Inspired by Oprah's secret...how would you

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My DH is adopted and has contemplated meeting his birth mother for a while. We know a lot about her - even where she lives and that she has a daughter. He was the product of an affair with a married man and so we know nothing about his biological father. He never had much desire to meet her or know who his father was until we had children and now he wants her to know that he turned out ok and that she has two beautiful grandchildren...

BUT he is so worried his half sister knows nothing about him and he doesn't want to rock her world. But he has to make a decision soon b/c his birth mom is getting older.

If it were me - I would think it would be awesome to meet another sibling but it would rock my world...mainly b/c my parents were college sweethearts and never with anyone else and we were raised with strong values that would go against them having a secret child...

My parents adopted me too, and I met my biological mother after I became an adult. After meeting her once, I never really wanted to see her again. That doesn't sound very nice, but after meeting her, I thought she was a bit looney (I know, that doesn't sound nice either).

She kept calling me by the first name that she had given me, and she knew that was not my current name. Then she kept calling me on the phone, sending me cards, etc., and STILL called me by the name she had given me. There was other stuff too, but I won't go into details.

I know nothing about my biological father.

Good luck to your dh. I hope if he does meet his biological mother, that things go well.