If YOUR husband did this, what would you do?

[barkley]

i would be livid-neither dh nor i make large purchases (or even medium for that matter) without consulting each other......except once.....i did......

i went to the local car dealership and picked a newer than new (the next year's model) fully loaded mustang g.t. and did'nt tell my husband-until he got home from work and i told him "early happy birthday-go to the dealership your mustang is waiting for you to bring it home".

i don't recall him being upset about it

 

[Quinn222]

I'd take out an ad and sell the boat.

 

[7onbuzz]

Sounds to me like the guy is just extremely selfish and puts himself ahead of his family. Even if his kids enjoy being on the boat, I'm sure they'd enjoy camping in the pop up just as much. He did it for himself. If this is just a first time thing, then maybe she can keep an eye on him in the future. If it's just another even in a long series of events, then his wife and kids are in for a lifetime of disappointment, and you're in for an earful everytime his wife comes over to complain to your wife.

 

[barkley]

I'd take out an ad and sell the boat.

and then take out an ad on freecycle for the husband.

 

[John VN]

Taking the kids fishing is one of the best activities to do with your kids. If he is willing to do this why should she be complaining. Think of all the ME time she will have.

Besides, if he gets real good at Bass fishing he could go out and win million$ fishing in the big fish tournaments all around the country.

 

[poohandwendy]

It would definitely depend on the financial situation. If they are struggling tomake bills to begin with, this would be a huge issue. If it's not so much about the expense, but his lack of taking her input into consideration, I think it would cause some hard feelings but not a huge deal.

If he, as another poster suggested, has a habit of this....that would be a real problem. But if that is the case, I am wondering why she didn't go with him to make the purchase.

 

[Mickeyfaniam]

I would be furious... and I wouldn't stay married to someone that selfish ...

however ...if it wouldn't take food off the table or the roof from over their heads.. then I'd say....

"then take your boat fishing .... but take the kids with you and I'll be out shopping ...spending money on myself "
lets see... what would I like

I like to get even

 

[Tantor]

I'd put him in the boat and set it adrift! That poor man if married to me would be buegging to be put adrift after having to listen to me crab and complain about it!

 

[Tinijocaro]

For me personally, I wouldn't rant and rave over it. It's only money, afterall.

It's "only money" if you have money. To the rest of us who struggle to get by, it's a huge deal.

 

[slo]

I don't know what I would do - but my DH would never do that , so I guess I'm lucky!!!

 

[mickeyfan2]

My DH would have never gone to the store to buy it without me there too. He would want my input into which one to pick. So in our case it would have never happened.

Now if it was me I would have him return it or sell it (if he really can't return it) and then I would buy the camper.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I would think dh is crazy, since us girls are the ones that like to fish.

DH is in process of buying a 'deck boat'. We are going on a boating vacation in 4 weeks, with 20 friends.
I am not happy about getting another boat, but he loves boating. It will NOT be a new boat, however.

In the OP's situation, I would be angry and sell the sucker, and get a my pop-up camper.

 

[poohandwendy]

I don't know what I would do - but my DH would never do that , so I guess I'm lucky!!!

Not lucky...smart.

As with anything, communicating about how financial decisions will be made, respecting your spouse, being straightforward and honest...these are BASIC's in a healthy marriage. Luck (good or bad) has nothing to do with a marriage that works and respecting the person you chose to share life with.

I remember reading that financial issues was one of the most often cited reasons for divorce. And it's no wonder because it isn't just about money, it's about respect, a sense of joint responsibility and honesty.

(not picking on your choice of words, just pointing out that it isn't by chance that your DH respects you enough to know whether or not this would be ok with you. And as an example of how important communication in a marriage is)

 

[Evil Queen]

If I was her and he said he couldn't take it back, I'd be placing an ad in the paper to sale it.

 

[Bunchkin]

So this man buys a boat, something we wasn't supposed to buy, and they are on a limited income to begin with!!! And the purpose of buying the pop-up camper was to allow his family cheaper vacations. But yet he selfishly chooses to buy something that suits his needs, not the families. And he's the one not working.

There would be big trouble in our house if DH ever did that.
But, he wouldn't. That's not how we are. Everything is agreed upon together and no one ever makes big purchases alone.

I'd put a for sale sign on it.

 

[Southern4sure]

I would let him keep it and take the kids fishing all by himself. Each time he went fishing I would get a pedicure and pamper myself for the day. I would use this time to eat lunch with friends and etc.

 

[DVC Sadie]

I have a different POV if you will on this scenario. It doesn't matter how much income a family has to spend on "things".

It all has to do with respect and caring for others by having a conversation in how any disposable income is being spent. I'm talking large purchases here,
not scrapbooking stuff.

The husband should sell the boat, The wife needs to ask herself why she keeps allowing this behavior. The OP needs to talk to his dw about finding new friends that doesn't come over for 2 hours, cutting into family time, on Mothers Day.

 

[tw1nsmom]

I would sell the boat. If I was feeling particularly generous, I would get him a used canoe with some of the money and buy the pop-up with the rest. It's all about communication and respect. If my DH had talked to me about it before hand, I wouldn't have a problem. Going behind my back would have made me see red.

 

[Papa Deuce]

I have a different POV if you will on this scenario. It doesn't matter how much income a family has to spend on "things".

It all has to do with respect and caring for others by having a conversation in how any disposable income is being spent. I'm talking large purchases here,
not scrapbooking stuff.

The husband should sell the boat, The wife needs to ask herself why she keeps allowing this behavior. The OP needs to talk to his dw about finding new friends that doesn't come over for 2 hours, cutting into family time, on Mothers Day.

No big deal to me! I was at work!

 

[Galahad]

Not a wife but: That's just nuts! For many years I made more money that DW. For the past several years, she makes LOTS more money that I do and she still talks to me about every purchase. If someone brings no income into the household though, it seems to me they'd be doubly likely to talk over a purchase. Sounds to me like there are bigger problems that a boat and a trailer.