If YOUR husband did this, what would you do?

[Papa Deuce]

My next door neighbor went out to buy a pop up trailer for his family today. He came back with a used bass boat.

His wife is FURIOUS. She was over our house venting to my wife for 2 HOURS! She was mostly upset because they aren't exactly rich, and she thought that if they bought a pop up trailer they could save lots of money on family vacations.

He is a fishing nut. The kids seem to like the idea of the boat. She hates fishing and is just "ok" with being on a boat.

He says he "can't " take it back.... ( I do not know why )

What would you do?

 

[Nancy]

I'd put him in the boat and set it adrift! That poor man if married to me would be buegging to be put adrift after having to listen to me crab and complain about it!

Why would he make that big a purchase without her ok?

 

[ADisneygirl]

For me personally, I wouldn't rant and rave over it. It's only money, afterall. If he loves fishing that much then let him have it I say. If I loved something as much, I'd expect to get the same support in fullfilling my dreams too. She should forget a pop up camper -- vacations are at hotels and resorts!


The only thing that would make it a different situation to me is if he were spending money we didn't have, like mortgage money or college fund money. Then I would be upset; not over the actual purchase but because of his lack of responsibility.

 

[Beth76]

Well first I'd be happy that I didn't have to go camping. Really though, I don't know what I would do. My husband would never make a big purchase without consulting me.

 

[Papa Deuce]

For me personally, I wouldn't rant and rave over it. It's only money, afterall. If he loves fishing that much then let him have it I say. If I loved something as much, I'd expect to get the same support in fullfilling my dreams too. She should forget a pop up camper -- vacations are at hotels and resorts!


The only thing that would make it a different situation to me is if he were spending money we didn't have, like mortgage money or college fund money. Then I would be upset; not over the actual purchase but because of his lack of responsibility.

I'm sure they would, if they could. He doesn't work due to medical conditions, and she is a sunbstitute teacher and teacher's aid.

 

[babytrees]

I personally wouldn't have let him go shopping with so big a thing without me tagging along. Who the heck goes out for one BIG thing and comes back with a totally different thing without any input from their SO?

I think I would see how far he could go swimming behind the boat.

 

[Colleen456]

I'd stick a for sale sign on the boat and the hubby!

 

[momrek06]

Reading your Thread, OP, tells me ONE thing....HE HAS DONE STUFF LIKE THIS BEFORE....

Yup, I will bet anything he has told his DW that he was buying this and came back with that and she does nothing about it but complain to the neighbors and then in a few days his DW's "rant" is over and life is back to normal

UNTIL

He goes out on his NEXT shopping spree.....

 

[georgina]

Well, whether you like camping or not, it is still wrong for one spouse to make a major purchase like that without the other's input. I don't believe my DH would do something like that. His biggest purchases are computer equipment, and he does check with me before he purchases, since I take care of the family finances and know how much disposable income we have.

 

[Molly Meow]

Honestly? I'd probably fall over dead. Mostly due to the fact that we hardly have enough money for food, much less recreation. Also, because I have a VERY deep phobia of being over open water, and DH knows it.

At the very least, he'd be in the doghouse for a long long long time.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

For me personally, I wouldn't rant and rave over it. It's only money, afterall. If he loves fishing that much then let him have it I say. If I loved something as much, I'd expect to get the same support in fullfilling my dreams too. She should forget a pop up camper -- vacations are at hotels and resorts!


The only thing that would make it a different situation to me is if he were spending money we didn't have, like mortgage money or college fund money. Then I would be upset; not over the actual purchase but because of his lack of responsibility.

So says a person who can afford to go and stay in a Deluxe resort. And it is a lack of responsibility. You do not say to your SO that you're going to buy one thing and buy something completely different. Especially something that is a large purchase. Although I do put some of the blame on the wife. She should never have let him go by himself for that kind of purchase.

If the guy lovesa fishing so much, he can do that from the shoreline while they're camping.

And while I agree that I wouldn't want my vacations in a camper, I would still stick the thing in the front yard with a for sale sign and the hubby would be resigned to sleeping outside.

 

[N.Bailey]

Let's just put it this way, I wouldn't be a happy camper at all! Of course, I have no need or desire for a pop-up camper either.

We have a boat, but it was a joint decision to buy it. My hubby likes to fish too, but I'm not a huge fan. We got a ski boat! It's not a bass boat, but it's the closest thing he'll ever get so he's happy!

 

[Pugdog007]

What would you do?

It depends. Was this her Mother's Day gift?

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

Make him sell it. And then call a therapist because we have some pretty serious issues.

 

[FreshTressa]

As a one time event, I would cry and feel hurt.

If he was always this selfish, I would move on.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Reading your Thread, OP, tells me ONE thing....HE HAS DONE STUFF LIKE THIS BEFORE....

Yup, I will bet anything he has told his DW that he was buying this and came back with that and she does nothing about it but complain to the neighbors and then in a few days his DW's "rant" is over and life is back to normal

UNTIL

He goes out on his NEXT shopping spree.....

I believe you are correct.

 

[Skylarr29]

I would put a BIG for sale sign on it. I also would never leave a man to make such a big purchase alone. I would also be very angry if he came home with something different. I would have big trust issues with him after that. Especially with the way their finances seem to be going. Now if money was no object then I guess I would only be a little hurt at not being consulted but it wouldn't be a major issue, if there wasn't money for it I would find it extemely selfish.

 

[stauncie]

oh... pick me... pick me!!! I know!!! I know!!!!

Well, it was VERY similar to this anyway.

I remember the time that my dad went hunting in Wisconsin with a couple of buddies. (He went hunting every year, sometimes took the whole family, some times he went with friends. One year, it was just him and me, and we went to Utah-and visited some friends)

Well, about 6 weeks after his hunting trip, Dad said he had to go back all cryptic. He comes home with a Party boat!!! You know, the kind of boat that looks like a pontoon above the water, but has a speed boat hull.
(We already HAD a camper)

Mom was SOOOOO mad, and told him to take it back. He told her he got it from a friend, and for a good price. She wouldn't budge. Kept telling him to take it back. They fough ALL weekend. He finally confessed he ORDERED it!
That it was a special order and he COULDN'T take it back! The boat cost $35,000.00!!! Mom was furious She couldn't believe he would spend that much money without even consulting her.

I think THAT was the final straw. They got divorced 4 years later.


(Hmmm, the moral of the story is.. if you buy a boat without asking your spouse, you could end up spouse-less!!)


edited to add: the closest place to use the boat is a 2 hour drive one way!!

 

[katerkat]

DH would never do that. He knows I would take away all his credit cards if he did, AND sell the boat. I'm not very strict about money, but we make major decisions together.

 

[hlbtimes2]

I would have made him put a for sale sign on the boat- so that we could get the pop up trailer! Boats are nothing buy money pits. It doesnt sound like they need a money pit, they need something that the whole family will enjoy.