I need some good thoughts today.

[GEM]

I usually don't post things asking for good thoughts or whatever you want to call it, but I really could use some today. I found out today for sure (although I has suspected for a while) that I am pregnant again. We are thrilled, but there is a problem.

Back in July, I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks with my first pregnancy. My doctors all assured me that it was just a fluke, one of those random things. Now, I am pregnant again (which I really wanted to be) but I am having trouble getting excited or happy about it. I feel like I am just waiting for something to go wrong. It's like I don't want to get too excited or to attached in case it happens again. It's like the fear and anxiety are out-weighing the joy and excitement right now. I'm really trying to be positive, but it's hard. Anyway, I could use some good thoughts. Thanks!

 

[Rajah]

Sending P&PD your way that this time everything will work out great!!

 

[RNMOM]

I think your feelings are perfectly understandable. That is what we are here for. Lets hope all goes well and we will all get to celebrate with you.

Lots of hugs and PD from me!

 

[tiggerlover]

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I know exactly how you feel, I have been there. I wish I could say the fear goes away, but in my case I had the fear all the way until 7-1/2 months. But the attachment does come, as does the excitement, well before then. A lot of people miscarry for no known reason and go on to have a successful pregnancy, prayers and pixie dust for you that that is the case.

 

[Mskanga]

Prayers going your way GEM, everything will be fine.
Once you get passed the first trimester I think you will feel better, I know it's scary though.

 

[Kermit]

Gem, I'm praying that this pregnancy will be successful and that you'll start to feel better. I know just how you're feeling, and trust me, it does get better. I waited until I got past the place where I miscarried last time before I started buying things for him. I also waited much longer before I started telling people. Both are fine. Do whatever you need to do to take care of you right now. You will get to a point where you start to really believe that it's going to happen this time, and you'll be happier and able to bond with your baby. You won't be less excited because you got a late start. In fact, you'll appreciate even more how precious life is.


{{{Hugs}}} I'm glad this is why you were asking for good thoughts. I was hoping it was. Please PM me if you need to talk.

 

[Serena]

{{{{hugs}}}}Gem, what you're feeling is totally understandable.
Congratulations!!! I hope the pregnancy and the birth of your baby is as happy and healthy as can be.

 

[NHAnn]

Sending positive thoughts and best wishes to you!

 

[helenabear]

Sending all the good thoughts and PD your way. I hope things go well for you

 

[Mickey's sunshine]

{{hugs}} Gem. Just take of yourself and know we are here for you. Good luck! Sending lots of good thoughts your way.

 

[EROS]

GEM, your feelings are perfectly NORMAL!!!!!

I'm sorry about your miscarriage, but it's important to realize that up to 30% of all pregnancies spontaneously abort, sometimes without the mother's knowledge. I look at it as nature's way of eliminating gross abnormalities.

We're all hopeful that THIS pregnancy will go forward without a hitch. Once you get by the first trimester, I would guess that you'll be feeing much better. Perhaps it might be worthwhile waiting until then before spreading the news to your friends.

All my best,

 

[GEM]

Thanks for the kind words, everyone. I am trying to stay positive and I hope that eventually I will be able to relax and enjoy this. We are planning on waiting until Christmas to tell anybody. By that time, if everything goes well, I will have just finished the 12th week.

 

[Baboo]

{{{{HUGS}}}} GEM. I'll say a prayer that everthing goes well for you and your baby this time.

 

[ugadog99]

Sending best wishes and good thoughts your way. Take care of yourself. Congratulations!

 

[Dan Murphy]

Best wishes, GEM. My prayers are with you both for a safe and comfortable pregnancy. Congratulations, and thanks for sharing.