I'm sitting here in tears :( -- NEW UPDATE (page 5)

[Frantasmic]

Become better at tech stuff than he is and announce the answers when he asks you in front of a crowd.

For example, you aren't limited to email solely by the SERVER size allotted to you by IT.

In Outlook, you can create an infinite number of *.pst files and download to your personal computer all your email and you can save every single email. The key is to have a good place to keep the rather large PST files and name them so that you know which one to load.

Go to outlook, look up PST in the help file or go to www.microsoft.com and research there.

Start seeing his challenges and meeting them and then let him know that ANYONE with research skills can find the answers.

 

[dakcp2001]

Tell this guy, delete old emails or you dont get anymore. That is it, tell him in writing and drop it. I wouldnt argue with him about it, you told him what he needs to know, and if you have it in writing, the ball is in his court. Don't let him put it back in yours. You are letting him treat you this way, and you need to change your behaviour and stop enabling him. Put your foot down.

You are an adult, you need to stop letting im push you around stand up for yourself. Tell him what he needs to know, CYA (cover your behind) by putting everything in writing and if he reuses to do what needs to be done, he will eventually learn the hard way. It will probably take some time, but eventually he will learn.

You are being too nice, I would have called this guy on his beahviour the second or third time he showed it.

 

[stevenrokz]

Well, this happened to me last year, My boss set off without any reason. I kept my patience and left office. My co workers explained it in my absence & later on matter was settled mutually.

I suggest one should look into the situation and select his / her course of action accordingly.

 

[XTinabell]

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I once worked with a girl who was a bully to everyone in the office except me. She actually sucked up to me to the point where I was beyond uncomfortable.

A new girl that sat behind me asked the bully a question and the bully snapped "You don't know that by now? I'm not answering that stupid question." I had asked a similar question the day before and she was more than happy to help me out. My only explanation (besides that she must have been in love with me ) is that I stood up to her my first day working with her. I wouldn't put up with the bullying and I kept her in her place.

Now I get that she was just a coworker and you're dealing with a boss which is different, but I still think that you need to stand up for yourself because nobody else is going to do it for you. If you stand up to him and get fired at least you can leave feeling good about yourself rather than getting fired for not being able to meet one of his ridiculous demands.

In regards to this email thing, I think you should have told him you'll delegate the task to IT and if he has any issues to take it up with them as you're not IT and as far as you're aware he needs to suck it up and print his emails or he'll lose them.

 

[NY Disney fan]

You are letting him treat you this way, and you need to change your behaviour and stop enabling him. Put your foot down.

Oh is that all it is? Wow, I didn't know that.

 

[wvjules]

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I once worked with a girl who was a bully to everyone in the office except me. She actually sucked up to me to the point where I was beyond uncomfortable.

A new girl that sat behind me asked the bully a question and the bully snapped "You don't know that by now? I'm not answering that stupid question." I had asked a similar question the day before and she was more than happy to help me out. My only explanation (besides that she must have been in love with me ) is that I stood up to her my first day working with her. I wouldn't put up with the bullying and I kept her in her place.

Now I get that she was just a coworker and you're dealing with a boss which is different, but I still think that you need to stand up for yourself because nobody else is going to do it for you. If you stand up to him and get fired at least you can leave feeling good about yourself rather than getting fired for not being able to meet one of his ridiculous demands.

In regards to this email thing, I think you should have told him you'll delegate the task to IT and if he has any issues to take it up with them as you're not IT and as far as you're aware he needs to suck it up and print his emails or he'll lose them.

If she said that then she would be giving him incorrect information.

 

[grumpeeduck]

Are you "DISing" during the work day?? If I were the boss, that would not be acceptable..........just sayin'

 

[NY Disney fan]

Are you "DISing" during the work day?? If I were the boss, that would not be acceptable..........just sayin'

Ok I see where this thread is going. Thanks for everyone who has given me valuable advice.

 

[Ciciwoowoo]

I would go to HR and I would make sure that they realize this is emotional abuse and not appropriate in the workplace. I would request a transfer ASAP. Your life will be hell, especially once he finds out you did this, so I would also get my resume together and start looking for a new job.

But your well being and piece of mind is worth far more than money. Its worth it! I worked for a guy who was a terrible racist and would just yell and swear about everything. Sweet revenge, it was a 2 person office and he chased off the other person a week before I left. I was the only one who knew how everything ran. When I left, he called and his wife called, asking me to come back. I said no way!!!

 

[missypie]

Is there an IT director who can explain to him about the email issue?

I remember reading that in the first half of the last century, there were people who refused to believe in manned flight, even when they saw planes flying overhead. I think that is the way some people choose to be about technology. The tech people say they've reached their limits and but some people refuse to believe that there are limits.

One thing they tell us is that if you archive your old Outlook calendar, it frees up space. Have you tried that?

The IT people may want to tell him how much it would cost to buy more space and you could process the request and ask him for a check for that amount.

 

[Normangirls]

Are you "DISing" during the work day?? If I were the boss, that would not be acceptable..........just sayin'

Unnecessary. It does not matter one single iota what she is doing, nothing at all could ever justify his behavior. Period.

OP, I'm sorry you're going through this. You obviously have these options:

1. Keep taking it just to keep the job.
2. Quit now.
3. Quit after finding another job.
4. Confront him.
5. Go over his head or to H.R.

Number 3 is the "best" only if you can put up with him a while longer.

Numbers 4 and 5 are the hardest, and may not change anything, or may make it worse. But you may decide you have nothing to lose. But if you stand up to him, you will feel so much better about yourself, and even if you still end up leaving you'll know you're doing it on your terms.

Tough, tough situation. If you need to vent, feel free (sometimes that helps more than any of my unsolicited advice could).

 

[MarriedToAPrince]

If you are that close to quitting then I would take your complaints to your bosses boss. I had to do that in the past it worked. My boss and I were able to put things behind us and he realized that even though I was new to the job and lower level then him I wouldn't put up with being talked to the way he was talking to me. Maybe him seeing that you won't put up with it anymore will put a stop to it.

 

[shrubber]

Are you "DISing" during the work day?? If I were the boss, that would not be acceptable..........just sayin'

Fair question.
Perhaps the boss is uneasy to get along with because the employees are not working?

 

[frndshpcptn]

Just a note - going to HR may be absolutely no help. A few years back I worked for a company where our HR team was completely unhelpful. We had a boss who was just awful. He was bad at his job, and it really damaged our ability to provide service to our clients.

17 people in the department went to HR to "discuss the issue." They brought documentation.

Nothing ever happened. As far as I know, the boss is still there and they rotate through junior staff pretty regularly.

 

[SundaeAfternoon]

Are you "DISing" during the work day??

Are you?

 

[RNMOM]

I'm really sorry you have to deal with this. I too have had bullies for bosses.

The only thing that helped me was to ask for a meeting. I sat down and told her I was afraid of her then I started crying. I didn't mean to but heck, I do that too easily anyway. She was actually surprised that I felt that way and then we discussed how to handle things from then on. It really worked for me but I don't know how it would do in this situation. If you are planning to quit anyway, maybe consider giving it a try. If you do, make a list of major points to discuss. Don't give him warning about your topic of discussion because you don't want him to get prepared ahead of time. If he asks what you want to meet about, tell him it is something personal.

Good luck. If you must leave, is there another position in the same company available?

 

[Disney Doll]

I have a suggestion.

The next time he starts yelling say "You are creating a hostile work environment for me and now I will be going to HR with my complaint".

Then stand up and go to HR with your complaint. And take all your documentation with you. And be prepared to lose your job because you probaly will. But that would be OK IMHO, because working under the conditions you describe is ridiculous.

Or you can get a new job and then leave. But in that case, you have to keep your mouth shut till you get the new job.

 

[bumbershoot]

Goodness he didn't say that. What a monster.

I had a boss who made a joke about 9/11. In August of '02. In email.

It was the very very last straw in a years-long situation.

When I went in for my exit interview, after making sure that the boss wasn't going to be in, I took my printed out emails (I'd been emailing them to myself at home and even printing them from my desk for months), including the 9/11 one, and gave them all over.

Shortly after the busy season, they fired him. Thanks to my documentation.




OP, I feel for you!

 

[JennMouse32]

Try going to HIS boss​

 

[Darsa]

Originally Posted by grumpeeduck
Are you "DISing" during the work day?? If I were the boss, that would not be acceptable..........just sayin'

Fair question.
Perhaps the boss is uneasy to get along with because the employees are not working?

Uncool. She wants advice, not a beatdown; very uncool. I know that at MY work, I have periods of time when I'm waiting for data to load and show up on my dinosaur of a computer, and I can either sit there and twiddle my thumbs, or do like MY boss and fiddle around on the computer 'til it loads. She plays games on msn; I DIS.

The point is; I think your best bet is to follow the chain of command upward; HE is obviously a rung that needs to be gone past, and see how you do with HIS boss. And on. And I can't say "document everything!" enough. See if you can find yourself a connection in HR as well; that's what they're there for.

Good luck!