I'm too emotional

[Cyrano]

Thoughts for you both

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Johnny - I've read a lot of your posts and have noticed you mention Joshua. We are in the process of getting Ashley diagnosed with an ASD condition, hopefully a name to his problems will enable the next school to be more aware of his needs than they would be with a vague 'speech/language disorder'. You must have been through all this, I just find it so hard being constantly 'strong' and having to chase and fight for his needs. Took 3 years to get him statemented and then in his 3rd year at his present school, finally seeing an improvement, but he's only got another year there and change again. I feel so drained we've have umpteen years of upset, taking 8 years to conceive in the first place our first son had to have major heart surgery at birth and now this with our second son. I wouldn't change them for the world, they are wonderful, could just do without the problems that we face.
Thanks to everyone for their good wishes, you are such a brilliant lot.

 

[Spook]

Wendy as everyone says you are not too emotional. You are a caring, loving mum who wants to do her best for her children and all of us parents know that it can hard sometimes. Hope you feel better for sharing and all goes well at your next meeting

Jan

 

[Lisash]

Don't feel bad Wendy your boys are lucky to have a mum who obviously loves them so very much. We all get emotional from time to time. Good luck with your next meeting

 

[Ware Bears]

Wendy, sending you lots of

 

[JohnnySharp2]

Johnny - I've read a lot of your posts and have noticed you mention Joshua. We are in the process of getting Ashley diagnosed with an ASD condition, hopefully a name to his problems will enable the next school to be more aware of his needs than they would be with a vague 'speech/language disorder'. You must have been through all this, I just find it so hard being constantly 'strong' and having to chase and fight for his needs. Took 3 years to get him statemented and then in his 3rd year at his present school, finally seeing an improvement, but he's only got another year there and change again. I feel so drained we've have umpteen years of upset, taking 8 years to conceive in the first place our first son had to have major heart surgery at birth and now this with our second son. I wouldn't change them for the world, they are wonderful, could just do without the problems that we face.
Thanks to everyone for their good wishes, you are such a brilliant lot.

I know Wendy it's hard - Joshua was IVF baby, has Autism and Epilepsy...I am sure it couldn't have been much harder really.

Having said that, at his school to be honest there are children who are much more disabled then he is , especially with Josh being phsyically mobile - at the end of the day I agree it does drain you, Josh has always been an early riser too, he gets up before 5 am every morning...sometimes I can be sat watching TV at 9 at night falling asleep, especially as me and Julie both work full time too.

It's hard and I fully understand what you say, a few years ago we went to a specialist (so called specialist) , at a time when Josh was quite stressful when he went to unfamiliar places. Some of the things they said, "doesn't make eye contact"..."has no imagination" etc we have never forgotten, especially as they are untrue. So you think why bother?
Although our local specialist who we see every few months through the school is just the opposite and has always been very helpful.

Josh has just walked in and is staring me in the eyes, ready for his breakfast I think

You deserve a pat on the back for doing the best for your child, the only things we can say is we understand as there are a lot of people who feel just like you do.

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Bless you, thanks for your support. I know we don't actually know each other but to be able to share a bad time helps so much. Off to the meeting in a minute so we'll see what happens. I count my blessing that Ashley is not too bad compared to some children as perhaps you do the same with Josh if there are children around him who suffer worse. Just worry (the same as most parents about what the future holds) about coping in everyday adult life when we're no longer around - pessimistic I know as my DH keeps telling me, realistic I call it.

 

[Nubbedy]

Just wanted to send lots of hugs to you.

I hope everything goes well for your son in his move to next school. It does sound as though there is good support there for him, and the more aware people (teachers etc) are, the more help they can offer.

Be as emotional as you like - this is your son!

Sara.

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Hey meeting went well, the brilliant Ed Psch put into MY language. Gave me an idea of something called Social Stories (an idea of a simple story, read frequently before the child does something that normally causes anxiety or problems - in Ashley's case we are starting on getting organised for school and other outings). All in all with your support and school's support I feel a whole lot better today. Tears have stayed away. Be prepared for a future instalment though!

 

[JohnnySharp2]

Hey meeting went well, the brilliant Ed Psch put into MY language. Gave me an idea of something called Social Stories (an idea of a simple story, read frequently before the child does something that normally causes anxiety or problems - in Ashley's case we are starting on getting organised for school and other outings). All in all with your support and school's support I feel a whole lot better today. Tears have stayed away. Be prepared for a future instalment though!

 

[carolfoy]

Well done Lizzy, and don't worry about adding future installments, we'll all be keen to hear how he gets on.

PS Johnny - another nice new pic of Joshua

 

[gilld]

Having something constructive to do is always helpful. Great news.

 

[princess jackson]

I know this may seem a little belated,

I'm sure my health visitor thinks i'm a over protective mother. Do i care, not a tiny bit.

I got upset, a few weeks ago when she said that there was no food left on the snack table for her. I ask her every day what she had to eat and drink, and the answer is always the same biscuits with salt she means sugar, with milk. (i know deep down this would be untrue) but my heart sank when she said this.

Glad you got everything sorted out.

 

[tink1978]

Sending some to you Wendy.

I am a Psychologist/Counsellor. Once you meet with the E.P. and if you need any further explanations/clarifications, please do not hesitate to pm me.

I am a counselor as well and we are sometimes guilty of talking in terms unknown to the rest of society. It is all right for you to be emotional about your child. You love him and want what is best for him. There is nothing wrong with that and everyone else who knows and loves your son understands you. I hope that everything works out well for him.

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Thanks so much everyone, try to feel positive most of the time but every now and again feel overwhelmed. Must have been one of those days I had last week.

 

[wils]

Glad your meeting went well

Keep smiling