I was doing SO well!

[iheartdisney]

This is my first deployment on my own...I went home last time, and we are 2 months in. I was doing so well, finally got over the weepies, and spending our time well, and then its hitting me all over again!
One of the other battallions on base is home, and seeing all the signs out, and a few of my girlfriends getting ready and going crazy... Now I'm all bummed out. I mean, I'm happy for them, but I want it to be MY turn! I want my man home! And it hits me, I've still got a while until it will be my turn, and now my emotional pendulum is swinging down!
Am I going to get normal before this is over?!

 

[lovemygoofy]

It's completely normal to feel that way seeing some of your girlfriends starting to get ready. My husband is always one of the last to come home so I see lots and lots and lots of other planes and happy family reunions before I see my own.

I'm going to tell you what I think about to keep me in check when I'm having that problem. I think: at least I know that I still have a husband that is coming home unlike some others I know. Yes, it's not the best thing to think about and no I'm not trying to make you feel bad. It's just how I think about it.

Today is a new day and one more day closer to all loved ones that are gone to being back home. Everyday is one more day closer no matter the amount of days you have to go through to get there.

Just think how far you have made it and that you are on the downhill slope hopefully. Start making plans for when your love comes home or start sprucing up things so when it's time you aren't doing a frantic last minute clean. Start thinking about what you are going to wear or if you need something new Last, just keep thinking about it was the last time when you saw your love being released and you jumped into his arms and knowing that soon you will do that again. Keep that feeling close and I think you will do just fine. Good luck, you are doing a wonderful job getting through.

 

[jmskinner]

It's completely normal to feel that way seeing some of your girlfriends starting to get ready. My husband is always one of the last to come home so I see lots and lots and lots of other planes and happy family reunions before I see my own.

I'm going to tell you what I think about to keep me in check when I'm having that problem. I think: at least I know that I still have a husband that is coming home unlike some others I know. Yes, it's not the best thing to think about and no I'm not trying to make you feel bad. It's just how I think about it.

Today is a new day and one more day closer to all loved ones that are gone to being back home. Everyday is one more day closer no matter the amount of days you have to go through to get there.

Just think how far you have made it and that you are on the downhill slope hopefully. Start making plans for when your love comes home or start sprucing up things so when it's time you aren't doing a frantic last minute clean. Start thinking about what you are going to wear or if you need something new Last, just keep thinking about it was the last time when you saw your love being released and you jumped into his arms and knowing that soon you will do that again. Keep that feeling close and I think you will do just fine. Good luck, you are doing a wonderful job getting through.

I could not have said this better.

We don't have large deployments from our base, so there isn't the big hoopla. Which kind of gets to me because most in this town don't even realize how many from this base are overseas. But, I had never thought about how hard it would be see others celebrating. I am sitting here about in tears myself thinking about hard this must be for you.

 

[natenapril]

The easiest way for me to get through a deployment is to set small milestones. If I set my sights on the day he gets home I have too many meltdowns in between
So if he is gone 6 months I would set 6 milestones. Once a month the kiddos and I will celebrate that we are one month closer to Daddy coming home.
That's what works for me. I think each spouse needs to find the groove and work with it though! Good luck and hang in there!!
Right now my DH is only gone for 6 weeks and he is only 7 hours away so we can visit. I am very thankful for that.

 

[rparmfamily]

The milestones help me too. Can you plan any visits home or anyone to come see you? That has always helped me tremendously.

Plan special days for you and the kids each month, like the first of every month go to a local water park, etc or something extra special. For me, I'd put $100 in savings and drop the kids somewhere and take that time to spend some money and time on me!! I would look forward to that!

I feel you about the deployments, ours is coming soon, very very soon. Too soon.

 

[MadameLeota]

My BF was stationed in Germany from October to May..and now he is stationed in Saudi Arabia for 6 months...I don't count down the months...but it makes it easier that I'm busy with summer classes and the fall semester...makes the time go by faster!

*BIG HUG* to everyone who has a special someone away from them!