I win the bad mommy award UPDATE #17 pg 2

[RadioNate]

I forgot to give my DS breakfast this morning! I made the breakfast, he just never ate it.

Came home from dropping him off at school and it was sitting on the counter untouched. Poor kid has got to be starving.

He was really slow this morning. Cranky, wouldn't get out of bed, just generally a pain. It was nearly 20 min after 8 when we left (school starts at 830) so I was rushing him out the door.

I feel horrible!

 

[poohandwendy]

May the fear of eternal damnation darken the rest of your living days....

jk, no biggie. He will work it out in therapy later. You have to give him some material to talk about, kwim?

 

[fanofdisney]

Don't feel bad! My husband forgot to feed our son dinner a few weeks ago. I got home from work late, and dh had to leave. Dh promised our son chocolate ice cream, so at 9:00 I had to go to the store with him, making him promise to go to bed afterwards. So he eats his ice cream, and starts asking for all this other junk. I asked him what he ate for dinner, and he said nothing! I called my dh, and he was like "oh, crap", I forgot to feed him! So then I had to make him dinner at 10 pm!


I'm sure your son will be fine, he'll have lunch soon and you can laugh about it later!

 

[mickeyboat]

Bad mommy!

Now your son will do what my daughter does. She likes to go to the PTA breakfast program every morning with a boy she likes in her class. So she eats breakfast twice. I was mortified to think the teachers thought I didn't feed my kids breakfast!

Or be embarassed on the days that the girls can't find their snack in their backpacks, so they have to eat the reserve snack!

Denae

 

[BuzzBoyMom]

Join the club and I think you'd be surprised to see how many moms are in the club. Maybe next time he'll realize that the has to speed it up to fit breakfast into his morning. And I'm sure he'll eat a great lunch. Don't say anything to him and see what he says after school!!

 

[ckay87]

OMG, I'm doing this stuff all the time. I'm the biggest airhead - am always thinking about 12 different things and accomplishing nothing on a daily basis. But somehow I've kept these children safe for 13 years.

Like the time DS says "mommy I need a band aid for my leg"

"Just a minute, honey, I'll get you one in a sec" I say

Then there he is in bed that night, sleeping with dried blood on his leg. (ok, it wasn't a bath-night either.) Well, at least it clots. I'm a bonehead.

Feel better?

 

[cleo]

Welcome to the club.

If that's the worst thing that happens to him all day he's still doing pretty well!

We all do things we look back on and say 'What the heck happened there?'. You're not a bad mommy. You just a Mommy. It could happen to anyone.

 

[AmyJ of Ca]

Well, the other day my daughter(6) had a field trip (Aquarium of the Pacific) and that night I was asking her about it, what she liked what she saw etc. I remembered that my son (8) had a field trip coming up so I asked him when was his field trip and he said last Tuesday!!! I felt like the worst mom to not know he had gone on his field trip and he probably thought I wasn't interested in his trip. It was to the local dump/recycling center so maybe that was what put the block in my head!! I can't tell you how many times I get back from taking my kids to school to see their breakfast sitting on the table. I guess we should all get that award for bad mommies!! Amy

 

[TurboKitty]

I don't think what you (?) did even qualifies!! You did, after all, make him breakfast. You can't force him to eat....

What I saw growing up that is my "don't do this, only bad mom's would do that" list, well now anyway, some of these were pretty common back in the seventies;

Letting your kids ride without seatbelts (bonus for facing backwards and sticking stocking feet on the back window).

Letting your kids sit in your lap and steer the car.

Letting a kid ride on that tiny little ledge of the back seat, up against the rear window of the car.

Driving drunk, WITH an open container (well gallon) of wine.

Passing out in your kid's bed.

 

[isyne4u]

I don't think that qualifies!! I feel like a horrible mommy on weekends when we end up grazing all weekend and never actually eat a "meal". I told my kids that they are lucky that grandma cooks during the week, cuz otherwise they would never get a decent meal!!

 

[Southern4sure]

We know the real reason is because you were on the Dis! Don't worry, the Dis has been my excuse for forgetfullness. My kids know it's a way of life now.

You can always serve up the breakfast for dinner. Why waste it and throw it out? Put those pennies you just saved in the Disney bank.

 

[CinderellaIam]

Not a bad mom. We all have mornings like this.

My neighbor, well now she deserves the bad mom award. She's been neglecting her kids for years. My DD and her oldest DD are the same age, now 20. When they were younger her DD would be at my house a lot and If it was meal time I'd feed her. If meal time had just passed I would ask her if she had eaten yet, she always said no, so I fed her. Just the way my family is, eat, eat..everybody eat! LOL.

Then her younger brother started tagging along, and I realized that right after I fed him, he'd leave. One day I the kid was wolfing down his food and SO jokingly said to him, cheesh Dan, slow down, no one is going to take that from you and the kid just turned red. SO then joked doesn't your mom ever feed you? and the poor kid very honestly said "she forgets". I thought he was exaggerating. The woman has 4 kids, how do you "forget" to feed them. Over the years I've learned that she is a functioning alchoholic and her kids all took care of each other and apparently my house was where they ate a majority of their meals.

Now THAT is a bad mom.

 

[frndofpooh]

Darn - I thought I had that award wrapped up!

Seriously - don't worry about it. A good friend of mine last year forgot Easter! Her kids woke up on Easter morning (after a full week of Easter basket hype courtesy of my kids) to find NO EASTER BASKET! She tried to recover quickly, saying that the Easter bunny's legs get tired and he doesn't get to some houses until the afternoon but the kids didn't buy it! Talk about a therapy issue! This Easter, she had to go away for the weekend and have the babysitter she'd left in charge of the kids do the Easter basket thing, just to try to renew their faith in the bunny!

 

[AmyJ of Ca]

Not a bad mom. We all have mornings like this.

My neighbor, well now she deserves the bad mom award. She's been neglecting her kids for years. My DD and her oldest DD are the same age, now 20. When they were younger her DD would be at my house a lot and If it was meal time I'd feed her. If meal time had just passed I would ask her if she had eaten yet, she always said no, so I fed her. Just the way my family is, eat, eat..everybody eat! LOL.

Then her younger brother started tagging along, and I realized that right after I fed him, he'd leave. One day I the kid was wolfing down his food and SO jokingly said to him, cheesh Dan, slow down, no one is going to take that from you and the kid just turned red. SO then joked doesn't your mom ever feed you? and the poor kid very honestly said "she forgets". I thought he was exaggerating. The woman has 4 kids, how do you "forget" to feed them. Over the years I've learned that she is a functioning alchoholic and her kids all took care of each other and apparently my house was where they ate a majority of their meals.

Now THAT is a bad mom.

And I was that kid, only on the other side of the country. Thanks for helping those kids who had to grow up as no kid should have to grow up. (We actually lived on TV dinners. Life got much better once microwaves were invented.)

 

[BuzzBoyMom]

Darn - I thought I had that award wrapped up!

Seriously - don't worry about it. A good friend of mine last year forgot Easter! Her kids woke up on Easter morning (after a full week of Easter basket hype courtesy of my kids) to find NO EASTER BASKET! She tried to recover quickly, saying that the Easter bunny's legs get tired and he doesn't get to some houses until the afternoon but the kids didn't buy it! Talk about a therapy issue! This Easter, she had to go away for the weekend and have the babysitter she'd left in charge of the kids do the Easter basket thing, just to try to renew their faith in the bunny!

Easter bunny...tooth fairies...it is amazing that we can keep all these lies straight...

One morning my DS woke up and came into our room VERY VERY sad. I asked what was wrong and he said, "The tooth fairy didn't come". Being the typical mom that I was...I fell asleep before the switcheroo. OMG! I told him maybe he was awake when she came (gave DH the look) and told him to check the other beds b/c she probably left the money under someone else's pillow and would come back another night for the tooth.

 

[gypsydoodlebug]

I told him maybe he was awake when she came (gave DH the look) and told him to check the other beds b/c she probably left the money under someone else's pillow and would come back another night for the tooth.

That's awesome! Quick thinking on your feet!

 

[RadioNate]

Ok, now I REALLY DO win worst mommy award. I just picked DS up from school with a 101+ fever. Guess that is why he was cranky and slow this morning, and why didn't ask me where his breakfast was.

He's asleep in my room because his bed has no sheets (I was washing them and they are still wet). He is going to be starving once the meds kick in since he didn't eat lunch at school either!

 

[AnaheimGirl]

At least you didn't try to make your child drink spoiled milk, like I did.

When dd was maybe 18 months old or so and still drinking out of a sippy cup, she had one from dinner that she'd hardly touched, so we put it back in the fridge. The next day, I gave it to her again, again she hardly touched it, and I put it back in the fridge. Later that day, she was crying that she wanted milk, so I gave it back to her again, but she still wouldn't drink it. She kept saying she wanted milk, but refusing to drink it.

She told me "That's yucky milk!", but did that clue me in?? Nooo! I still kept giving it back to her, telling her "it's just milk, it's not yucky". Finally, I thought maybe she had gotten some cracker crumbs stuck in the spout and just couldn't get any milk out of it, so I put it in my mouth, sucked and got a mouthful of spoiled milk! Ugh!

I felt so bad.

ETA: Sorry he's sick and I hope he feels better, soon.

 

[jennyl772003]

About 2 months ago, my DS was a real bear to get out of bed. It was Sat, and we had errands to run, so we finally got him going. He kept telling us how tired he was and that he REALLY wanted to sleep.

We dragged him to a couple of stores, punctuated by plenty of "BAILEY! Come on, get moving!"

We were at Target when I notice that he is practically sleeping standing up! I felt his forhead, and it felt a little warm. We grabbed a new thermometer and headed back home.

Uh, yeah, he had 102 temp. It spiked up to 104. He proceeded to spend the next 4 days in bed. He had an ear infection, upper resp infection, and bronchitis.

 

[lorisnuts]

I am sooo glad I found this thread today. I was feeling really bad because almost the exact thing happened to me yesterday. DD6 was really crabby all morning before school. she ate breakfast but very unwillingly. She didn't even get dressed for school until 10 minutes before the bus was due to arrive at our house. then almost exactly 1 hour after she went to school. the school office was calling asking me to pick her up because she had vomited in her class. Picked DD up and she definitely had the flu. she didn't tell me that her belly hurt before school because she loves school and didn't want to miss a day. only days she missed this year were the 6 days we took to go to WDW.

I can also relate to the spoiled milk story. DD was 3. I poured milk into a cup for her while at 6 flags. she said it was bad. i said it was fine. ( the date was still good) my sister took a drink and said it's spoiled. now to this day whenever we go out to eat and she drinks milk, she says...mom don't you remember when you made me drink that spoiled milk?!!