Inspired by Kteacher...were you miserable?

[always quiet]

Reading Kteacher's post about her DD growing up and all the frazzled parent responses, I got to thinking about when I was their age. I don't remember being miserable going through that stage. My mom's no longer around, so I can't ask her. Do you remember going through all the wonderful mood swings, eyes rolling, door slamming phases of life our kids are going through? I swear kids today are maturing so much earlier (and becoming so much mouthier! ) than kids in my generation (born in the 60's)

 

[buzzlady]

I do remember some obnoxious days when growing up. But I was NOTHING like my 11 yr old is today. The attitudes that these kids have is amazing. If I were to speak to my parents like he "tries" to speak to us, I would have been flattened. My son sees punishment (take away bike, being grounded, no TV) as child abuse. Give me a break - he doesn't know what child abuse is.

 

[snoopy]

I wasn't, but my sister sure was! I remember wanting to haul off and slap her on many ocassions for giving my mother such a hard time! She is/was a moody person, I'm not. I think a lot of it depends on the individual personality.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Did not read the thread spken of here, but based on this question, YES. VERY bad, from early teens to early 20's. Thank God I made it this far, LOL.

 

[always quiet]

YOU Dan????? NEVER!!!!!

 

[grinningghost]

If I even so much as looked at my parents the wrong way, my Dad got out "the belt". Now he'd go to jail for even suggesting it. Back then, he wasn't the only Dad using "the belt". Seemed all the Dads on the block were pretty good with "corporal punishment".

 

[browneyes]

I ask my mom if I was like my dd is when I was her age. She said she doesn't remember mood swings or anything like that with me. She says I was a little angel. I think she's full of bull hockey about me being a little angel. I don't think my moods were quite like my dd's. She's just like her daddy sometimes. My ds is more like I am. We both think we're invisible and are surprised when we find out we're not.

 

[Jeafl]

I think the biggest problem with today's kids is lack of respect for adults. I STILL call my best friend's parents Mr. and Mrs.

Since I volunteer in the school a lot, I see a total lack of respect for teachers as well. There is a lot of the "I don't have to listen to you" mentality, even as young as first grade. They have much smarter mouths as well. I really don't think parents spend as much time working with their kids on manners, and teaching them to respect adults.

I really do believe that girls especially are growing up much faster these days. I see it in my own daughters. They want to wear clothes that are totally inapppropriate at a very young age, but a lot of it is because that is pretty much all you see in the stores. Girls that wear a size 7 are expected to wear the same styles as a girl that wears a size 16. It's really depressing.

 

[allicat]

Yes, absolutely had the mood swings and gave my parents(mostly Mom) a hard time throughout my teen years.
I do notice my DD getting impatient with me at times and I think to myself, I'd didnt start doing that until I was a teen and shes only 8.

 

[grinningghost]

Kids today know they can get away with things. When I was a kid the thought of "punishing" my parents never even entered my head. Today kids pick up the phone and dial the child abuse hotline. Did they even HAVE a child abuse hotline when we were young??

 

[tc]

I was going through a lot of emotional stuff due to something that happened to me, so I pretty much retreated into myself, making sure not to make waves. My two older sisters, however, were another story. I remember the screaming, yelling, crying. I remember my oldest sister (4 years older than me) yelling, "How can I clean my room when I don't even know who I am!" I thought it was pretty funny, but my mom did not. This was shortly after my parents divorce and my sisters were 9th and 11th grade, so that may have had something to do with their moodiness.

 

[disneyjunkie]

My sister and I had mood swings, but we woud NEVER disrespect our parents.

I mouthed off to a teacher one time ( also used some pretty nasty language). Another teacher heard about it, and gave the first teacher my phone # and told her to call my mother.
Well, after mom spoke with the teacher that night I got my butt spanked. The next day I had to find that teacher and tell her I was sorry for what I'd said to her. I was 9 years old, in the 4th grade when that happened. I NEVER disrespected a teacher again.


I'm always amazed at what kids are allowed to get away with now. I think many parents are trying to be their child's friend.

 

[Dodie]

I was born in 1961.

I cried my entire 8th grade year (1974-1975). Not about anything specific. Usually not for any good reason. I was MISERABLE. It was really hard on my mom (who is a good-natured, down-to-earth, no frills kind of person).

I also remember her threatening a few times
to knock me on my *&@#" if I "rolled my eyes at her one more time."

I never was really disrespectful. I was never a bad kid. I was a quiet only kid who got good grades. I just had a tough time being 13.

 

[honeywolf7]

I remember slamming doors but I also remember getting slapped across the face by my dad if I talked back (he claims now that he only did this once....NOT) and getting hit with the buckle part of a belt.
I did show respect for my friends' parents. As a matter of fact when Thom and I were married, he got a job working for a heating and air conditioning company. Right after he started working there, he was talking about his boss's daughter Charlene. I put two and two together and realized that his boss's daughter was one grade behind me in school and that she had been in several plays with me. Thom and I went to a Christmas party at his other boss's house and Charlene's mother and father (also known as Thom's boss) were there. I felt funny drinking in front of Charlene's mother because I had known her when I was a teenager.

 

[grinningghost]

Originally posted by honeywolf7
I felt funny drinking in front of Charlene's mother because I had known her when I was a teenager.

I STILL feel a little funny drinking in front of my older relatives at weddings and such. I mean, they were the ones that were scolding me at family gatherings as a child. Now that I'm on their level, I feel weird sometimes.