I need to vent ::Updated 5.15::

[FutureMrsC]

Wow... I only have 2 weeks and 4 days until my wedding . I'm truly envious of all of you that are having a DFTW!!! Perhaps if I'd done that (if I could've afforded a custom), I wouldn't have run into this problem.

As my Fiance is a musician, we decided that rather than having a DJ at the ceremony (outdoor wedding) and reception we should have a brass quintet made up of musicians that he has known. Late in December, once we had our date ironed out, we went to these people and asked them if they would be able to play for us on May 21. They all agreed... so I was thrilled.

Fast forward to February... as I was really heavily working on wedding plans, I asked DH2B if he thought he should go ahead and set some rehearsals up, just to get them booked. His response: we have 3 and a half months left- I'm going to wait until it's a little closer. I got the same response in March and in early April. UGH! That's what I get for not riding him about it I guess. He'd initially been a procrastinator, but had turned over a new leaf for about the past year/year and a half... unfortunately, his subconscious chose this time to regress.

Fast forwarding again- mid April. DH2B finally gets a rehearsal nailed down- . I thought all was well... but apparently DH2B and my brother (who volunteered to be our tuba player for the quintet) were patronizing me, trying not to stress me out Like they could keep me from stressing... They never told me that one player only stayed for half the time... they never told me that some people didn't come prepared (as he had asked) with their schedules so that he could work out another rehearsal.

Fast forwarding yet again- to last Wednesday. DH2B set up a second rehearsal for today (Wednesday). He emailed all members involved and got confirmations from all but 1 by Thursday. Monday: no response. Tuesday: DH2B sent another email to the person who hadn't responded (note: same person that stayed half the time... ). Tuesday night- 8pm: Receive an email from person in question that Wednesday won't work... and the following 2 wednesdays *might* work. Key word: might. Really, what it boils down to is that this person isn't reliable and puts all social functions above rehearsing for us even though we're paying a good amount of money.

So... after quite an argument with DH2B (he nonchalantly mentioned all of this to me and then wanted to go to sleep... ) We decided to send the person in question a response email saying that we wouldn't be able to do the quintet after all. We also decided to have a duet or a trio. So hopefully (fingers crossed) they will rehearse and it will be okay.

Well... that feels better.

 

[Skylarr29]

AWWWW for you. I know it must be stressful but hang in there. It will all be worth it in the end. Congrats on your upcoming wedding

 

[JonetteA]

It's really good to have a back up plan. Better to do it this way than be unhappy the day of the wedding with unprepared people! You are doing the right thing! Hang in there I know it is stressful, but you can do it!

 

[Tinkerbelle14]

Hopefully this will all work out for you with the people who seem to really want to be there and perform at your wedding, but this is extra stress that I know you don't need right now. If this one guy didn't want to be in the quintet then he should have just said something. That is one of my pet peeves. When people tell you they want to do something and try to get out of it by making your life more difficult. You're better off without him, he doesn't sound reliable to show up on the actual wedding day anyways! Sorry for venting with you, but those types of people annoy me .

 

[FutureMrsC]

I'm glad that y'all agree with me... I was sort of feeling like I was overreacting.

The people that we want to make the trio with have all confirmed that they'll do it and are ready to rehearse now. However... my DH2B has to arrange the music. Having to come up with different things made me think of a few pieces that I wanted.

I had another panic attack this afternoon when I realized that the programs had to be reprinted... Yikes!

I've learned my lesson though- the back panel of the programs will be printed just a few days before the wedding, that way, I won't have to backtrack and redo it!

Keeping my fingers crossed!

 

[Chrissie-riel]

Be glad that you figured this all out now, rather than just a few days before or even during your big day! One of the neatest and most stressful things when planning a wedding is involving your dearest friends and family members in the big event.

At my wedding ages ago, my DH's then roommate said he would do our videography for us. We were thrilled - he would surely do a fabulous job!! He worked at a local TV station and was in charge of the camera crews.

Unfortunately, that didn't mean he could run the camera himself! Three weeks after the wedding, we got a tape in the mail that was from the back of the church with horrid sound; he didn't zoom in on us very much during the vows and forgot to have a microphone set up in front! UUGGH! I am going to take the tape to some computer wizards and see if they can transfer it to DVD now and pull the voice track out as well.

It was a tough way to learn that you get what you pay for!

 

[FutureMrsC]

So... yesterday, my DH2B and I found out that a musician we were counting on (that goes to Juilliard) just told us that he just found out that he has to play at Juilliard's commencement. It's understandable (as well as excuseable), but that means that any live music that we'd planned on is officially out the window. We'll still have a singer for the processional... but it's still moderately frustrating and depressing.

At least I learned my lesson from the last time and waited to print my programs!

Surprisingly though... I'm not mad this time. In some ways, I'm feeling better about it because I can have COMPLETE control of the music now. I can safely print out my programs and put together the music lineup and know that nothing (with the exception of technological problems and electricity problems) will stop my music lineup from happening

I can't believe I have less than a week!

I graduated from the University of Georgia this weekend, too. So yay for that!

 

[tchan03]

Congratulations on your graduation and upcoming wedding ! "Double happiness" for you

Best wishes
Terence