I was only trying to help...

[IwasatWDWforamonth]

It happened to me too, I posted a thread about a car that looked like it had been run over and people were still driving it, and I had a lot of diser's on my case.

My mom recently found the picture and she said you should show the people on the boards that car,,,,, "remember how funny it was"?

I never told her that I already did and that the disboards had me in tears over it.

 

[babynurse1]

Perhaps by already having a bad day and then coming home to this, it magnified the situation. Maybe on a good day you would have laughed it off.

I was, however, just talking to a dis buddy last night how things can get easily misunderstood on the internet. (like others have said: tone of voice, body language, etc). And since I'm a bit of a smart aleck, this is now my favorite smilie: ....

dont know you, but here's a cyber hug (hope nobody took that the wrong way)

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I hope you're feeling better now. I am extremely sarcastic (not in a mean way...just in a joking way), but I try to control myself here more than on other forums. On those other forums, I have gotten into sooo much hot water with people taking what I said the wrong way. I'm sure it happens to all of us at some point or another.

 

[robinb]

Ah! I found the thread using Google and the word "Pepsi". I think the OP got hot under the collar by the word "aggressive" which usually has a negative connotation.

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

You sound like you need a hug! I hope your day is better today!!!

 

[grlpwrd]

You mean this thread? http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1355546&highlight=pepsi

Sorry, I don't understand how that person could have miscontrued your intent. I am shaking my head on that one. Your suggestion sounded legit and serious to me.

I have been misunderstood here and even ignored and bypassed on some threads, but that's okay... you just take the good with the bad and just move on.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

 

[teacups]

I have come to the conclusion many times that I should just go away and never come back for this exact same reason. Then, I come back. I guess I love punishment and abuse, huh? People act like others are disposable and have no feelings. ..

 

[disykat]

I just went looking for it and read it too. This is one of those "are you calling me fat?" things. I think the OP of that thread had to read a lot into what you wrote to be offended. You said absolutely nothing wrong.

If it is because you used the word "aggressive" that's just silly. You didn't accuse anyone of being aggressive, you simply said they could take a more aggressive approach.

 

[suzij13]

As my communication professor is constantly saying
"Meanings aren't in words meanings are in people" It is really easy to put meaning in to somthing that you read that isn't there. I wouldn't take it to hard. You know that you weren't being sarcatic. You also can't help what meanings other people put behind the words you write.

 

[minnie56]

Poor you..poo happens



Don't beat yourself up about it. You apologized, what more can you do?

 

[famofsix]

It is easy to take things in a personal way on message boards and it is especially weird when you are singled out or quoted when your intent may have been harmless. I was involved in a thread that was locked. I think my comment was not taken the right way. Someone PM'd me and I was able to clear it up. Luckily the person who PM'd me was forgiving.

Unfortunalty, this thread may have a negative effect since we are essentially talking about what someone else posted...however, I think it was a misunderstanding OP

It is hard not to be sensitive sometimes but the nice thing about this place is there are plenty of other people who are willing to cheer you up when you're down

 

[FigmentGuy]

Everyone thanks for your kinds words, input and cyber hugs. lol

I posted on the thread as a comment with an apology to the OP that I intended for no harm/rudness in my post. I did it that way so that anyone who read the thread knew I honestly meant sorry for the OP's troubles. The OP was kind and replied to me in a PM. The PM thanked me for my apology and the OP apologized themself. So I guess water under the bridge.

Yes, I agree with everyone about how audible tone and body language are so important when holding conversations with others. I think perhaps using aggresive may of been a bad way to start the post? I thought it was used well in context, but it still can have negative meaning. So yes. I will be a bit leary of posting now. I don't want the bad "mickey emotions" in me again.

(yes I think having a bad day to come home and read the post really just made it 10x worse. It was like the straw that broke the camels back. I felt like in the bottom of the barrel and then to know I upset someone was like removing the bottom of the barrel and letting me fall out. I rarely post on the community boards, but I thought it could be a healthy way to vent. Again I thank eveyrone for the time, help and kind words.)

 

[Andy B]

I think perhaps using aggresive may of been a bad way to start the post? I thought it was used well in context, but it still can have negative meaning. So yes. I will be a bit leary of posting now. I don't want the bad "mickey emotions" in me again.

I think this is the first instance that management speak' would have been appropriate, perhaps you should have used proactive instead.

 

[dreamcometrue]

I really try hard to give people the benefit of the doubt on message board and emails. It is very hard to convey your true feelings by typing. The person reading it can't read your mind and can never 100% understand the way you feel when you typed it, they can't see that you may have had a smile on your face, etc.

Don't sweat it, I am sure I have typed many of things that have upset people or that were taken the wrong way when I meant no wrong at all and just tried to be nice!

 

[C.Ann]

Wow! I saw absolutely nothing sarcastic or nasty about your post at all.. I think someone was just having a very bad day..

 

[auntpolly]

LOL Robin! You get my Nancy Drew Award of the Day!

I think it can get freaky when someone takes you the wrong way and you can't convince them of what you really meant - I have to say that this was one of the weirdest cases I've ever seen.

Figmentguy - I can only guess that the OP in that thread was having a bad day and took it out on you. Even with the word "agressive" I just can't see any sarcasm intended. She really just had to be upset about something else.

 

[LBelle]

Just read the post. I guess somebody could take your post either way. Personally....I thought there was nothing at all wrong with it.

Here's what gets me....and maybe I'm the silly one here but........ the availability of any kind of pop is that important to somebody???????

I mean, obviously it is, right?? Just kind of blows my mind!!!!!

That's all....carry on!!!!

Oh.....almost forgot!!!!!!!

Happy Valentines Day!!!!

 

[dimimi]

I didn't see anything wrong with your post. At least you gave an idea.

I do worry about my posts. I agreee with what others have said, sometimes we are writing things one way, and they are read another way. I wouldn't write if I wasn't trying to be helpful.

Have a good day!

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Just read the post. I guess somebody could take your post either way. Personally....I thought there was nothing at all wrong with it.

Here's what gets me....and maybe I'm the silly one here but........ the availability of any kind of pop is that important to somebody???????

I mean, obviously it is, right?? Just kind of blows my mind!!!!!

That's all....carry on!!!!

Oh.....almost forgot!!!!!!!

Happy Valentines Day!!!!

I totally agree. In the grand scheme of life, THIS is what people are worried about concerning their future vacation? I don't get it either.