Innocent flirting between two married people...OK or not?

[Somedaysingleagain]

I work with two people who are both married. One is the owner of the company. They have become friends because they have a lot in common. they are both in their 40's, have been married a long time, and their kids are around the same ages. They get together with each other and their spouses, and have even taken their families on vacation together.

When they work together with other people, like myself, they don't act out of the ordinary. Last Thursday, I went in to pick up my check, and I overheard them goofing on each other. They were flirting in a BIG way and did not know I had come in, but now I have to wonder how much flirting actually goes on when they work by themselves?


I know I should MMOB, but I am kind of a prude, and this has me curious. I think flirting between two married people, and they know each other's spouses is worse than flirting and not knowing each other's family.

Is this morally OK or not? What do you think? Just wondering.

 

[M4travels]

snip...I know I should MMOB... snip

If you know it, then do it.

 

[MomofKatie]

If they would act the same in front of their spouses and children, I'd say it is harmless. If not, it's not.

Of course, like you said, I'd also MMOB.

 

[bsnyder]

I I think flirting between two married people, and they know each other's spouses is worse than flirting and not knowing each other's family.

I'm curious why you think it's worse?

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

I'd say,

'Uh oh...'

 

[disneyfreakk]

Judging others is FAR worse than flirting.

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

If they would act the same in front of their spouses and children, I'd say it is harmless.

I totally agree.

Some people are naturally flirty.

 

[Mickey&Donald]

Unless you are married to either of them, I don't think you should worry about it.

Seriously though, innocent flirting is fine, as long as it doesn't go beyond that.

 

[JessicaR]

Maybe its innocent and maybe it isn't. It would not be possible for us to speculate which it is since we didn't observe them or know them for that matter.

Maybe since you did say that you were kind of a prude your flirtation definition is different than others. Ultimately it doesn't concern you and I would leave it there.

More than likely though since you speculated something is awry, it possibly is.

 

[DizneeMommy]

I totally agree.

Some people are naturally flirty.

I agree--for some, being flirty is just normal behavior. For others, not so much!

 

[diznygirl]

Is this morally OK or not? What do you think? Just wondering.

You want to be single again????



I know - MMOB.

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

You want to be single again????

I could not help but notice the OP's name either.... 'Somedaysingleagain'

 

[Goobergal99]

I flirt with the male nurses I work with ALL THE TIME!! They are all old enough to be my dad anyway, and we get a kick out of it... it's innocent though at least it is on my side anyways

DH couldn't care less.. just as I wouldn't either. I think it's innocent but different strokes ya know

 

[Michelle67]

Doesn't bother me. My husband is a flirt sometimes, but I have no fears about his loyalty. I'm a little flirty sometimes, and I'm also huggy with my male friends (in front of my husband, who does not care because I knew them first and if I wanted them I would have been with them before he even met me). This isn't a bother to either of us. Actually, I think it would bug me less if the spouses were all acquainted, not more, but it doesn't bug me either way.

 

[mselly13]

I think it depends on your definition of innocent.
My DH and I are both big flirts. I know about his and he know about mine. We flirt in front of each other. That's innocent.
I flirt with my bff's DH and she flirts with my man.
We also are friends with this other couple, he is always flirting with me and me with him. He even goes so far as to kiss me on the lips. Both DH and his wife are fine with it because they both know how goofy we are. But when we are out in public we tame it down so that others don't wonder. Our innocent is done more in private....KWIM?

It's when the other doesn't know that it becomes temptation and not innocent.

 

[shortbun]

I'd say they are either acting on their feelings or thinking about it. If what you heard was in private or even if not, mind your own business. But, I don't think it's ok to flirt in a big way with anyone except your spouse.

 

[goofy's friends]

I just know that "innocent" can turn to serious rather quickly and without warning too. It's dangerous to flirt and push the envelope. The other person's boundaries may not be the same as your own or feelings could easily develop to go along with that innocent flirtation. I've seen it happen with close friends who eventually left their marriages and are now together. A lot of people can eventually get hurt with "innocent" flirtations. I don't think I'm a prude, just realistic.

 

[LadyyRedd]

I agree with the others that say harmless/innocent flirting is no big deal. The majority of the men I play softball with are married, but everyone jokes/flirts and it's really not a big deal. Nothing else is happening! (at least, not on my part!).

Kimya

 

[BellvilleDad]

I think it depends on your definition of innocent.
My DH and I are both big flirts. I know about his and he know about mine. We flirt in front of each other. That's innocent.
I flirt with my bff's DH and she flirts with my man.
We also are friends with this other couple, he is always flirting with me and me with him. He even goes so far as to kiss me on the lips. Both DH and his wife are fine with it because they both know how goofy we are. But when we are out in public we tame it down so that others don't wonder. Our innocent is done more in private....KWIM?

It's when the other doesn't know that it becomes temptation and not innocent.

I know everyone is different, but this would be TOO much. Constant flirting and kissing!?! That's too many opportunities to eventually get the wrong (or right) idea and stray too far away. My wife and I agree on this.

 

[wvjules]

What were they saying to each other? You admitted you're a prude so what you heard might not necessarily be "flirting" to non-prudes, kwim?