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[cjb71870]

Honestly?

 

[Tosie]

It's all about attitude. "30" "40" "100" - they're just numbers. It will be a miserable experience only if you let it be.

I turned 40 in WDW - at the Wilderness Lodge, with my family around me and it was terrific way to celebrate. I even got a free water from a lovely girl at Epcot!

 

[MainStMandy]

Lol you guys really ran with this after I went to bed last night.

I am not a miserable human being who wishes I were dead instead of turning 30.

What I am saying is I am just having a hard time as I get closer to 30. Is part of it my biological clock? You bet! Did I think I would be turning 29, living at my parents, divorced with no kids? Heck no.

The world is not coming to an end, I am just a bit down and was looking to see if anyone else has gone through it.

Thanks for all your advice and stories.

 

[Sneezie]

I turned 30 over 5 years ago and believe me it's alot easier than you think. It's wonderful being in your 30's. It's the time (for me, anyway) when you start not caring about what people think of you. You are more sure of what YOU want and less caring about what others want from you.

If you thought your 20's were good, wait until your 30's get here.

I'm already planning my 40th birthday party!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

When I was 37 I had a tough time. Now at 43 I am happy to wake up everyday.

I had to let go of "the list" of things to do before I was I was a certain age.

 

[ScorpioJeni]

Lol you guys really ran with this after I went to bed last night.

I am not a miserable human being who wishes I were dead instead of turning 30.

What I am saying is I am just having a hard time as I get closer to 30. Is part of it my biological clock? You bet! Did I think I would be turning 29, living at my parents, divorced with no kids? Heck no.

The world is not coming to an end, I am just a bit down and was looking to see if anyone else has gone through it.

Thanks for all your advice and stories.

I feel for you 31 was much harder for me than 30 was. For most of the same reasons you listed. I'm divorced with two kids, my parents are living with me. Nothing is how I pictured it so I changed my focus.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

Lol you guys really ran with this after I went to bed last night.

I am not a miserable human being who wishes I were dead instead of turning 30.

What I am saying is I am just having a hard time as I get closer to 30. Is part of it my biological clock? You bet! Did I think I would be turning 29, living at my parents, divorced with no kids? Heck no.

The world is not coming to an end, I am just a bit down and was looking to see if anyone else has gone through it.

Thanks for all your advice and stories.

Yep. Everything except the divorced part. Although I was engaged for 6 months a little over 3 years ago.

Living with my dad, no kids and no husband. Not even a boyfriend. It's depressing sometimes. I also lost half my chances of even getting pregnant 8.5 years ago when I had an oavarian cyst. Biological clock is ticking very loudly.

 

[luna99]

First I would like to say that I know how you feel... I'm 32 and married, no kids and there are definitely days when I feel "old" already. I mean, logically speaking I know I am not... but for some reason I feel this way.. and I think it's since I have gotten married. My life changed rather drastically from being single and going out and drinking with friends to being married and having a wild night be going to the bookstore. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and I love being married, but I definitely miss having friends and hanging out (I moved to a new city and don't have any friends here - yet! I'm working on it!).

for me, I think I am afraid of time passing me by and not being able to do all the things I want to do. Someone mentioned this in a response earlier. I feel like the world is SO full of possibilities and I never want to limit myself ... yet, getting married and having children does narrow those possibilities so while I love being married and while I do want kids.. I'm afriad I won't have the time, resources, or youthfulness to do all the things I want. Could you be feeling that way maybe?

About the baby thing.. just know you are still young and have plenty of time to have kids if you want them! I'm 32 and we are going to start trying next year.. there are PLENTY of women who wait until their 30's and sometimes 40's to have kids! you are not alone there!

as for the wishing life would slow down thing.. I know exactly what you mean.. I used to feel like I was just preparing for life, and not actually living it.. if that makes any sense.. I would feel like just when I was all ready to start living it.. it would be out of my grasp and move beyond me... I can't really explain any better than that or give any specific examples.

anyway.. just knowing you are not alone might make you feel a little better and yes, you are entitled to feel however you want to feel.. don't worry about people saying you are being crazy. I know when I start to feel like time is moving too fast, I try to slow down personally.. enjoy the little things in life... take some time out for myself.. take a hot bath and read a book.. those are the moments that make me feel better. I hope you can find something to help you... or you could always just...

have some RUM!

which cures everything in my book!

 

[Laura]

I never had biological clock issues, so I guess turning 30 wasn't a big deal for me. Of course, I also was married, had bought a house and we intended to get pregnant eventually (I am expecting my daughter's arrival in February).

But I have two friends my age (early 30s) who aren't married and have no serious boyfriends. I would rather see both of them stay single for the rest of their lives than to settle for the first guy who asks and be unhappy in their marriages. One of my oldest friends had done just that. It's very sad to watch.

Move out of your parents' place and buy a condo or starter home or something--I know that can help you feel a lot better about your situation in life (my two single friends have done just that in the last couple of years). Go back to school and get educated for a new career. Just don't wait for some guy to come along and make your life what you think it should be. YOU need to make your life what it should be.

 

[CapeMayMommy]

29 was awful. (anticipatory dread) 30 was a little less awful.

38, easily got pregnant. 39--oppps, pregnant again.

40 was groovy.

42, almost 43--- it just gets better.

It's the not knowing that's the hardest part.

 

[MainStMandy]

I feel for you 31 was much harder for me than 30 was. For most of the same reasons you listed. I'm divorced with two kids, my parents are living with me. Nothing is how I pictured it so I changed my focus.

Thank you

Yep. Everything except the divorced part. Although I was engaged for 6 months a little over 3 years ago.

Living with my dad, no kids and no husband. Not even a boyfriend. It's depressing sometimes. I also lost half my chances of even getting pregnant 8.5 years ago when I had an oavarian cyst. Biological clock is ticking very loudly.

Lol I hear it too!

First I would like to say that I know how you feel... I'm 32 and married, no kids and there are definitely days when I feel "old" already. I mean, logically speaking I know I am not... but for some reason I feel this way.. and I think it's since I have gotten married. My life changed rather drastically from being single and going out and drinking with friends to being married and having a wild night be going to the bookstore. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and I love being married, but I definitely miss having friends and hanging out (I moved to a new city and don't have any friends here - yet! I'm working on it!).

for me, I think I am afraid of time passing me by and not being able to do all the things I want to do. Someone mentioned this in a response earlier. I feel like the world is SO full of possibilities and I never want to limit myself ... yet, getting married and having children does narrow those possibilities so while I love being married and while I do want kids.. I'm afriad I won't have the time, resources, or youthfulness to do all the things I want. Could you be feeling that way maybe?

About the baby thing.. just know you are still young and have plenty of time to have kids if you want them! I'm 32 and we are going to start trying next year.. there are PLENTY of women who wait until their 30's and sometimes 40's to have kids! you are not alone there!

as for the wishing life would slow down thing.. I know exactly what you mean.. I used to feel like I was just preparing for life, and not actually living it.. if that makes any sense.. I would feel like just when I was all ready to start living it.. it would be out of my grasp and move beyond me... I can't really explain any better than that or give any specific examples.

anyway.. just knowing you are not alone might make you feel a little better and yes, you are entitled to feel however you want to feel.. don't worry about people saying you are being crazy. I know when I start to feel like time is moving too fast, I try to slow down personally.. enjoy the little things in life... take some time out for myself.. take a hot bath and read a book.. those are the moments that make me feel better. I hope you can find something to help you... or you could always just...



which cures everything in my book!

Thank you!!! I am on the same exact page. I know there are things I can't change and I try to remain positive. Just some days it gets to me.

I never had biological clock issues, so I guess turning 30 wasn't a big deal for me. Of course, I also was married, had bought a house and we intended to get pregnant eventually (I am expecting my daughter's arrival in February).

But I have two friends my age (early 30s) who aren't married and have no serious boyfriends. I would rather see both of them stay single for the rest of their lives than to settle for the first guy who asks and be unhappy in their marriages. One of my oldest friends had done just that. It's very sad to watch.

Move out of your parents' place and buy a condo or starter home or something--I know that can help you feel a lot better about your situation in life (my two single friends have done just that in the last couple of years). Go back to school and get educated for a new career. Just don't wait for some guy to come along and make your life what you think it should be. YOU need to make your life what it should be.

I love my job, have a great boyfriend and other than my fear of 30, life is great, lol. Dbf and I are actually moving in together in April so the thing with my parents is only going to be about 4 months or so. Just sucks at the moment ya know?

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

Is this the Codger Thread????

What time does the earlybird dinner coupon at Perkins Expire?
What time of the month does your Soc/Sec checks come in?
Ben Gay or Aspercream?
How many times a day do you watch "Law & Order" (any 'flavor of it)?
How many times a day do you need someone to explain the complexities of the gameshow 'Deal or No Deal" to you?
Is loosing the 'TV Guide' considered a MAJOR CATASTOPHE in your house?
Do you too absolutely feel that is "just not right" to go past channel 100 on your Cable TV?
How much time do you let pass before you call up your MailMans Boss to complain that the Mail is late? 5 minutes? 10 Minutes? As long as the mail gets to your house BEFORE Judge Judy comes on TV?

YA whippersnapper, YA

why I otta call yer parents!!!!

 

[MsDisney23]

Happy Birthday

 

[Kath2003]

I am so not 24 on Saturday

I have a pension! A PENSION!

 

[Laura]

I love my job, have a great boyfriend and other than my fear of 30, life is great, lol. Dbf and I are actually moving in together in April so the thing with my parents is only going to be about 4 months or so. Just sucks at the moment ya know?

I guess since you were saying that you weren't happy with where you are in life, and didn't really explain why except you don't have kids yet (and you have plenty of time for that) it seemed to me that you didn't think "life is great". It sounded like you need a change, so if you're getting out of situations you don't like or are holding you back, great!

 

[c4a]

I will be 30 I know everyone handles birthdays differently, some say 30 isn't so bad but 40 is awful...my worst so far has been 27.

30 is just terrifying for me. I know I have a LOT going great in my life but I can't help but think this is not where I thought I'd be...

Anyone else struggle with 30?

Aww. You are in one of the most exciting parts of your life...you are figuring out who you are. Not who your friends/parents say you are. Weeding out the junk & keeping the stuff that works.

30 wasn't hard,neither was 35, 40, or 45. 25 was hard. Only because I was turning a quarter of a centruy old. Have the half centurary coming up. Gonna' PARTY!!!!

And haven't you heard? 40 is the new 30, and 30 is the new 20. So, sorry but you will no longer be able to drink on your b-day. You won't be old enough. Crazy teenagers.

 

[Tess]

I'll be 50 in July and I really haven't given it much thought.

That's called a senior moment! Try not to feel too bad, we who have passed before you understand.

To the OP, I would tell you to get over it yada yada yada, but you already know that intellectually. You are certainly entitled to feel what you feel.

I turned 50 a couple of months ago (and I don't really advertise it--the whole, just a number thing, not really how I "feel", etc.) and didn't have my first child (my mother's/father's first grandchild) until the year I turned 30. . .I spent my 20s having fun and suggest you do likewise--you can't change what is, so you might as well enjoy it and see how life unfolds.

Just an aside, my husband and I were told while in our mid-20s that we would never be able to have children--we were blessed with two--you just never know what life has in store for you down the road.

 

[jordansmomma]

Lol you guys really ran with this after I went to bed last night.

I am not a miserable human being who wishes I were dead instead of turning 30.

What I am saying is I am just having a hard time as I get closer to 30. Is part of it my biological clock? You bet! Did I think I would be turning 29, living at my parents, divorced with no kids? Heck no.

The world is not coming to an end, I am just a bit down and was looking to see if anyone else has gone through it.

Thanks for all your advice and stories.

aww...Mandy...I feel for ya girl. I just turned 30 this year. at first I struggled with it. But in the end it has been one of the best years so far. I celebrated for 3 wks. Went on a Vegas trip with my girlfriends.

Did I think that at 30 I would be a single of 2 kids? No way Jose!!
I had a plan, but that plan went to hell in a hand basket Thanksgiving break of my senior year. But I made the best of what I was given.

I have been engaged twice, marriage zero...

Age is just a number...

 

[Tiggerlover91]

Lol gee thanks

I know, trust me...29 isn't coming very easy either. I had some people visiting from out of town last week. They spoke a lot about their grandchildren, which prompted my mother to remind me that she doesn't have any. Needless to say they were all reminding how close I am to 30 and still no kids...

You know what...if this was a different type of board I'd use every word I could think of to curse those people! I was 38 when I had my first and I'll be almost 41 or 42 when I have my last...and so what.

Take it easy sweetie, 30 really isn't that bad and no matter how bad it sounds you must live the day for what it is because only g-d knows if you'll have another. Be positive, relax, and have those kids when YOU are ready!