I'm so old fashioned!!! My thoughts on weddings...

[auntpolly]

We went to the most beautiful wedding this past weekend. The bride was beautiful and she had the perfect dress. The groom was handsome and the flowers were pretty, etc., but that wasn't what made it so beautiful.

It was in the church they both grew up and all of their relatives and friends were there. The priests have known them a long time, so it was a personal ceremony and mass. Everyone was so happy. It was in a local party center, very nice, but nothing out of the ordinary for Ohio -- but it was perfect.

I just really prefer this kind of wedding, with the rigatoni buffet and the old aunts cackling around a smoky table, and everyone doing the polka and the chicken dance, and the cookie table and the cheesy entertainer.

I love this celebration of family and friends! I hope DD gets married in our Catholic Church and has a reception just like it -- I'll have all of you in the 30 mile radius making cookies!!! I want every bride to have the wedding of her dreams, but I just hope that if DD does get married someday, she doesn't want a destination wedding!!!!

 

[clarabelle]

Whats a cookie table?
We don't do those in the south (or maybe we do and I have never seen one)

 

[auntpolly]

Whats a cookie table?
We don't do those in the south (or maybe we do and I have never seen one)

Since my DH's family is Italian-American, I've come to know and love the cookie table. Sometimes, the whole thing is catered, but at a really good one, every aunt, cousin and grandma in the family has made all the family favorite cookies and there is a big table with them all on it! So very cool, they sometimes have so many that they put plates and wrapping nearby so you can take some home!

 

[Pixiedust34]

You just gotta love the cookie table!

 

[mickeyfan2]

I too hate the destination wedding but love the cookie table. To me destination wedding are all about look at me and the wedding you went to was about the joining of two families.

 

[clarabelle]

Sounds fun! and tasty!

When I was a little girl most southern weddings were in the Baptist Church with cake, punch, nuts and those little butter mints in the Church Fellowship Hall. A really swanky one had chesse straws!

Now there are a bit more to them -I think we have branched out a bit.

 

[lulugirl]

You just gotta love the cookie table!

Never heard of the cookie table, but I would like one in my kitchen everyday! Maybe we can start a new trend....

 

[auntpolly]

I too hate the destination wedding but love the cookie table. To me destination wedding are all about look at me and the wedding you went to was about the joining of two families.

Well, I don't want to start a debate, but I really do think that sometimes the couple forgets that the wedding isn't just about them.

Looking at how much fun the older relatives were having -- the look of pride and joy in their faces -- you can't buy that stuff!

 

[auntpolly]

Sounds fun! and tasty!

When I was a little girl most southern weddings were in the Baptist Church with cake, punch, nuts and those little butter mints in the Church Fellowship Hall. A really swanky one had chesse straws!

Now there are a bit more to them -I think we have branched out a bit.

That sounds like the ones when I was a lttle girl -- they were lots more subdued, but special in their own way. We used to sit around and watch the bride open the presents!!!!

 

[pfishgirl]

never heard of a cookie table either... but sounds yummy...


my brother is getting married in september..they aren't even having a wedding cake...

they are having cupcakes made and passed out..

 

[Jen_in_NH]

I'm another one who's never heard of a cookie table..... But it sounds like a great idea!!

I got married 2 years ago, with a traditional church service (done by DH's 97 year old grandfather, no less ) and was hoping for a backyard BBQ for a reception. The hurricane changed that.... But many people said that they hadn't been to a wedding like this in quite a while - everyone is doing the cruise ship / Carribean thing. We both wanted to have all of our family and friends with us, not just a cool location.

Just my thoughts.....

Jen

 

[Maleficent13]

Well, I don't want to start a debate

Are you feverish?

 

[hlbtimes2]

The cookie table must be a regional thing. We don't have them here in WA. The last wedding I went to had cupcakes. They were ok, but not something I would have picked. Cupcakes say "birthday party" to me, not wedding.

 

[yearbook50]

I think local weddings are nice when the couple to be wed are raised in a similar area.

Not all couples have that. My family lives in Florida, Georgia and South Carolina. My fiance's family lives in Mass and Arizona. No matter where we decide to get married, someone is going to have to travel a long way. This issue is coming up a lot more than it did in the pass from what I've noticed. Thats one of the reason I chose to have a destination wedding.

 

[Bob Slydell]

We didn't do a destination wedding, but we weren't "traditional" either. We didn't have a cookie table (my sister's wedding did -- they are tradition in my family, but not DW's) and we didn't have the wedding at either one of our parishes (DW never liked the look of her church and mine was in the wrong state ). We had a very formal reception (yes, with no kids) and we forbid things like the chicken dance. Those were just things we preferred, tradition or no tradition.

 

[pearlieq]

If they got the wedding they wanted, great. If another couple wants feather boas or a beach in Aruba, more power to them. If I had let the old fuddy duddy matrons dictate the terms of my wedding, I would have been miserable.

I'm glad we strayed from tradition where we did, and I'm glad we honored the traditions we did. Any my cupcake cake was adorable and delicious and no one had to try to disassemble and cut it!

I will say, though, that this cookie table idea is first rate! Why don't we have these in the midwest???

 

[lbgraves]

OY! The cookie table reminded me about my sister's wedding. My parents paid for the reception & got them a big cake. Her MIL & family brought out trays of sweets & cookies to everyone. My parents were POd beyond belief!!! The MIL hadn't even asked about this. There was a ton of left over cake because people were already full from the cookies.

 

[pfishgirl]

The cookie table must be a regional thing. We don't have them here in WA. The last wedding I went to had cupcakes. They were ok, but not something I would have picked. Cupcakes say "birthday party" to me, not wedding.

i agree about the whole Cupcake thing... It says happy birthday not a wedding day.. oh well.. not like i can force them to have a cake..

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

ahh Destination wedding checking in here!!! BUT we flew in my childhood priests to do the ceremony at a Catholic church in Orlando AFTER our WDW wedding and all the crank aunts were there and we served cookies...oh and i married an Italian...is that close enough?!!?

 

[auntpolly]

I think local weddings are nice when the couple to be wed are raised in a similar area.

Not all couples have that. My family lives in Florida, Georgia and South Carolina. My fiance's family lives in Mass and Arizona. No matter where we decide to get married, someone is going to have to travel a long way. This issue is coming up a lot more than it did in the pass from what I've noticed. Thats one of the reason I chose to have a destination wedding.

Yes, that's true. I just know of alot of people that chose to leave everyone behind in the dust. Sometimes people don't even have much of a family, either -- or just don't get along with them -- there are exceptions.