I'm jealous of you Disney couples

[remark44]

My DH enjoys Disney but he is not at the level that those of us on the boards. He does not understand my obsession.

I was just sharing the exciting news about the Fantasyland expansion and Star Tours. I said we have to go back in 2011. (Side note: We just got back from the world last week and also went last Nov. So I knew I wasn't going to get him to go in 2010.) His response was, you know it is still going to be there in 2013. I would rather go somewhere you need a passport next vacation.

I get so jealous when I read about the couples on the boards that enjoy doing the planning together and went on the cruise together.

2011 will be my 40th birthday and I am thinking about taking a trip by myself.

Thanks for listening. I know there are others out there in my situation. How do you handle it?

 

[Disneylover:)]

2011 will be my 40th birthday and I am thinking about taking a trip by myself.

Good for you!

 

[MonkeyPants]

I would rather go somewhere you need a passport next vacation.

Disney Paris

 

[rn4val]

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have been to WDW many times and last Sept was my husband's first time and although he enjoyed it he does not understand my love for Disney. His eyes glaze over when I relate stuff I read on the boards or the podcast. Maybe we ought to form a group and go together.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

Disney Paris

That is a great idea!

As is Tokyo Disneyland!

 

[maltdisney]

Take him to the F&W fest one year and walk him around the world showcase a couple of times.

1. Drink beer
2. Eat yummy food
3. See (1)

If that doesn't make a believer out of him, nothing will!

 

[Quicklabs]

I gotta say, my DH looked at me like I had two heads when I told him I wanted to take a Disney Cruise for our 25th wedding anniversary in 2005.
Five years later, he insists on doing our 30th on Disney! He will consider no other cruise line. We've booked the 10 day Mediterranean cruise for 2010. I strongly suspect it has to do with noh having to rent a tux for formal nights.
Honestly, there is always hope! Hang in there!

 

[Claudia Kellenberger]

This December will be my 11th annual solo Disney World vacation. Hubby stays home with the 2 cats.

We're both happier this way.

Give it a try. Also, when you have a cell phone you can keep in frequent contact.

 

[DVCJones]

my only advice would be to continue giving him small doses. I did that with my DH and now he is loving it as much as I do. Okay, maybe not AS much, but, he does really enjoy going.

Hang in there!! I love the idea of Disney Paris....

 

[cocowum]

Honestly, there is always hope! Hang in there!

I agree with this! My DH thought I was crazy for spending so much time on the DIS planning our trips. Now, he's worse than me. Give him time.

 

[mainegal]

I will be the dissenting voice.

There really is another world other than Walt Disney World. Really!

Try for a balanced, rather than obsessed life. Maybe you would enjoy a vacation someplace that needs a passport that doesn't have a Disney park. (I know I would!)

If you want to treat yourself with a WDW trip for your 40th birthday and you can afford, go for it! But allow for compromise and consideration and cooperation in your marriage.


All the best, and good luck!

 

[Tinkerbellie16]

Dupe

 

[Tinkerbellie16]

Dupe

 

[scarlett873]

I gotta say, my DH looked at me like I had two heads when I told him I wanted to take a Disney Cruise for our 25th wedding anniversary in 2005.
Five years later, he insists on doing our 30th on Disney! He will consider no other cruise line. We've booked the 10 day Mediterranean cruise for 2010. I strongly suspect it has to do with noh having to rent a tux for formal nights.
Honestly, there is always hope! Hang in there!

My DH is the same way now! We tried a different cruise line prior to the podcast cruise and he hated the idea of cruising. It took some convincing in order to get him onto DCL for the podcast cruise and he LOVED it! While cruising isn't his first choice for vacations, I can at least get him onto DCL without too much trouble...

I am the Disney nut in our house. I love Disney and would happily spend every vacation there. DH...not so much. He enjoys himself when he's there, but prefers to explore other destinations. He's okay with me going without him to the World...as long as i'm with a group of friends. I did that for MouseFest last year and will be doing it again for DAP this year.

I have learned to just give in and go other places every now and then...if it keeps him happy and I can still get to WDW, then it's worth it!

 

[turkeymama]

Take him to the F&W fest one year and walk him around the world showcase a couple of times.

1. Drink beer
2. Eat yummy food
3. See (1)

If that doesn't make a believer out of him, nothing will!

This is excellent advice. My hubby loves Disney, although not quite as obsessed with planning as I am. We have been to the F&W festival in 2005 and 2008 and he has a great time at those.

 

[JenniBugInPink]

2011 will be my 40th birthday and I am thinking about taking a trip by myself.

Actually, I'm looking forward to my first trip by myself, but that's MY issue, LOL! I notice that you have 2 little princesses. Maybe you could take a Mommy/daughter trip. I don't have any children, and I'm older than dirt, but I took many vacations with my mom as a kid and we left Dad at home working. Let Dad do something he'd rather do if he doesn't want to go to Disney.

Next year either I'm going alone, or I'm taking a friend and her two college age daughters with me (they're like my grandkids, and one of them turns 18 next year, so it will be her present). DH wants a year off from Disney himself.

 

[rlduvall]

I admit I have felt some pangs of jealousy when I see the married couples on here together, both excited about Disney. That would be so fun. BUT, DH has many interests that I am not 'in to', i.e. golf, OU football, and I truly think that's perfectly normal. When he starts talking about getting OU/Texas tickets and how much fun it would be to go to Dallas for it that weekend and spend all that money - my eyes glaze over. Much like his do when I talk Disney. I would never threaten or cajole my DH into coming with me to Disney World. What fun is there in that? He was all for us/me getting DVC - so he certainly doesn't suppress my Disney desire. And honestly, when he does go, he starts griping about things and makes me nervous, probably just like I would be at an OU/Texas game, and I realize I actually have more fun without him. Plus, when I return from a Disney trip he's so happy to see me . . . and I get my way for at least a couple of days.

How I handle it: Go to WDW with a girlfriend [which is really fun to escape being an adult for a short ime], annual summer trips with our son . . . and now solo December trips to meet all the dis'ers.

I think the key to happiness in a "Disney divided" household is for each individual to respect the other's need to do things in life that make them happy. Life is all about balance.

 

[nenner1]

My DH was never a Disney Crazie. He always enjoyed going to WDW but was never the one who *HAD* to go there every year or got all excited about it. I was the one who got onthe DIS and listened to the podcast, read all the Disney books, bought the Treasures DVD's... and he would begrudgingly indulge me when I wanted to gush all things Disney to him.

His big turn was when we went on DCL, something happened on that ship and now he appreciates and enjoys all things Disney on a level I never expected. He now initiates WDW visits and excitedly helps plan (he has been kind enough to do the dirty work like spend a lot of time on the ADR line for me!) He even posts on the boards now and grows more enthusiastic by the day.

It is wonderful to share my love of Disney with him without feeling like I am boring him or crazy. But to those of you whose spouses do not share your enthusiasm, give it some time. It is never too late for them to come around!

 

[ScubaMickey]

I totally understand your disappointment with trying to share Disney news with your family and receiving a less than enthusiastic response. I also went home all excited after listening to the DCL annoucement on the web cast about the new itineraries to Alaska and Mexico. My husband's response was I was going on the Med Cruise with my Mom in 2010 and that should satisfy my wishes to go on DCL.

We are are attending Food & Wine in November for a day. One Disney visit a year is enough for him.

It would be a great time if Kathy, Julie, and Teresa would host a park meet for the GIRLS!

ScubaMikey

 

[sau418]

Same boat here, DH will go, but he is just not that into it. This year I suprised him by throwing in a no parks day for our girls to relax and recover a bit in the middle of the week. When we actually got to WL to check in I told him I had made plans for him to golf on our no park day. THAT made his trip, I think if I can throw that in each time we go he will be a much better sport. He could not stop talking about the golf course after he played. We all have our vices, Disney is mine, Golf is his.

We are slowly starting to talk about going back in 2011 and he suggested maybe doing a watercraft thing. The parks are not the only thing there and if everybody gets to do a little of what they want it will make for a much more fun trip.