I'm a Nervous Wreck (female advice)

[Disney_1derland]

There is nothing that can be said but that I am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you both.

 

[mickeyboat]

I am so sorry for your loss.

Denae

 

[rascalmom]

I'm so very sorry. Take time to comfort each other - I went through this a few years ago. It's a tough time - many hugs to both of you.

 

[lovetheparks]

I'm so sorry.

 

[FSUGrad97]

I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your wife are in my thoughts.

 

[Jennifer S]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have been there too. There is nothing anyone can say or do to make you feel better. Just time.

 

[llij]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Sorry

 

[Alicnwondrln]

So sorry

 

[Minnesota!]

I am so sorry. I have been there more times than I care to remember. It is an extremely hard thing to go through. Comfort your wife. Make sure she doesn't think it's "her fault". Unfortunately these things happen. I am sure you guys had this baby's future mapped out, and to lose that dream is crushing. Know you are not alone and that you have close to 100000 people here praying for your healing.

**hugs** to you and special **hugs** to your wife because I know her grief...

 

[tmq2766]

I am SOOOOOOOO Sorry

 

[Antonia]

I am so sorry , too. I have been following this thread hoping for good news. You sound like a caring husband and I am sure the two of you will get through this together.

 

[Kitty 34]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[scoutsmom99]

sorry for your loss.

 

[ckmommy]

I am sorry for both you and your wife!!

 

[Blueeyes101817]

so sorry to hear this!

 

[lecach]

Im so so sorry. My DH and I were in your shoes almost 2 years ago.. We went for our 9 week visit on Dec. 19, 2003 and found out during the ultrasound that we had lost the pregnancy. But we conceived again 3 months later and last December (7th) I gave birth to our son. So please dont lose hope. I know what its like and how horrible it feels. Only time can heal the pain.

 

[boomhauer]

Back at work today.

Yesterday was pretty much the worst day of my life. It was devestating for me, but to see and hear my wife in tears all day was just too much for me. A grown 29 year old man trying not to cry is a pretty bad site. I don't know what to do. She's basically comotose right now. Wants nothing to do with anybody. No comfort or anything.

 

[Disney_1derland]

Back at work today.

Yesterday was pretty much the worst day of my life. It was devestating for me, but to see and hear my wife in tears all day was just too much for me. A grown 29 year old man trying not to cry is a pretty bad site. I don't know what to do. She's basically comotose right now. Wants nothing to do with anybody. No comfort or anything.

This is a grieving process and it's a long one and probably one of the more painful grieving processes you can go through because not only have you lost a person in your lives, you've lost the promise of so many wonderful things and all you have left are the 'what if's'. I've been through this twice. Some people will tell you it's silly to grieve or it's wrong or whatever. That is so NOT true. You must go through a grieving process. Just be there for her and don't stop trying to be there even when she pushes you away. I know you won't, but from a woman's perspective she *knows* you're there and right now that's enough. She's probably afraid to feel anything at this point because she is afraid of how bad it's going to hurt to feel it. It's a terrifying feeling. If you're off this weekend, wipe your calender clear and just dedicate it to her. What finally broke through to me after about a week was my dh telling me that he needed me to help him with his feelings of grief. Then I realized I wasn't alone and we were a mess for about another week. Then we kinda pulled it together and started to pick up the pieces. It didn't get easier for a long time but we did it together. So many hugs for both of you, and prayers too.

 

[Nancy]

I am so sorry. I have also been there and it is very hard. Do not let her blame herself for this. I did that for a bit because I wasn't sure if I wanted to be pregnant again, so when we lost the baby I thought it was all my fault. Took me a while to get over that. Dh tried, but he really was at a loss. I knew he was grieving too, his grief made him work more, mine made me quiet. We got through it and had DD #3 who is now a wonderful, soon to be 13 year old.