I would really like to know what i did wrong?

[Drummer71]

so u get into a fight with yougirlfreind because she does something she knew would have made you mad. ir hurts you and you yell at her unjustly. you feel bad and apologize realizing that you were a jerk. but still think you deserve an apology for her doing the thing that she knew would have made you uncomofrtable.

so she decideds she wants to take a break

meanwhile her best freind gets in the middle of all of this

i ask her freind, who well call becky, to try and talk my g/f, who well call liz, into staying with me

so becky randomly asks me one day to compare liz to my ex. i say i dont want to but she is persistant in knowing what i think

i put out my ex's physical features and then i point out liz's features. and i state that physical attradtion is of little imprtance to me and the i love liz with all my heart and would do everything for her.

so the next day. liz is at becky's house. and for some reason the IM of me saying the stuff about my ex jsut happens to pop up and liz jsut happens to see it.

so becky calls me and tells me that liz saw it and is thinking of just ending it now


so i call liz

i get chewed out and yelled at. i say im sorry, she took it wrong.
she insists its over


shes mad at me. so i try contacting her and wokring things out

she doesnt want to.
finally her freind becky calls me "if you want to tell liz something she doesnt want to talk so ur gonna have to tell me and ill tell her for you"

i tell her what i want liz to know. she tells liz, but switches things around to make me sounds like a jerk

so becky finally gets on the phone with me and says "go f*ck yourself you little d*uce bag"
i ask why shes mad
she tells me the stuff becky said which was all exaggerated.
i try to tell her the truth but she wont listen

i try and talk to her last night. again i have to tell becky to tell liz stuff. i say i think i deserve to be lsitened to.
becky says liz says she doesnt care about my feelings.
so i finally tell becky i dont appriciate her causing problems between me and liz
becky says shes happy me and liz are broke up
yells at me
yells at me some more
hangs up


i realize i did some stuff wrong. but i try to apologize, and i meant it. i really dont understand. it kinda hurts.

it realyl hurt to hear the "go F yourself" statement come from the person who alwas said "you're the love of my life baby, never leave me"

i feel like crap. i dont know what to do????

 

[acesupercoolme]

Maybe.. shes mad a you because you got Becky to talk to her instead of you talking to her. Or she could have been PMSing when you pissed her off or whatever..

Instead of talking to her or Becky on the phone, really talk to them because then she can't just hang up, she would have to talk to her. Or you could write hundreds of notes each one saying sorry, and why you're sorry, and what you did. Then mail them to her.

 

[DDRManiac]

speaking from experience....dont sound desperate to get her back...lots of girls do that to see if you'll come crawling back with your tail between ur legs...dont do it...act like you dont really care and 9 times out of 10 she will come back b/c she prolly doesnt want it to be over anymore then you do, shes just tryin to get you to submit...so dont...i never do and it usually works for me

 

[crazytp93]

speaking from experience....dont sound desperate to get her back...lots of girls do that to see if you'll come crawling back with your tail between ur legs...dont do it...act like you dont really care and 9 times out of 10 she will come back b/c she prolly doesnt want it to be over anymore then you do, shes just tryin to get you to submit...so dont...i never do and it usually works for me

I've tried that. I broke up with her, over some stupid rumor. It ended up that she got over me but I still liked her. But well, I'm over it now.

 

[DDRManiac]

I've tried that. I broke up with her, over some stupid rumor. It ended up that she got over me but I still liked her. But well, I'm over it now.

yea i prolly should have mentioned that, that may happen but i guess what i mean is..if that happens then would you really have wanted to keep her around anyway? knowing that it was that easy for her to move on...if it was that easy for her to move on then your better off...see what i mean? Relationships are something you cant force so why try to kid yourself into thinking you can...its not worth the pain and confusion...just take it in stride

 

[crazytp93]

yea i prolly should have mentioned that, that may happen but i guess what i mean is..if that happens then would you really have wanted to keep her around anyway? knowing that it was that easy for her to move on...if it was that easy for her to move on then your better off...see what i mean? Relationships are something you cant force so why try to kid yourself into thinking you can...its not worth the pain and confusion...just take it in stride

Well after i broke up with her, she still liked me but I didnt like her. Then... it was the opposite.

 

[TX~tink]

speaking from experience....dont sound desperate to get her back...lots of girls do that to see if you'll come crawling back with your tail between ur legs...dont do it...act like you dont really care and 9 times out of 10 she will come back b/c she prolly doesnt want it to be over anymore then you do, shes just tryin to get you to submit...so dont...i never do and it usually works for me

That would never work for someone like me. If I broke up with my boyfriend over something stupid and we both still liked each other but he acted like he didn't like me, I would try to get over him as quickly as I could because I wouldn't want to be hurt anymore. (that's just a girls perspective on that)

But it sounds to me like she wanted to start drama. She did something she knew would upset you, which just started this whole chain of events and then 'convienently' her friend comes in and screws things up? I think there is something fishy in there. My guess is she was bored with her life and wanted to spice it up a bit, believe it or not, some girls really do that, regardless of other peoples feelings. I'm sorry, it sounds like you were played. I would advise you to get over her, and look for a better girl, one that you deserve, someone that will treat you well. Or, just be single for a while, no harm in that.

 

[Lizbon]

Do your self a favor and stop talking to Becky! She is just making things worse. (Not that you need me to tell you that.)

My suggestion: call "Liz" and leave a message on her phone explaining EVERYTHING. And I mean EVERYTHING. Tell her what you really said to Becky and how she twisted your words, tell her what the whole instant messaging thing was about, ect. This way, she doesn't have to talk to you if she doesn't want to, but hopeffully she'll listen to it before she deletes it.