapted to the work and that naturally took care of the problem. They now work a "normal" load as compared to other departments in the company.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I've never been able to understand couples that feel the need to talk to each other several times a day when they are AT WORK

It would drive me nuts to have DH calling me all the time, and I know it would be the same for him if I was doing the calling. We see each other every day, anything we want to talk about we do on our own time, unless of course it is an emergency.

I'm with you on this one. DH was working for a major computer company and was strictly business while on their hours. Have to say he had a great work ethic no matter where he worked.

 

[NMAmy]

DH and I only call each other if one or the other of us is going to be late or if we're coordinating riding home together. If something comes up, we email each other.

DD calls to let me know she's home from school and if anything comes up. My mom calls me at work occasionally--particularly when she's in California because of the time difference, it's easier for her to catch me there.

 

[Dopey Sharon]

My DH doesn't even know my work number, so he never calls me there. The only time I call his cell phone, while he's working, is if I need to ask him something that can't wait until he gets home, and that is very seldom.

I don't see him when he leaves in the morning. He is usually home around 5pm. He will call if he's going to be late.

When he goes out of town, he will call me every night.

We have been married 27 years. We never called each other, during work hours, unless it was for a good reason.

 

[Marseeya]

I teach 1st grade. I just about never call DH from school....never any time to.

I think for a lot of people it depends on their job. I've had office jobs where a phone call would have been totally fine, but working retail it would have been impossible except in emergencies. I also worked in a very small college bookstore where we had plenty of down time to chat on the phone (very acceptable during down times). When I start teaching, I imagine phone calls would be off limits.

DH has had a few different jobs where phone calls were accepted and some where they weren't. The one he has now, he's in much more of a supervisory position (upper middle management) and has a lot more freedom to make personal calls. He allows the same privilege with his workers as long as they're getting their work done.

 

[Marseeya]

I'm with you on this one. DH was working for a major computer company and was strictly business while on their hours. Have to say he had a great work ethic no matter where he worked.

I'm not sure if you mean it this way, but it kind of sounds like you're saying those who do make personal calls don't have as good of a work ethic.