I'm back from court, and it wasn't how I wanted it to go...(minor update)

[Stepharoonie!]

Thanks everyone, I appreciate the support.

 

[Cthia]

So sorry things did not go the way you wanted. It sounds like you are having a very nasty divorce and custody problem. I sure hope there will be people that can stand up for you. I hope you have a lawyer. It sounds like his lawyer will rake you over the coals.

I don't think it should matter how much you make an hour as long as you can support your child. Good for you for thinking of what is best for your child. I wonder if the lawyer was making the comment about what you make so that will be less your ex would have to pay. It seems if you make over a certain amount then that is less child support you get, for MA anything over $15, 000 is considered extra income. Not much of an incentive to get a better job.

 

[castlegazer]

I'm sorry I am late on this, but man, this situation always makes me cry. I can't imagine the pain it is putting you through and the absolute tradegy of putting Maddie through it all. I would also just document, document, document, and maybe by then you will have more ammunition to go after full custody the next go round. She is getting older and will be able to tell you more and more about what goes on in her Daddy's life - and from what you tell us, it won't be flattering or help his case.

I will always keep you in my thoughts.

 

[tidoublegger]

Hey Steph~ how far away does Daddy Dearest live that he can't bring her to the same daycare she goes to when she's with you?

 

[Poohbear123]

Sorry to hear about your situation, the Judge does not sound very fair to me.

 

[Aimeedyan]

Just read this... I'm so sorry things went the way they did. Some of those lawyers have no regards for the lives that they are reeking havoc in.

Is there anything in the court system that would allow for a child advocate to be appointed for Maddie? Now, I know that it wouldn't be for you and Maddie, but just Maddie... and you may not feel comfortable with that, but perhaps a child advocate that knows something about the development of children in regards to stability in preschool years can make a plea to the judge on HER behalf about this back and forth crap.

I know that child advocates are used in cases, but I honestly don't know anything more than that... just thought i'd throw it out. Your lawyer might know if such a thing is a possiblity. Judges often don't have any clue about child development.

 

[Mimi Q]

 

[Lewski709]

Patience grasshopper.....good things come to those who wait. I also believe that in due time, he will get what is coming to him. Full circle, ya know?

 

[Kitty 34]

So sorry you have to go thru this, Steph. {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

 

[canwegosoon]

Hoping that your attorney steps it up a little for your final divorce... I am sorry that you did not get better news...I would prepare with doucmentation (hard copy) from Disney as to the benefits/services available to help you be the better parent for your child...I agree what's with non divorced man/woman doing being engaged...doesn't sound like they are the type of people that aren't committed to relationships. Divorce first, then move on. Iam praying that you have a hard nose lawyer...you will need one!!!

 

[DoeWDW]

Steph, I'm sorry to hear things ended up this way, but it is TEMPORARY, thank goodness. I hope and pray that the final divorce hearing comes up quickly and you are awarded sole custody. Until then, do your best to help Maddy with the weekly transition - it will be hard for both of you.

 

[Antonia]

Stepahroonie - who is your ex still married to? I noticed you said that he and his fiance are still married but yet engaged.

 

[phillybeth]

her ex is still married to HER! That's why they are getting divorced