Including Your Children from a previous marriage...

[tmli]

I was wondering about ways some of you have included children into the ceremony. My ds is 10 and I want him to be an important part of the day.

It will be an intimate wedding at wdw.

 

[Marty Moose]

HI!

We're having an intimate as well. We have two children (both of them ours...we just never bother to get married before this!) and plan to have them act as flower girl and ring bearer.

You can also speak with your officiant about having your son and/or your "new family" incorporated into the vows, etc.

Best wishes!

 

[lpizzuro123]

10 might be a little young but you could have him be the Best Man. Or an usher, especially if you have a jr bridesmaid.

Linda

 

[lindakmonty]

there are also special vows that the bride/or groom can make to the child it is so sweet!!! My ds5 was in our wedding and there w/us for the honeymoon! 10 nights at WDW...there was no way I'd leave him behind!! He was our ring bearer..it was just the 3 of us on the beach!

Good luck and congrats!

 

[tmli]

Thanks everyone for your replies. I like the idea of making him part of the vows...also thought of the idea of giving him a ring as well. Has anyone done or seen this done? Another idea was him walking me down the aisle (of course would have to clear this with dad, but he did get to do it the first time). Also considering the best man option.

I also will have ds with us the entire time, honeymoon and all. Wouldn't have it any other way!!

 

[Mommy Poppins]

Ours was a vow renewal, so it was a little different--we didn't need anyone of legal age to sign the marriage certificate--but this is what we did:

Our DD (age 10) was my very beautiful maid of honor:

Our DS (age 7) walked my sister down the aisle and was Daddy's best man. He held onto the rings until it was time for them. He took his role very seriously and concentrated so hard that he is rarely smiling in the pictures!

Our DS (age 4) was the flower "boy". He carried a Mickey Ears tophat turned upside down with a ribbon handle and alternately dropped/dumped rose petals in the aisle.

He was also very much the comedian through the whole day!

We also did a family unity candle. My sister and mother-in lit a taper on each side. DH and I lit the center candle from those tapers and then the 3 children each lit a taper from our center candle.

 

[wendy46001]

I've seen the ring done with a younger girl....it was special .... she later grew out of the ring and now has it on a necklace...Another thing i've seen is the bride gave her new son a pocket watch (she was looking for something he could keep forever) and had worked into the ceremony a bit about her being his best friend till the end of time...It was so cute and sweet...

Maybe your dad and ds could walk you down together

 

[tmli]

OH Wendy i like the idea of both of them walking me down. I didn't think of the fact that we may need a best man of legal age to sign as a witness.

So many great ideas....it is so important to both of us that he is an integral part of the entire experience.

Mommypoppins...your photos are absolutely beautiful.

 

[ItGirl753]

I don't know, but I thought a while back I read a post that Florida doesn't require a witness like that. That's what encouraged me to tell DBF that I don't want any wedding party at all. I think it was JandJ because she had a very small intimate, but I could be wrong. Maybe she'll see this and post.

 

[Mommy Poppins]

I don't know, but I thought a while back I read a post that Florida doesn't require a witness like that. That's what encouraged me to tell DBF that I don't want any wedding party at all. I think it was JandJ because she had a very small intimate, but I could be wrong. Maybe she'll see this and post.

You could be right. I know that in PA we require a witness, but maybe Florida is different. Since ours was a vow renewal, we didn't need any witnesses--just each other.

 

[LIGrumpyGirl]

I was told by Disney that Florida and Nevada are the only two states that do not require witnesses. We did not have any. Our planner signed our certificate to remember her but thats it.

As for including children...I have a DD5 who was not at the wedding (I know mean mommy...she reminds me all the time). Rev. Day included her in the ceremony and we included her in our vows. Stan from STVS made a beautiful wedding poster for us putting her picture in.

When we got home, we had a small reception. Instead of toasting us, we toasted her. We gave her a heart necklace...the heart was made up of the words love all over. We included each of our birthstones on the charm. She loved it...wears it all the time. Tells people it is her wedding necklace!

 

[Chrissi Pooh]

My 7 year old DD is going to walk me down the aisle and then we will present her with a special necklace. This is my second marriage and my dad is shy so he was more than happy when I said DD could give me away!!