I wish girls weren't so MEAN...

[LoveDopey]

My dd is 17 and in high school. Drama, drama, drama. Last week a girl she was friends with in elementary school (Kelsey) said something rather rude to my DD when they passed in the hallway. They haven't talked for over 6 years so really there was no need for it. I didn't like Kelsey when they were friends and was so happy when they moved to separate junior highs and the friendship just faded away. Now that they are in the same high school my DD tells me that Kelsey acts as if she's not even alive. Its not overly bothering my DD because she said very few people like Kelsey and her boyfriend is cheating on her on anyway. But, it bothers me. I would like to think of a really good comeback for my DD to use the next time she sees her and I would like to shake Kelsey and tell her what goes around comes around. The little brat!!! I know better but it just makes me angry.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

My dd is 17 and in high school. Drama, drama, drama. Last week a girl she was friends with in elementary school (Kelsey) said something rather rude to my DD when they passed in the hallway. They haven't talked for over 6 years so really there was no need for it. I didn't like Kelsey when they were friends and was so happy when they moved to separate junior highs and the friendship just faded away. Now that they are in the same high school my DD tells me that Kelsey acts as if she's not even alive. Its not overly bothering my DD because she said very few people like Kelsey and her boyfriend is cheating on her on anyway. But, it bothers me. I would like to think of a really good comeback for my DD to use the next time she sees her and I would like to shake Kelsey and tell her what goes around comes around. The little brat!!! I know better but it just makes me angry.

Sorry, you are a little too involved here. Seriously, way too involved here. If her boyfriend is cheating on her, that's her business, your daughter should not be talking about it.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Honestly, she needs to just pretend like Kelsey doesn't exist.

Why is she putting up with her crap? Obviously, Kelsey knows it bothers her DD when she does what she does, so that is why she DOES IT!

The best defense would be to pretend like what Kelsey does doesn't bother her at all. It'll drive Kelsey crazy.

I know when I was in high school, there was this girl I used to be friends with, and then one day, she just got too cool for me. She always thought she was so cool, because she was friends with some of my friends. Any time we were in a group and something was discussed, if I would comment, she would say something smart like, "Was I talking to you," or "I would never tell you, I don't trust you any further than I can throw you." It really bothered me.

Finally, one day, I got fed up. Whenever she would have one of her smart comments, I would laugh in her face and walk away. It drove her NUTS that it didn't bother me anymore.

If your DD tries to come up with some Mom Inspired comeback, it will only cause her a world of hurt. Trust me. Been there. Listened to mom's comeback. Got LAUGHED AT by that girl, MY friends (because they had to fit in, so they too laughed), and people who were HER friends.

High school sucks, but she needs to fight her own battles.

 

[wdwfan16]

My dd is 17 and in high school. Drama, drama, drama. Last week a girl she was friends with in elementary school (Kelsey) said something rather rude to my DD when they passed in the hallway. They haven't talked for over 6 years so really there was no need for it. I didn't like Kelsey when they were friends and was so happy when they moved to separate junior highs and the friendship just faded away. Now that they are in the same high school my DD tells me that Kelsey acts as if she's not even alive. Its not overly bothering my DD because she said very few people like Kelsey and her boyfriend is cheating on her on anyway. But, it bothers me. I would like to think of a really good comeback for my DD to use the next time she sees her and I would like to shake Kelsey and tell her what goes around comes around. The little brat!!! I know better but it just makes me angry.

Your DD is handling this in a more mature way than you are. Grow up and let DD hand this her way.

 

[4nana]

Some can be so mean spirited, don't let your DD fall into the trap. Help her rise above and perhaps teach her 'what goes around comes around.'

 

[AKL_Megs]

I just had to add...

People will FOREVER act this way, hurt your DD's feelings, treat her like crap.

It's part of life.

People will always try and get to you.

She NEEDS TO LEARN TO HANDLE HERSELF!

Stop causing more drama for her!

I am 27 and I still have idiots who try to get to me. I STILL laugh and ignore their stupidity. I don't wonder, "Boy... what could I do to bully them back! That'll show 'em!"

It never does, it's pointless, move on.

 

[tink20]

I always tell my DD just to ignore people like that. Most of the time if you respone to them, it just adds fuel to the fire. (they are happy they are getting a rise out of you) If it continued and became more on the lines of bullying, then I would get the school involved. Most likely, the other girl is not happy with her own situation, and is acting out. Good Luck!

 

[disneygirl 17]

Sorry, you are a little too involved here. Seriously, way too involved here. If her boyfriend is cheating on her, that's her business, your daughter should not be talking about it.

I agree. I know it is hard to have your daughter go through this but at the same time you are getting caught up in HS drama and that isn't going to help DD. If I was your DD I would just ignore her and go on her way....eventually Kelsey will find someone else to bother and leave your DD alone.

 

[Buckalew11]

Let your DD handle this. She is doing way better than you are. My dd was bullied so I know where you are coming from. My DD handled the bullying way better than I did.

 

[marcyinPA]

My dd is 17 and in high school. Drama, drama, drama. Last week a girl she was friends with in elementary school (Kelsey) said something rather rude to my DD when they passed in the hallway. They haven't talked for over 6 years so really there was no need for it. I didn't like Kelsey when they were friends and was so happy when they moved to separate junior highs and the friendship just faded away. Now that they are in the same high school my DD tells me that Kelsey acts as if she's not even alive. Its not overly bothering my DD because she said very few people like Kelsey and her boyfriend is cheating on her on anyway. But, it bothers me. I would like to think of a really good comeback for my DD to use the next time she sees her and I would like to shake Kelsey and tell her what goes around comes around. The little brat!!! I know better but it just makes me angry.

Sorry, but this is a "mean girl" move. If your daughter does this, she is no better than the ones who do it to her. And if you suggest for her to do it, you are no better either.

There will always be people who treat people like crap. Your daughter (and my kids!) need to develop thick skin and let it go, and realize that they do not need people in their lives like this. (and quite frankly, it sounds like you need to realize this too! )

 

[cabanafrau]

Your DD is 17? You're going to blink & she's away at college. What if there are mean girls in her dorm? What happens when she graduates & starts her career & maybe her workplace has an established routine/clique & they regard her as an outsider?

These kinds of situations are good training grounds for life. Sounds like your DD has a handle on it. If you're unsure, get her a helmet.

 

[lovesmurfs]

My dd is 17 and in high school. Drama, drama, drama. Last week a girl she was friends with in elementary school (Kelsey) said something rather rude to my DD when they passed in the hallway. They haven't talked for over 6 years so really there was no need for it. I didn't like Kelsey when they were friends and was so happy when they moved to separate junior highs and the friendship just faded away. Now that they are in the same high school my DD tells me that Kelsey acts as if she's not even alive. Its not overly bothering my DD because she said very few people like Kelsey and her boyfriend is cheating on her on anyway. But, it bothers me. I would like to think of a really good comeback for my DD to use the next time she sees her and I would like to shake Kelsey and tell her what goes around comes around. The little brat!!! I know better but it just makes me angry.

Yep. Boys are trauma and girls are drama. She needs to ignore it, and you should step back.

 

[Redpepperflakes14]

If you have an attractive and smart daughter, trust me, there will always be 'mean girls,' and 'jealous girls' who will grow up and become mean and jealous women.

Don't try to come up with some clever retort. Idiots like this Kelsey person always want to bring high-flyers down to their level so they can feel better about themselves -- and then they turn around and cry about being victimized.

 

[shortbun]

Guys...I think it was pretty obvious the OP was simply venting to us and would not do any of the things she said she 'wanted' to do. She even said she 'knew better.' OP, this age group is second only to the infamous mean girls of middle school.
At least boys can usually just punch each other and walk away friends. Girls can be witchy...not only the young ones.

 

[LoveDopey]

Oops -- I guess I didn't express myself very well. I really was just venting. And I'm at work and was interrupted a couple of times while I was trying to type so I lost my train of thought.

I know what you are all saying. I've always told DD to ignore people like that and would never give her my comebacks I'm thinking in the back of my mind. This is my 4th child and I know not to get overly involved and to let them handle their own battles. I know this is all part of the growing process. But, some days the mom in me just wants to shelter my baby and wish life was a little easier for them.

Sorry -- I just wish girls were nicer. I still see it in my workplace and we're WAY past our teens. I've told my girls it goes on forever and I still see the drama. I've even told them once or twice to suck it up and deal with it.

Sorry for causing confusion....

 

[LoveDopey]

Guys...I think it was pretty obvious the OP was simply venting to us and would not do any of the things she said she 'wanted' to do. She even said she 'knew better.' OP, this age group is second only to the infamous mean girls of middle school.
At least boys can usually just punch each other and walk away friends. Girls can be witchy...not only the young ones.

This is exactly what I meant. Thank you.

I loved the way my boys dealt with issues -- they'd punch each other, help each other up and be best friends again. None of the mean, nasty comments.

 

[AKL_Megs]

This is exactly what I meant. Thank you.

I loved the way my boys dealt with issues -- they'd punch each other, help each other up and be best friends again. None of the mean, nasty comments.

It happens with guys as well. Grown men picking on grown women. I have a coworker who constantly has to start talking about how "terrible" and "horrible" and "corrupt" cops are whenever I walk in the room, just because he knows my DH is a cop. I never respond at all, but in my mind, I am ripping his you know whats from between his legs!

People are insecure idiots, plain and simple.

Good luck, OP!

 

[cm8]

It happens with guys as well. Grown men picking on grown women. I have a coworker who constantly has to start talking about how "terrible" and "horrible" and "corrupt" cops are whenever I walk in the room, just because he knows my DH is a cop. I never respond at all, but in my mind, I am ripping his you know whats from between his legs!

People are insecure idiots, plain and simple.

Good luck, OP!

 

[Boxley]

My dd is 17 and in high school. Drama, drama, drama. Last week a girl she was friends with in elementary school (Kelsey) said something rather rude to my DD when they passed in the hallway. They haven't talked for over 6 years so really there was no need for it. I didn't like Kelsey when they were friends and was so happy when they moved to separate junior highs and the friendship just faded away. Now that they are in the same high school my DD tells me that Kelsey acts as if she's not even alive. Its not overly bothering my DD because she said very few people like Kelsey and her boyfriend is cheating on her on anyway. But, it bothers me. I would like to think of a really good comeback for my DD to use the next time she sees her and I would like to shake Kelsey and tell her what goes around comes around. The little brat!!! I know better but it just makes me angry.

That seems a bit over invovled, you think? Your daughter is handling it fine, not everyone likes a person. As much as it hurts to hear this, not one person is always liked by someone. However, what seperates a gracious person and a person who is going tit for tat is the ability to ignore that person. I am sure that your daughter is handling the situation well, you however need to do the same. If this girl talks rudely to your daughter again then it appears your child knows what to do. Also, how would you know if Kelsey's boyfriend is cheating on her? The fact that you know this is a bit off.

 

[Elmo9607]

Gah...high school. My junior year I lost all of my friends (exept one) in less than 24 hours over a rumour my "best friend" started about me. No attempt to reconcile was ever made. I'm just now beginning to talk to one of the girls every once in awhile...4 years later.

It just happens...girls are horribly, horribly mean, but kudos for your daughter for being above everyone. It is not an easy thing to do.

Haha...maybe she should work retail...then she'd really be able to handle any thing rude that comes her way!