If you could change one trait in your SO, what would it be?

[Disney Doll]

He's always late and for some reason thinks that folks shouldn't have a problem with that.

 

[ktpool]

DH is extremely careful with money. (Notice I did not say cheap!)

Now that we have more of it that we once did, I'm able to spend...but he always asks what this or that cost. Sometimes he makes faces.

One day I'm going to buy a club and when he asks what it cost and makes a face I'm going to beat him with it! I doubt a jury would convict me.

Other than that (and all the dead animals from hunting trips) DH is just about perfect! I love him v. much!

If you weren't in Cleveland, I would think we were living an episode of 'Big Love', because you described my life and dh to a t

That is so funny...we are having a little 'discussion' over an extra $4 a month our cable bill went up this month.

 

[janet715]

I would change how LOUD he is in the morning when me and the kids are still sleeping.... drives me INSAAAAAANE!!!

 

[Planogirl]

I would love it if DH wasn't so sloppy. For years I tried to get him to not leave clothes, papers, dishes and so on everywhere but it never worked. When he isn't here, the house is so much neater and I'm no neat freak!

I also wish that he would lighten up and just have fun occasionally. He thinks about work way too much and then has trouble doing much of anything else.

 

[ashlynn_j_m]

Not to be a downer but I would like to get my husband to stop drinking.

I'd like mine to drink more....


And also, he's very to himself...for example, I'll hear that one of his family memebers is going on vacation, so I'll ask him if he knew, he say yes, and I'll say why didn't you tell me? And he'll say "YOU DIDN'T ASK" well why would I come out and just ask out of the blue if so and so was goin on vacation....that drives me nuts..

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Change one trait?

Well, when I'm talking to him and he doesn't respond and I ask him if he heard me and he then says, "does everything you say need a response?"--I'd like to change that. Especially since sometimes I'm thinking out loud and he feels compelled to comment on that, for some reason. So that's the serious, lack of respect issue.

OK, the not so serious issue. Why, when he farts, does he need to lean over and let it escape, sometimes actually expelling it, making it even louder? Does he think his fart won't find it's way out?

 

[MosMom]

His inability to read my mind.

 

[Sleepy]

I think the thing that annoys me most is his eating habits. DH is in the Army, and you can tell he is eating with a bunch of men because when he comes home he chews with his mouth open, burps at the table, slurps his tea...

Hubby is in the Navy. Add the 14 year fight to finally stop licking a knife! Everything else is semi ok with habits EXCEPT when he eats anything on bread......sandwiches, hamburgers, hotdogs, etc. This too has been a relationship long struggle and he just won't break it no matter how often during the course of the meal I mention it. He takes the HUGEST bites...not one, but 2! His mouth is so full he can't close it and if he does, he looks like a hamster afraid of starvation! It's so disgusting. Our son and I hate to eat around him in public for fear others will notice the gross behavior.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

My DH is the complete opposite of late! He is obsessive about being EARLY! Not a little early - ALOT early. If we have to be somewhere at 9 a.m. and it takes 20 minutes to get there, we will make plans to leave at 8:30 - not too bad. BUT... (there's always a but) at 8 a.m. he will start screaming that we are going to be late and everybody should start moving. He then proceeds to piss and moan about how late we're going to be and what if we get a flat tire, wah, wah, wah. We usually end up leaving way too early and will get places 30 minutes ahead of time. We usually have so much time we could have a complete engine re-build on the side of the road - not just a tire change!
An example, yesterday we were at the hospital for same day surgery for my DSD. He comes up from moving the car and tells me I have to leave to go pick up our DD from school because its a blizzard out there. "go, go now" It was 90 minutes before school got out and we were 15 minutes from school. I went home, vacuumed, did laundry, cleaned the kitchen, and still made it to school with 15 minutes to spare! Oh and since I wasn't early enough to get "his" parking spot - I was late. "huh? I'm talking to you from the parking lot, she's still in class, how am I late?" "You just are"

 

[Marseeya]

Well, when I'm talking to him and he doesn't respond and I ask him if he heard me and he then says, "does everything you say need a response?"--I'd like to change that. Especially since sometimes I'm thinking out loud and he feels compelled to comment on that, for some reason. So that's the serious, lack of respect issue.

Have you tried doing it back to him? My DH used to do that constantly. I'd say something or ask him a question and get no response. Then I'd repeat it. It always turned out that he heard me, but he was "thinking." I kept telling him that it was just common courtesy to acknowledge that he heard, but he never seemed to get it until I started doing it back to him.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Well, when I'm talking to him and he doesn't respond and I ask him if he heard me and he then says, "does everything you say need a response?"--I'd like to change that. Especially since sometimes I'm thinking out loud and he feels compelled to comment on that, for some reason. So that's the serious, lack of respect issue.

That's terrible!!!

 

[snowwhitesmom]

Nothing - after being married twice when it didn't work out, I finally found the most wonderful man in the world.
"Third time is a charm!"
My DH and I have been together almost ten years and I am happier than I have ever been in my entire life. He is my hero! {Please forgive the gushing }

 

[snowball22]

Here's my list(yes it is more than one):

1. Be more respectful.
2. Be more romantic like hold my hand, call me during the day, and place
me first before friends, work, and family.
3. Not be so cheap when it comes to money.
4. Not work so late at work.

 

[Kitty 34]

My DH is so shy and he actually is getting worse with age so that's what I would change.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Have you tried doing it back to him? My DH used to do that constantly. I'd say something or ask him a question and get no response. Then I'd repeat it. It always turned out that he heard me, but he was "thinking." I kept telling him that it was just common courtesy to acknowledge that he heard, but he never seemed to get it until I started doing it back to him.

I have tried doing it back to him, and he gets the guilty look on his face and knows where I'm going. He does it less because of me doing it, I think.

Yeah, he's really not a mean guy in general, even though you wouldn't know it by that comment. The experts say that you don't marry the family, only the person, but I VERY much disagree. I think, whenever possible a person should watch how a potential FIL treats the MIL (and visa versal with the other set of in-laws, to be fair) because that's very likely how they'll treat you after some years of marriage, especially if their personalities are anything alike.

Thankfully my DH has some wonderful personality qualities and we're working on the things that aren't so great. Yes, there are more.

 

[kbkids]

To stop being late. If we have to be someplace at 4pm..he will decide to cut the grass at 3:00...then he has to shower, etc. Many times the girls and I just go without him and let him show up in his own car.

Hey, we're married to same person!!!
Drive me insane! When my DD was about 2, we had out-of-town friends staying with us. All of us were going out to meet up with some other friends for dinner. About an hour before we have to be there (it's a 20 minute drive), he decides he needs a hair cut. No kidding! My friend looked up at me as he was walking out the door and said, "He's not seriously doing that, is he?" Unfortunately, yes he was! Left me to get dressed, dress the baby, and still place hostess to our friends. Her husband ended up dressing all of the kids (mine and her two) while we got dressed and ready. And then they ended up having to leave before us to meet up with the other friends because DH wasn't back yet. I was sooooo mad!!

 

[NMAmy]

My DH is practically perfect in every way (a much more manly Mary Poppins, if you will) but he does have one annoying trait that I'd change if I could.

I know he's listening but it's the remembering part that he can't quite get down. For example, last weekend we had to take dd to the airport on Saturday to go to her dad's. I told him a couple weeks before, then the weekend before, then two days before. So, Friday night rolls around and he says, "We're going to the airport tomorrow, right?" (He does get points for remembering that much--it's much better than he used to be!) "Yes." "We're leaving at 3, right?" "Nope, the plane leaves the airport at 4:00 and the airport is an hour and a half away IF we run into no traffic tie-ups. We're leaving at noon." Just like I'd told him 3 times before. He's told me that he has me around to remember the details of things so he won't have to.

Seriously, I have NOTHING to complain about if this is the only thing he does that annoys me. I'm pretty lucky.

 

[hiwaygal]

Saw this thread last night and thought much of it was SOOO funny...but I couldn't respond 'cause DH was sitting right next to me!

My biggest pet peeve with DH is he lacks some communication skills. I almost want to warn people "Don't start a conversation with him!!!". He will literally talk your ear off, and repeat himself (at least twice).

I think he's basically kinda shy, and he's definitely a geek, and maybe a little self-conscious.

Most of the time, I don't mind, but sometimes it's a bit much.

And how do you tell someone that they need to let others talk and don't need to tell the same person the same story five times in an hour...without hurting their feelings?

 

[sajetto]

If I could change something about my DF it would be his short term memory. 5 minutes I've said something, he'll forget it. I hate having to repeat the same thing over and over. Other than that, I wouldn't change a thing

 

[luvwinnie]

I'd like him to be a little more frugal.