If you can go back and change something about your wedding

[Mrs. Darcy]

Checking out this thread and hoping that I won't be returning next year (see my sig)!

Aw best wishes to you, and I hope if you do return here next year it'll be for something you can laugh about!

And woo hoo for the high tops! My parents would have if I wanted to wear something like that, so yay for you with doing what you want!

And with the cake issues I'm reading about here, I just remembered that I didn't even have a piece of my wedding cake, just the little bit we feed each other. I just got too busy with friends and family during cake-eating time! So that's something else I'd change, to have a nice big piece of my cake!

 

[tazdev3225]

There are only 2 things I have regretted. I would never have put my DH and the groomsmen in this shade tuxes I don't know what I was thinking except that it was the early 80's.

The second thing would have been the veil. I was told by so many people that I would regret taking it off. No way, I regret putting it on. Just not me.

 

[diznygirl]

Checking out this thread and hoping that I won't be returning next year (see my sig)!

This is my 2nd wedding (my fiance's first, though), and we're really trying to do it our way. Thankfully, we're on the same page so far. And our parents seem to all be okay with what we want, although my mother has already made a comment about our desired processional music (a hard rock, albeit slow tempo version of Canon in D - it's very "us").

I guess the only thing that's an issue at the moment is my shoe choice. I cannot wear fancy heeled shoes, for physical reasons. Now, I absolutely love Converse Chuck Taylor All-Star hi-tops, and I found a pair in metallic silver. I say, if I leave my dress long, nobody will notice. My mother says no way; wear "nice" shoes for the ceremony and we'll get a pair of slippers or something for the reception. And now, I will await the flames for wanting to wear hi-top sneakers for my wedding...

Go for it! And did you know you can design your own sneaks at the Converse web site? It's not completely customizable, but you can add text.


As for me, I would have spent more on my flowers. They were pretty cheap looking, and I'm reminded every time I look at the photos.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I loved my Disney wedding.

The only thing I would change now if I could would be to not have the flower girl we chose. She was the daughter of my husband's boss. They laid him off four weeks after our wedding, on the day before Thanksgiving.

I was so stupid. We could have used my second cousin who, as it turns out really WANTED to be in my wedding but I didn't know that at the time. I *THOUGHT* we were doing the right thing as this job was somewhat promising and it seemed to have a bit of a good future. Literally the week after the wedding (no time off was allowed for a honeymoon) they started doing some illegal things in twisting their books. My husband spoke up and was let go.

 

[castleview]

Put me in the "would have just eloped" crowd. I had a lovely and easy (up until the week before) wedding and couldn't have done better with my dress, but I really didn't need a guest list loaded with my dad's friends or DH's extended family. Nor did I need my mother annoying me with her Martha Stewart like expectations. So, I would have taken a long vacation and got married while we were there.

I can't stand Gwyneth Paltrow, but I love how she and Chris Martin just strolled into the court house to get married.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Wow! Are you having the Canon in D from Trans Syberian Orchestra? We had that as my processional 2 years ago and it was SO AWESOME! I still cry when I hear it! It was very easy and the cresendos are FANTASTIC!

How'd you guess? Yep, that's the one! The only one we know of, though, is "Christmas Canon Rock." Obviously, the Christmas lyrics won't work in October; do they do a completely instrumental version?

It may be a moot point, as there's a good 90 seconds in the beginning without singing, and only one person will proceed me down the aisle. We're thinking that 90 seconds is enough for the 2 of us.

Thanks to everyone for the encouragement on the sneakers! I'm definitely going to keep trying on that one...

 

[dislaney]

Well I did the high heels and really wish I had more comfortable shoes - the converse would be perfect. Wear what you want and are comfortable in!

The only other thing I would change is my cake. It was absolutely gorgeous but it was so dry. Nothing like the sample we had eaten. I should have complained to the bakery but never did.

The wedding was perfect though and even a little dry cake and a few blisters on my feet couldn't spoil the day!

 

[Pigeon]

I would have skipped the whole thing. Not the marriage, which has lasted decades and has been wonderful, but the big, fancy wedding. My parents paid for all of it, and they did it for all my female siblings, too. It was lovely.

But it was a huge waste of money, and I should have just said no.

 

[Diznotyzed]

I wish we'd hired a photographer. We had a very small wedding on the beach (15 people total) and thought our family members were good enough at taking pictures that it'd be covered. Hardly any pictures got taken at all and the few that did mostly turned out awful.

 

[Ephany]

I would have not invited my sister. She was mad that it wasn't about her, had a screaming fit at the hairdresser and I found out recently she stole from my other bridesmaid that weekend. One of the many, many reasons I minimize contact with her. I cringe every time I think about her behavior.

I also would not have let my mom 'help' with some things. Apparently she didn't tip at the salon where we all had our hair done and wanted them to lower the bill even though it was perfectly reasonable and they did an awesome job. She said she was being frugal (CHEAP) and I really wish I had insisted on paying and making sure things were taken care of properly instead of allowing myself to be hustled out of there. After dealing with my sister, they deserved so much more.

I would also have eaten my cake, apparently it was delicious and our hotel lost our honeymoon suite reservation although it worked out in the end. Overall, I was lucky. Our pictures are lovely and it was a nice weekend with perfect weather. Some friends of mine flew across the country to surprise me and that was the best present of all.

 

[rszdtrvl]

I would have made sure we kept our elopement more hush hush.

My soon-to-be mother-in-law followed us and insisted on being there.

Needless to say, almost 15 years later I am still irritated.

 

[cybrkitn]

I think the only thing I would have changed is the way I handled one of my Jr. Bridesmaids (a younger cousin of mine who was 8 at the time). I insisted that she wear the same dress as all the other Bridesmaids. What her mother was saying to me at the time of course, now makes complete sense. It was kind of expensive getting that type of dress for an 8 year old to wear for one day. It was much cheaper for them to have the dress made or a similar one, by someone they knew.

I was a bit stressed out, but I don't consider myself a Bridezilla. Everything else was perfect . DH and I have been happily married for 11 years (but we've been together for 23).

One thing I am absolutely thankful for is family. DH and I were looking back at some of our pictures and our video and realized that since 1999, some family members have passed away. DH has lost one of his uncles and 2 of his aunts. My father was the oldest out of 10 and I lost him 2 years ago, the second oldest (my aunt) 2 years ago this coming February and an uncle about 6 or 7 years ago. I am so glad I have a picture of my father and all of his brothers and sisters in age order that was taken at our wedding.

 

[GoofyBaseballMom26]

The groom!

TC

That's exactly what I was going to say!!!

 

[nmmom95]

Viva Las Vegas, Baby!

We had a lot of problems with my MIL (still do).

 

[NCRedding]

The only thing I would change: I would make sure that the microphone the assistant minister wore was placed in the holder correctly so that you couldn't hear the sound of his breathing before we walked down the aisle. It sounded like the voice of doom.

I had a great time at the wedding and reception. Loved my band, food, drink, flowers, bridesmaids dresses, pretty much everything! My mom and I agreed on most of the details, and we turned alot of the decisions over to professionals rather than micromanaging every detail, so it was not stressful at all.

 

[MELSMICE]

Nothing about the wedding, but I would change the honeymoon.

Same here.

We got married in 1987 & those all inclusive Jack Tar Villages were the huge thing then. We went to the Bahamas. OMG!!!

One night we ate rolls only for dinner because we had no idea what the food on the buffet was.

The large roach on the wall one evening should have sent me packing, but DH talked me out of it.

Lady In Red being played every night in their "club" at least half a dozen times. We still laugh when we hear it. I think it was the only slow song they played & every couple in the joint got up to dance during it, with the exception of DH & myself who just sat their & laughed.

The maid.........ehem........walking in on us honeymooners!!!!!

The taxi ride into Freeport......OMG........I felt like I was still lucky to be on this earth when we were done with that ride!

The list goes on, including all our pictures being erased somehow by going through security screening or something. We have no pictures of our honeymoon, which in hindsight, is probably OK!

There are only 2 things I have regretted. I would never have put my DH and the groomsmen in this shade tuxes I don't know what I was thinking except that it was the early 80's.

LOL.........yes, those colors were hot in the 80's.

My groomsen wore burgundy shirts to match the bridesmaids, with the exception of the best man who wore pink to match the maid of honor!

The only thing I would have changed/regret is that I never went back to the photographer to get full size photos of our wedding & an actual wedding album. We have over 100 proofs somewhere. The photographer annoyed me so much on our wedding day that I just didn't want to deal with him anymore.

None of the proofs say proof on them so I could probably just enlarge them, but I can't see myself displaying photos that are 23 years old at this point.

 

[paintnolish]

I wish we had hired a videographer. Everything goes by so quickly! We taped the ceremony, but it was not very "zoomed" in and is hard to hear.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

I would have made sure we kept our elopement more hush hush.

My soon-to-be mother-in-law followed us and insisted on being there.

The only thing I would change: I would make sure that the microphone the assistant minister wore was placed in the holder correctly so that you couldn't hear the sound of his breathing before we walked down the aisle. It sounded like the voice of doom.

Those are soooo funny!!

 

[Kae]

I would have done all the pictures before. Yes I know that means DH would have seen me but my cousin did it, She was in the brides room with the moms & the dads brought the groom in & then left them alone for a while. then the minster came in talked to them & they went & did pictures.

Kae

 

[Becky2005]

The only thing I would change are things I had no control over, so otherwise it was perfect for me.

It was unseasonably HOT on our wedding day in an not air conditioned church. It should have been high 70's - low 80's -- instead it was in the high 90's and we were all sweating bullets that had absolutely NOTHING to do with nerves. Our poor flowers were practically wilting the second they came out of the boxes -- they looked beautiful when they arrived though.

The only other thing was the drunk guest that was a co-worker of my mom's and caused a problem with the flower toss but again not something I could have controlled.

Oh, I forgot one thing -- DON'T order a cake that serves 250 people when you are only inviting 150! We had LOTS of cake...but that was my mom's fault!!! I saw a cake with a fountain & people on bridges connecting to smaller cakes. As soon as they said how many people it served, I was perfectly willing to forego the bridges (or fountain or whatever way it was) but my mother absolutely, positively insisted that is what I wanted so therefore I was getting that cake!!! LOL!!! She was paying for it so no matter how many times I told her that I REALLY was FINE adjusting it, it wasn't that critical, she would have none of it and ordered the cake!!! What are you going to do? We just ate LOTS of cake & made sure people had BIG slices. Hee Hee!!