I think I'd like to join you folks...

[starrzone]

I posted a thread on the community board yesterday about how my mother said something that really hurt me; she insinuated that if I didn't buckle up and lose weight, I wouldn't meet the "criteria" to be in my cousin's wedding (btw, she literally just got engaged and doesn't even have a date yet!). These are my mother's words; my cousin is not shallow and rude (I am MUCH closer to her than my mother; she is my closest female relative/friend) and would never, NEVER say something like that. It was my mother's passive-aggressive attempt at telling me that I need to lose weight.

Anyhow, I just wanted to pop my head in here and say that I am READY to start back on my weight loss journey. I want to be happy in life, and to prove to people that I can get back into my prime shape. Between when I lost a large amount of weight and put it on again, I have gone through some major life issues and started on come medications that cause me to gain weight. I know I can do this with the support of my DIS friends

 

[DLchick]

It was my mother's passive-aggressive attempt at telling me that I need to lose weight.

Anyhow, I just wanted to pop my head in here and say that I am READY to start back on my weight loss journey. I want to be happy in life, and to prove to people that I can get back into my prime shape. Between when I lost a large amount of weight and put it on again, I have gone through some major life issues and started on come medications that cause me to gain weight. I know I can do this with the support of my DIS friends

I'm so sorry to hear that Starz! I will never understand how family can say such horrible things to each other but every fam seems to have at least one.

It sounds, however, like you're making this decision for yourself which is fabulous! Join me, I've got stacks of weight to lose and I just got here!

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Hi Starrzone. Welcome! I just found this area about a month ago. It's been great for keeping me on track, lots of friendly people here all trying to either get or stay in shape.

 

[cclovesdis]

Hi Starrzone. Welcome! I just found this area about a month ago. It's been great for keeping me on track, lots of friendly people here all trying to either get or stay in shape.

Ditto to all of that, especially Welcome! I love having a WISH Journal. I'm on Weight Watchers and doing well and now need to focus on increasing my exercise. I'm hoping that will help me lose my last 20-25 lbs. I love this board and am finding it so helpful. I hope you do too.

 

[LAinSEA]

Starrzone - I can relate...my mom's one of those who can't stay quiet about weight either (or my career, my marriage, my lack of children--doesn't matter that I couldn't stay pregnant, my house, that fact I'm not able to join her and my DF on vacation.) I figure it's just her and I can't change her. I love her anyway, but yes, it hurts to hear the criticism.

About weight, nothing anyone else says about you is going to help you there. Until you're ready to make a change, and keep working to make the change permanent, it won't happen for you. Something said on the "Biggest Loser" last night made sense to me; to paraphrase--don't look for validation elsewhere or from others, look inside yourself. I firmly believe that we keep weight on to hide from other issues. Don't let your mother be yours...

So my advice, take it or leave it, find something to love and celebrate about yourself. Understand that you can't change your mother (even if you lose the weight, there will be something else to whine about--expressed with all the love in the world). And just be healthier for you. And if asked to be a part of the wedding, smile and say, "Absolutely, can I help choose flattering bridesmaid dresses, you know, something that could actually be worn again?"

Laurie

 

[redlight]

Good for you!

 

[tigger813]

My mom used to get on my case though she is overweight as well! She walks 6 miles a day but gives in to temptation all the time and enjoys her wine.

Well, since last Christmas I have lost close to 40 pounds. I have lost almost 20 of them since early September. I now weigh about 20 pounds less than her. I had put some back on due to a knee injury and sheer lack of motivation and she got ahead of me in the weight loss. Maybe that helped kick me into gear. My cholesterol is finally in the normal range.

For me I just needed to do it for myself and when the time was right I did it! I have a friend who has lost 50 pounds and we have become quite close during our journey. We have friends that we would love to help but we can't make them do it. They have to want to do it!

The next BL group starts on Jan.1st but you can join anytime. We have 2 weeks left in the current challenge! It's a great group of people who motivate and inspire each other.

Here's the link to the current challenge so you can get an idea of how it works.
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2280700

I have lost almost 20 pounds since the challenge started on Sept 11 and I have never felt better!
Hope you decide to join us!

 

[ohMom]

 

[FireDancer]

About weight, nothing anyone else says about you is going to help you there. Until you're ready to make a change, and keep working to make the change permanent, it won't happen for you.

I have had this discussion with my friends about so many issues. The only way to really succeed at anything is to be self motivated. Whether it is losing weight, quitting smoking, going back to school, completing a 5K, or just about anything else goal related the only way to really buy into the long term aspect is to be motivated to do it for yourself.

Family can be blunt. Sometimes it is mean, sometimes it is a poor attempt at motivation, sometimes it is the thing we need to hear to finally take ownership of a problem or an issue.

Good luck on your weight loss journey. There are a lot of good resources both here and out on the internet. The one piece of advice I think is most important is to look at getting healthy or losing weight as a lifestyle change, not a diet. One pretty much every thread like this either I or someone will try and hammer this point home. Diets are temporary, they have a goal, a beginning, and an end. They either succeed or fail. Changing out lifestyles requires a long term outlook and habits that get changed along the way go from being the new way to just being the way.

 

[starrzone]

I have had this discussion with my friends about so many issues. The only way to really succeed at anything is to be self motivated. Whether it is losing weight, quitting smoking, going back to school, completing a 5K, or just about anything else goal related the only way to really buy into the long term aspect is to be motivated to do it for yourself.

This is SO true! In January of 2004, I decided to join a gym. I was tired of feeling "blah", and my roommate was a great inspiration to me; he biked and did karate and I saw how confident and full of energy he was. My friends were REALLY encouraging, too; in 3 months, I lost 20 pounds and felt better than I ever had in my life. Now that I've moved back home (financial constraints), I've lost my motivation. When my mother and I are together, there are always sparks, and not the good kind. Her comments like the one from the other day totally get me down and I lose motivation. I think I just need to let stuff roll off my back in a big way, but it's hard when someone close to you says something hurtful, thinking they're helping... I need to get OUT of that house and hope my financial situation changes soon so I can get a place!

Family can be blunt. Sometimes it is mean, sometimes it is a poor attempt at motivation, sometimes it is the thing we need to hear to finally take ownership of a problem or an issue.

That's exactly what I think it was; my mother really is not a mean person. She and I have never had a "mother-daughter" friendship, and I have a naturally stubborn personality. I think she feels she has to "hammer the point home", and it comes across as cruel. She also doesn't like people not listening to her "advice", but that's another post all together

Thanks to everyone for your encouraging words I think I will join the January challenge; good luck to everyone!

 

[talkingabout]

i belive you can do well