If you did your wedding over again....

[Amberle3]

If you did your wedding over again today, or got married again, what would you do differently?

When I got married my MIL was the biggest pain in the butt. Tried to take total control of the wedding and when she couldn't have her way threatened not to come at all. I remember thinking man this is just so not worth it.

Eloping would be good, but I'd still want to have loved ones as part of it.

So I decided that if I were to do it again, I wouldn't tell anyone in advance. No freaking about colours or what people would wear. No ridiculous dress that's going to hang in the closet never to be worn again. No squabbles between people who want or don't want one thing or another. I'd plan a nice dinner party for the families and closest friends and make an announcement during the dinner. "Oh, by the way, we've set a date for the wedding. It'll be in about an hour, so we'll have dessert after that okay?" We'd have some disposable cameras on hand for those that really wanted to take pictures. No fussing about registries or gifts or catering or flowers. No big long list of people we HAVE to invite because they'll be fatally offended if we don't. Just a nice simple little ceremony with the ones we love.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

There would have been a different groom.

 

[binny]

I did mine over again.
Same groom but on the beach in Hawaii just the 2 of us. I very much prefferred it that way.

 

[auntpolly]

My wedding was simple and cheap - the only splurge was an open bar.

My dress was off the rack, we had drinks and appetizers - no sit down. It was like an afternoon cocktail party.

My DH's grandma tried to push me around, but I just did the "in the one ear out the other" thing, with a big smile, because I was so happy I was getting married and no one was going to ruin it.

My DH was inviting people to the wedding the day before. People showed up with kids that weren't invited. We didn't have enough chairs at the reception (at first - we found some). One of my husband's friends walked in late - while the ceremony was going on, and said really loud, "Oh sugar!" Only he didn't say "sugar".

My husband's cousins decided to get a divorce at the reception. The guy I hired to play the piano quit in the middle of the reception to drink and socialize....

It was one of the happiest day of my life! I wouldn't change a thing!

 

[NMAmy]

I'd keep the money and have something small and stress-free.

So, that's what I did with my second wedding! It was great. Just immediate family.

 

[minniecarousel]

Two words: Professional photographer

Other than that, not much I'd change. After all, it's been over 31 years.

 

[Sandy V.]

I'd keep it very small, simple, and relatively inexpensive, and blow a big wad of cash on a wonderful honeymoon!

 

[CheshireVal]

I'd also go with a professional photographer. We were trying to have a small, inexpensive, wedding, and the prices of pros were shocking to say the least.

So we had a friend of ours who is an amateur photographer (with professional equipment) do it. He was mostly a landscape photographer-- knew nothing about portraits or weddings. So it was a huge disappointment. Our pictures are horrible.

 

[mommasita]

I had the same MIL as Amberle3. I was young, and DID let her take over. I would never do that today. I regret it, but it was 12 yrs ago, and she is long gone now.

I would not worry about "insulting" anyone. I would do what I wanted, as well as my husband to be. That would have been on a beach somewhere hot.

 

[mark&sue]

Do it at Disney.

It was 16 years ago and we had only known each other a few months and had never been to the US (let alone Disney) and had no money.

I just hope our DD wants a Disney wedding.



Susan

 

[sugarpie]

I would get married in a church if I had it to do over again.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Truthfully--

I would not have had my father walk me down the aisle. (we are not close and I did it out of sense of obligation and really regret doing so.)

I would not have had my step-mother make my veil (it was beautiful--but as usual she can mess up the simplest task and in this case, the headpiece was way too large despite her assistance that it would be fine. It wasn't--and it had to be "altered" in order to fit properly on my evidently small head).


I missed having a limo. We used a rental car (convertible) that was lovely...but I still miss having that limo.

I used a professional photographer--but she is what I call a "lucky shot" photographer. I wasn't really pleased with the overall quality of our photos. I would have spent a little extra with someone who had a bit more experience and photography knowledge than someone who happened to take good pix and decided to make a business out of it.

I wouldn't change really anything else about the wedding as it was truly very enjoyable and planned with my now DH with things that WE agreed to do.

My honeymoon cruise however--I would have insisted and booked a Disney cruise.

 

[mtemm]

I'd probably have a different dress, different hair, different flowers (different florist), but really, everything else was great. not that my dress wasn't great, btw, it was fine, but now I want something different. lol. my flowers I skimped on, and wish I had gone a different way.

 

[Kimberly815]

Just got married 1/7/07 and the only thing I would change is out DJ. HE WAS TERRIBLE. He actually messed up the songs coming in and going out of the wedding (aka played the wedding march on the way in, and here comes the bride on the way out) then didn't listen to anything we had discussed beforehand, and played some random song as our last song instead of the one we asked for (and claimed we never asked for a last song!)! I can't believe he even calls himself a wedding DJ!! Sheesh!!

I paid him (with no tip) just to get him out of my face and away- but now I wish I didn't pay him at all!!

It certainly didnt' ruin the night though! Our families and friends are so great and we all had a wonderful time!! Thank God for them!!

 

[Tink33]

I am renewing my vows this June for my 20th Anniversary, so I guess I get a do over. A sunset renewal on the beach with immediate family only. We will go out to dinner after the ceremony. I found my dress on the sale rack after the holidays.

 

[Sonya]

I liked my wedding, but I felt like I was there for the crowd, not that they were there for me. No one would hardly talk to me, there were too busy partying or gossiping.

If I had it to do all over again, I would take DH, a minister, a photographer, and anyone else who is close to me, and we would hike up a trail I know in Rocky Mountain NP. We would get married in the morning, when the sun wasn't up yet in full force, but still the mountains would look so pretty and glowing. Then we would open a bottle of Champagne and toast. The pictures would be beautiful!

 

[Laura]

We would have eloped to Hawaii instead of getting married in front of a bunch of people staring at me.

 

[mill4023]

I would invite family members.
DW and I flew to Las Vegas, got married, and spent 3 days there as our honeymoon. We had a great time and spent less than $1000, including the wedding, hotel, airfare, and everything. But I do regret not having any family members there to share it with.

 

[leighe]

I wouldn't have spent so much money (or time worrying about) things like invitations and favors. (Well, actually my parents paid for my wedding but still . . ) When I look back at what some of the little things cost it makes me

 

[KelNottAt]

In hindsight I would have let my bridesmaids choose their own dress style. I would have simply asked that they stick with a certain color from a certain brand.

I also would have been less anal on the schedule for the day. Back then I was a professional event planner and was used to minute-by-minute logistics for very large shin-dings. Applying the same habits to my wedding was overkill.

Lastly, I would have written my aunt a proper thank you note for the loan of her pearl necklace. I got vibes afterward that she expected something with a little more "feeling" than when I handed them to her and said, "thank you."