Hi ladies. I've been lurking here for a while and I'm so excited to finally be able to post! I got engaged on Christmas Day even though I knew it was coming for 2 weeks as I was with DF when he picked out the ring. I'm really hoping to have an Escape wedding on March 3, 2009 at 5pm at the WP with dinner at the Yachtsman Steakhouse. If I can't have the wedding, I'm definitely having my Disneymoon.
And as I'm said in the title, I've been engaged for 47 hours and am already having family issues.
Issue #1: DB came over to the house on Christmas morning and announced his engagement also. Knowing my brother and knowing that if I ruined his day I'd have to hear him insult me and be a general butthead I chose to keep my own engagement a secret for the time being. I finally told my parents when we returned home from my aunt's house that night.
Fast forward to last night. Mom and I are discussing when I'm going to tell everyone. We're supposed to go to my cousin's (Mom's niece) house on Sunday and I was informed I can not say anything as my brother is going to be telling everyone. Oh and that I MUST tell Dad's side on New Year's Day when we see them. As I'm now over the age of 10, I HATE being told what to do. I'm the youngest of 7 and have been bossed around my whole life so now that I'm 21, it's ticking me off a little. We don't see Mom's side of the family nearly as often as we do Dad's and I'd just like to get it all over with. But once again, I can't say anything because DB will have a fit. He's 24 but the biggest baby I've ever met. I'm not sure what I'm going to do but I really would like to be able to tell people.
Issue #2: The guest list! My parents are Disney freaks like I am and since DB won't have a Disney wedding, after Mom got over the initial shock, she asked if I would and immediately logged onto disneyweddings.com. I don't know why she bothered as I've been planning my wedding since I started lurking on this board almost 2 years ago. I've even made a few wish books.
There is no way my parents or DF and I can afford a Wishes wedding. And if I were to invite all of my siblings the Escape limit would be filled. The good news is I'm not all that fond of all of my siblings and haven't spoken to some in a few years so I'm not too worried about them. Mean I know but it's how it goes. I originally had the guest list all figured out, inviting only 2 of my siblings and their SO's. Mom obviously doesn't think it's right that I don't invite my other 2 brothers whom I do see on a fairly regular basis.
Let me give you a little background on my mother. My sister got married 2 years ago in a quickie wedding as she was 8 months pregnant and my nephew was born with bi-lateral cleft lip and palate. In order for him to have BIL's insurance they needed to be married. The wedding started out as a courthouse thing with dinner for the immediate family afterwards. Needless to say, because of Mom it turned into a wedding for 60+ people planned in a little over 3 months. Mom had to have her only living sister at the wedding and seeing as DS is close to my aunts' on Dad's side we couldn't leave them out. So it snowballed from there.
While we planned DS's wedding I constantly told everyone who would listen my wedding was not going to turn into this. It was going to be exactly how I wanted and that was that. I was not inviting anyone I don't want there. I guess Mom wasn't paying attention because now she's back to telling me who to invite. Even last night she made a comment that we could have a wedding similar to DS's with just the aunts and uncles. Problem is I DON'T WANT THAT! Not to mention if we have the wedding up here I don't think DF's mom or sister could afford to come. But if we have a Disney wedding they'd only have to drive about an hour to be there.
If Mom keeps this up, we're eloping to Vegas like I've wanted to all along.
If you've read all this thank you! And thank you for letting me vent. I can't wait to officially be able to start planning our wedding.
And as I'm said in the title, I've been engaged for 47 hours and am already having family issues.
Issue #1: DB came over to the house on Christmas morning and announced his engagement also. Knowing my brother and knowing that if I ruined his day I'd have to hear him insult me and be a general butthead I chose to keep my own engagement a secret for the time being. I finally told my parents when we returned home from my aunt's house that night.
Fast forward to last night. Mom and I are discussing when I'm going to tell everyone. We're supposed to go to my cousin's (Mom's niece) house on Sunday and I was informed I can not say anything as my brother is going to be telling everyone. Oh and that I MUST tell Dad's side on New Year's Day when we see them. As I'm now over the age of 10, I HATE being told what to do. I'm the youngest of 7 and have been bossed around my whole life so now that I'm 21, it's ticking me off a little. We don't see Mom's side of the family nearly as often as we do Dad's and I'd just like to get it all over with. But once again, I can't say anything because DB will have a fit. He's 24 but the biggest baby I've ever met. I'm not sure what I'm going to do but I really would like to be able to tell people.
Issue #2: The guest list! My parents are Disney freaks like I am and since DB won't have a Disney wedding, after Mom got over the initial shock, she asked if I would and immediately logged onto disneyweddings.com. I don't know why she bothered as I've been planning my wedding since I started lurking on this board almost 2 years ago. I've even made a few wish books.
There is no way my parents or DF and I can afford a Wishes wedding. And if I were to invite all of my siblings the Escape limit would be filled. The good news is I'm not all that fond of all of my siblings and haven't spoken to some in a few years so I'm not too worried about them. Mean I know but it's how it goes. I originally had the guest list all figured out, inviting only 2 of my siblings and their SO's. Mom obviously doesn't think it's right that I don't invite my other 2 brothers whom I do see on a fairly regular basis.
Let me give you a little background on my mother. My sister got married 2 years ago in a quickie wedding as she was 8 months pregnant and my nephew was born with bi-lateral cleft lip and palate. In order for him to have BIL's insurance they needed to be married. The wedding started out as a courthouse thing with dinner for the immediate family afterwards. Needless to say, because of Mom it turned into a wedding for 60+ people planned in a little over 3 months. Mom had to have her only living sister at the wedding and seeing as DS is close to my aunts' on Dad's side we couldn't leave them out. So it snowballed from there.
While we planned DS's wedding I constantly told everyone who would listen my wedding was not going to turn into this. It was going to be exactly how I wanted and that was that. I was not inviting anyone I don't want there. I guess Mom wasn't paying attention because now she's back to telling me who to invite. Even last night she made a comment that we could have a wedding similar to DS's with just the aunts and uncles. Problem is I DON'T WANT THAT! Not to mention if we have the wedding up here I don't think DF's mom or sister could afford to come. But if we have a Disney wedding they'd only have to drive about an hour to be there.
If Mom keeps this up, we're eloping to Vegas like I've wanted to all along.
If you've read all this thank you! And thank you for letting me vent. I can't wait to officially be able to start planning our wedding.
Ever since I realized I would actually get married I've just wanted to elope to Vegas and not tell anyone until we came back. Unfortunately my mom's good at guilt trips and I know it would kill her. So I'm trying to find a compromise but she won't make it easy.
