I'm Giving up on finding a woman.

[LuvsDragonflies]

Meh, I'm married and looking to be single. Once single again, I couldn't care less about meeting "Mr. Right", I'll be happy to be living my own life without anyone hanging around thinking I need to answer to him.

It's better to be alone and happy than miserable and with someone who helps you be more miserable.

For those who still want to search, best of luck.

 

[goofyintoronto]

It's better to be alone and happy than miserable and with someone who helps you be more miserable.

Yes this is very true. I'd much rather be happy alone than to be miserable with someone. My life started after I divorced. I was so much happier.

 

[disneychic2]

I married at 18 right out of high school and my husband left me three weeks ago after 23 years of marriage because he is having an affair with the receptionist at work. I can't even imagine getting back into the dating scene but the thought of being alone for the rest of my life makes me so sad. Two of our kids are grown and one is a junior in high school and one is in 2nd grade, so at least he will need me for a few more years, but after that, then what? This is not how I wanted my life to turn out and I am having a hard time accepting it. I also don't understand why my husband left me for such an ugly little troll.

I'm so sad for you! Your pain is so new and my heart goes out to you. This is not your fault and you are not a failure! Surround yourself with people who will lift you up and continue to find happiness in your children. I hope after you grieve for your marriage and get through the anger, you'll understand you are so much better off without a cheating husband. Good luck to you!

It's better to be alone and happy than miserable and with someone who helps you be more miserable.

This is why I got divorced many years ago. I never in a million years thought I would date let alone remarry. But God had other plans for me and I met and married my best friend who had custody of his two boys and I had my two girls. We started our own "Brady Bunch" and here we are almost 27 years later, empty nesters and enjoying our lives together. You just never know what is in store for you. Whether you are happy being single or are looking for someone, I wish all of you the very best!

 

[dismom2005]

I think i'll give up on women for now. quick history on me. I'm now 40 years old, got married out of highschool, married forever, got a divorce 2 years ago , she cheated i ended the marriage, my oldest son lives with me and my 9 year old daughter lives with me like 70% of the time. anyway it seems like nobody meets my standards. I don't want to date or marry someone with a half dozen kids, I don't smoke, I don't drink... just a family man. Anyway just throwing this out there... I'm content on just raising my kids and let it be. I do have friends that are girls but the ones that ask me out aren't my type. I'm very happy just raising my kids.

I am recently divorced and joined the dating scene as well after a fairly long marriage and children. I have run into my share of "losers" as well, however what i've noticed is that as we get older, we become a lot pickier! I would not date a smoker, but to single out anyone who has a glass of wine with dinner as "a drinker" sounds like you're excluding a huge number of people. Not everyone at 40 who has been through a divorce has perfect credit either, luckilly my ex and I were financially responsible but divorce can drain even the healthiest of bank accounts.

All I am staying is that while you shouldn't lower your standards to date, just remember that women are just human. Everyone has faults, it's just finding someone who you love faults and all. I have a single girlfriend, 41, who has such a long list of what she wants in a man, a list that excludes 99.5% of the population, that she will likely never find him. She has faults too, but she doesn't want to look at herself and see she is, like all the rest of us, not perfect either.

 

[ols386]

Met the most wonderful woman here on the DIS, wasn't even lookin', married her last year!

Love it, love it, love it!




That's just it, you never know when and where you might happen to meet that special one.

Hang in there, op. Just live your life, enjoy the time with your kids (they grow up so very fast), and be happy. If/when the right person comes along, it will happen when it happens..not something anyone can force.

 

[ols386]

I married at 18 right out of high school and my husband left me three weeks ago after 23 years of marriage because he is having an affair with the receptionist at work. I can't even imagine getting back into the dating scene but the thought of being alone for the rest of my life makes me so sad. Two of our kids are grown and one is a junior in high school and one is in 2nd grade, so at least he will need me for a few more years, but after that, then what? This is not how I wanted my life to turn out and I am having a hard time accepting it. I also don't understand why my husband left me for such an ugly little troll.

So sorry. That's gotta be so very tough, but you are probably better off without him if he cheated on you.

The bolded statement is confusing to me. Not sure why he needs you until the youngest is grown. But anyway, you have to live your life for you. You (or anyone for that matter) don't need to have a spouse to have a fulfilling life.

Again, sorry for your situation.

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

I think she means the 2nd grader will need her a few more years, .

 

[disneydeal]

I change my mind.. if one of you can get me a date with Jenny McCarthy I'll go on it. Just Sayin

 

[alex9179]

I change my mind.. if one of you can get me a date with Jenny McCarthy I'll go on it. Just Sayin

mmmhmmmm, because Jenny personifies your little checklist.

Do we have a BIG, GIANT EYE ROLL smilie?

 

[disneydeal]

no just cause she's so dang cute and needs a man like me.......

 

[Albort]

Dont you just hate the friend card?

 

[disneydeal]

lol girls hate me using the friend card...

 

[brunette8706]

no just cause she's so dang cute and needs a man like me.......

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LOL!!!!!!!!!

What exactly are you looking for in a woman? Or is it a "girl"? lol!

 

[MouseJunkie]

I've pretty much all but given up myself! Try being 39 and never been married and enjoying the stigma that goes along with that. I sometimes feel like a circus anomaly. I actually had a date ask me, "So, what's wrong with you?" " Instantly smirking(luckily it was over the phone), I quick-wittedly replied, "That is the million dollar question, isn't it!" Then followed up with, "Ummm...nothing...apparently, some big man upstairs just has bigger plans for me!" I pretty much avoid family reunions altogether. Although, at least I've trained the immediate family members not to ask such silly questions or there going to get the death stare.

Let's just say, I've had more than my fair share of frogs...and frogs and more frogs and even more frogs. I guess that's my payback for being a fan of Kermit. You don't even want to know what happened on my last date. I'm almost afraid to go on another. lol

But seriously, it'd be nice not to have to do EVERYTHING all by myself SOME DAY and I do get lonely sometimes, but I just focus on other things. I suppose it will happen, when I'm 102! Otherwise, I'll be spending my golden years hanging out in the back of my cousins Buick, rocking the blue hair!