If you can go back and change something about your wedding

[BernardandMissBianca]

I would have changed the whole thing.

The JOP was drunk, I wore a suit type dress, I want a real one. DH wore a suit, not a tux. Bridesmaids wore similar style dresses but didn't really match.

I would have gotten married in the fall not the spring, DH and I love the fall but he was being transferred to Hawaii so we had a week to plan.

the venue!!!! OMG, it was horrible.

I would have had a real reception, with real food.

My cake however was fabulous. I tried to make my own and it was a disaster but DH found a bakery that made a cake that morning and saved the day.

We had a friend take pics and he did an ok job but I would have loved professional photos.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

The groom!

TC

 

[palmtreegirl]

I would've got married in an outdoor ceremony and had a much smaller wedding party.

 

[minniebeth]

And now, I will await the flames for wanting to wear hi-top sneakers for my wedding...

No flames! I think they sound really cool! You have to do what you love and be true to yourself and who you are.

 

[palmtreegirl]

I guess the only thing that's an issue at the moment is my shoe choice. I cannot wear fancy heeled shoes, for physical reasons. Now, I absolutely love Converse Chuck Taylor All-Star hi-tops, and I found a pair in metallic silver. I say, if I leave my dress long, nobody will notice. My mother says no way; wear "nice" shoes for the ceremony and we'll get a pair of slippers or something for the reception. And now, I will await the flames for wanting to wear hi-top sneakers for my wedding...

Go for it! I wore decorated Keds sneakers on my Wedding Day and they were so comfortable.

 

[DawnM]

I would NOT have it in the location DH's mom wanted me to have it. VERY far from where we lived and in their town. I am just glad we are married, but the wedding would best be forgotten.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

I guess the only thing that's an issue at the moment is my shoe choice. I cannot wear fancy heeled shoes, for physical reasons. Now, I absolutely love Converse Chuck Taylor All-Star hi-tops, and I found a pair in metallic silver. I say, if I leave my dress long, nobody will notice. My mother says no way; wear "nice" shoes for the ceremony and we'll get a pair of slippers or something for the reception. And now, I will await the flames for wanting to wear hi-top sneakers for my wedding...

no flames here either!!! Wear what you want. Why should you be walking down the aisle saying to yourself, I should have worn the sneakers.

 

[4forMe]

Instead of having a large wedding party (8 bridesmaids/groomsmen), we would have just had a best man and a maid of honor.

There was too much drama with a large wedding party even though we kept expenses minimal (dresses were $50, bridemaids got to wear whatever shoes they wanted, etc). They had the choice of driving in the limo or with their spouse (whatever they wanted to do). Even though we tried to be flexible, there was still so much complaining - there is no way to please 16 people.

DH's cousin got married several years after us and had just the maid of honor and best man. I thought that was perfect and wished we had done that.

However, that is the only thing I would change. I loved our wedding ceremony and reception.

 

[SaraJayne]

I'd change everything, except the groom.

 

[hulagirl87]

no flames, but nothing! DH and I got married just the 2 of us down in Disney. Couldn't have been more perfect.

oh wait, maybe the heat. man, it was freakin' hot that day.

 

[esbrick]

Checking out this thread and hoping that I won't be returning next year (see my sig)!

This is my 2nd wedding (my fiance's first, though), and we're really trying to do it our way. Thankfully, we're on the same page so far. And our parents seem to all be okay with what we want, although my mother has already made a comment about our desired processional music (a hard rock, albeit slow tempo version of Canon in D - it's very "us").I guess the only thing that's an issue at the moment is my shoe choice. I cannot wear fancy heeled shoes, for physical reasons. Now, I absolutely love Converse Chuck Taylor All-Star hi-tops, and I found a pair in metallic silver. I say, if I leave my dress long, nobody will notice. My mother says no way; wear "nice" shoes for the ceremony and we'll get a pair of slippers or something for the reception. And now, I will await the flames for wanting to wear hi-top sneakers for my wedding...

Wow! Are you having the Canon in D from Trans Syberian Orchestra? We had that as my processional 2 years ago and it was SO AWESOME! I still cry when I hear it! It was very easy and the cresendos are FANTASTIC!

As for changing anything in our wedding(s), I would have used a different limo service. The drivers screwed up our time line and thus we lost picture time. Very frusterating but ya know if that's all that's not too bad. We were married twice. Once 2 years ago in a civil ceremony and a second time in a church on New Years Eve last year. We celebrate our anniversary from our first wedding date. Our second wedding was in my dad and grand dad's church in Ireland and was just as wonderful as my first so I am twice blessed!

 

[Mrs.Toad]

And now, I will await the flames for wanting to wear hi-top sneakers for my wedding...

No flames from me, either! I think silver sneakers are perfect wedding attire. Wear them!!

 

[quentina]

I would elope! I got married in 1994, it cost $20,000 and too be honest, it was a huge waste of money. I would have loved the opportunity to take that money and buy a house versus renting for the first few years.

I talk to my kids all the time about getting married on a cruise ship.....2 out of 3 may consider it, my daughter, no way, she will want the entire princess experience.

 

[emma'smom]

I would have had a different cake....my wedding cake was incredibly ugly! It's the only part of my wedding that went wrong---bad communication to the cake-maker. It was supposed to have delicate marzipan fruit tumbling down the tiers from a Cornacopia which was the cake topper. Instead, it looked like a bunch for little colored sort-of fruity marzipan balls stuck randomly all over the cake like a fruit tree got caught in a windstorm and landed on my cake.

Oh well...I don't remember being really upset about it....but I did sort of look at it and say "Wow...that's didn't work out so well." We cut it and ate it anyway!

 

[Shmily1]

1st one--I wouldn't have done it!!
2nd one--I'd have had pictures. We eloped and I just didn't think about it!

Pirate--go for it!! It's your day so make it all about you--including the shoes!

 

[4greatboys]

We would have used a different photographer. We used a friend of my husbands family who I was told was a photographer. The pictures were just okay, anyone could have done the same job he did. They are special to me because it's my wedding but the pictures themselves are nothing special.

 

[Hoodie]

The cake. The baker screwed it up royally. It was probably the ugliest thing I've ever seen. Got a refund for it, but still....there are absolutely no pictures of our cake anywhere!

 

[RitaZ.]

The groom!

TC

I wouldn't have gotten married in the Catholic church.

 

[design_mom]

I wouldn't have changed anything about the wedding itself, but I would have had a live band at the reception (we had a DJ). At the time, DH and I had never been to a reception with a *good* band and didn't even know how to go about looking for one, so we opted for the DJ...but we both really like live music and wish we'd put in the effort to find a good band.

PS to Pirate: No flames from me either. I wore flats with my wedding dress, but might have gone for sneakers if I'd thought of it!

 

[Shyvioletisme]

We would have eloped. (We didn't spend much on our wedding -- compared to most people (just a few thousand)-- but even to this day I still feel sad about spending that much.) We were already married by a JOP anyway, we could have just had it at the courthouse and been happier. We could have saved that money for something worthwhile(in our minds) and been fine. Plus I hate being the center of attention and even though we only had about 25 people at our wedding, I still felt profoundly uncomfortable. I would have preferred just DH and I and our parents/sibling to be there and a couple of friends.

I wouldn't have spent so much money on a dress and I would have gotten something that I really loved instead of something I only kinda liked.