I need some advice from your 15 and 16 year old DD's UPDATE POST 12

[cheermom1]

My mom hired a singing chicken to serenade me at a very small (5 people) after school party. It was corny but very sweet. I had told her one classmate (a girl I didn't really know) had been surprised by her parents at a school assembly with a singing pink gorilla.

As for cars and licenses, my mom told me what her father told her... "you don't get one until you get a job and can pay for it". I didn't get my driver's license and a car until after she died. In fairness, she was terrified of my driving and I needed a lot of very expensive adaptive controls to account for a disability.

I kinda hate parents who overindulge their 16 year olds. (That Sweet Sixteen show on MTV makes me want to vomit what with all the hubris of the overly spoiled girls.) It's more than enough to mark the day and acknowledge that your little girl is growing up. But please, keep her off the street while I'm trying to drive. I have quite enough problems dodging cell phone talkers, drunk drivers and general idiots. The last thing I need is to run into one of these darlings too:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8I54mlK0kVw&feature=player_embedded

I hear ya about that show. My kids know that I only spend about 100 on their parties and I will spend about 2 maybe 3 on their 16th ones. That includes gifts!!! This is one of the reasons we have the attitudes we do with this generation.

 

[clh2]

Ok - This is the "16 gifts" plan...
4 pieces of luggage...
2 lawn chairs...
1 keyring
1 - itunes
2 - candy bars
1 - beach towel...another thing I forgot I bought about 2 months ago...
1 - Gas GC. (not really costing anything...becauseDD doesn't need to pay for gas until she starts taking friends places, going to the mall etc...which won't be for a while...)
1-Sudoku book
1-bottle of sunscreen


And my ideas to "round out the 16" possibly: a package of pony tail holders; maybe an inexpensive pair of earrings; a pair of running socks:a car wash GC; a Starbucks GC

Yeah...I love when a plan develops!!!

 

[cheermom1]

Ok - This is the "16 gifts" plan...
4 pieces of luggage...
2 lawn chairs...
1 keyring
1 - itunes
2 - candy bars
1 - beach towel...another thing I forgot I bought about 2 months ago...
1 - Gas GC. (not really costing anything...becauseDD doesn't need to pay for gas until she starts taking friends places, going to the mall etc...which won't be for a while...)
1-Sudoku book
1-bottle of sunscreen


And my ideas to "round out the 16" possibly: a package of pony tail holders; maybe an inexpensive pair of earrings; a pair of running socks:a car wash GC; a Starbucks GC

Yeah...I love when a plan develops!!!

AWESOME

how about some gloss gloss, a small bottle of perfume, nail polish (a color she has been wanting), razors (what girl doesn;t need those), small bottle of body wash, body spray. just to name a few HTH

 

[clh2]

AWESOME

how about some gloss gloss, a small bottle of perfume, nail polish (a color she has been wanting), razors (what girl doesn;t need those), small bottle of body wash, body spray. just to name a few HTH

I was thinking about a lip gloss - but I can't remember the kind that she likes. (She is very particular on this). It is a very "skinny" tube of something.

I have allergies...so I don't like to get her anything that smells...I end up with a headache...

 

[cheermom1]

I was thinking about a lip gloss - but I can't remember the kind that she likes. (She is very particular on this). It is a very "skinny" tube of something.

I have allergies...so I don't like to get her anything that smells...I end up with a headache...

Sneak in her room and find out. I do that all the time to get things like that if I can't remember. No I don;t go through any of her stuff. How about some nail art kit? My dd LOVED that one. Is she almost of out of some things in the make up area? I got my dd a thing of mineral make but of course she really wanted to start trying the mineral make up. I had to order it b/c I couldn't get it in the stores. It just a thought. or some sunglasses for the summer!

 

[clh2]

Sneak in her room and find out. I do that all the time to get things like that if I can't remember. No I don;t go through any of her stuff. How about some nail art kit? My dd LOVED that one. Is she almost of out of some things in the make up area? I got my dd a thing of mineral make but of course she really wanted to start trying the mineral make up. I had to order it b/c I couldn't get it in the stores. It just a thought. or some sunglasses for the summer!

I will not be able to pick out sunglasses for DD. She has told me many times that my sunglasses picks are horrid, and to PLEASE do not get her any. EVER.

Her derm really doesn't want her wearing a much make-up right now, so I hate to do that. She really isn't in to nail art, or even polished nails. Too bad I can't predict what her next sporting need will be (she is in cross country and synchronized swimming.) Goggles would be a great gift...but again she is really particular about them, same with her swim caps.

It has been great chatting with you Cheermom and others...I have got to get some sleep! Nighty night

 

[DVCLiz]

My mom hired a singing chicken to serenade me at a very small (5 people) after school party. It was corny but very sweet. I had told her one classmate (a girl I didn't really know) had been surprised by her parents at a school assembly with a singing pink gorilla.

As for cars and licenses, my mom told me what her father told her... "you don't get one until you get a job and can pay for it". I didn't get my driver's license and a car until after she died. In fairness, she was terrified of my driving and I needed a lot of very expensive adaptive controls to account for a disability.

I kinda hate parents who overindulge their 16 year olds. (That Sweet Sixteen show on MTV makes me want to vomit what with all the hubris of the overly spoiled girls.) It's more than enough to mark the day and acknowledge that your little girl is growing up. But please, keep her off the street while I'm trying to drive. I have quite enough problems dodging cell phone talkers, drunk drivers and general idiots. The last thing I need is to run into one of these darlings too:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8I54mlK0kVw&feature=player_embedded

Respectfully, Ella, you are another one of those posters I also ran into on another thread last week - one who paints with a very broad, stereotypical brush. Both of my daughters got late model used cars for their 16th birthdays, and both were and are careful drivers.

To say that I should keep my 16 year old off the street while you are trying to drive is totally unfair. What if I said, "I wish people with disabilities would keep off the road - it's hard enough to drive with all of the other distractions I have to pay attention to without watching to make sure a disabled driver doesn't make a careless mistake."

All drivers begin as inexperienced and get better over time. Not all teens are itching to crank up the radio, text and drink while driving. Some of them are excited about learning to drive and are carefully following the safety rules they have been taught. So how about stopping with the unfair and blatantly rude stereotyping of teens?

 

[clh2]

So - the final list of 16 presents is:

4 pieces of luggage
2 lawn chairs
1 beach towel
1 set of new car mats for the car she will be driving (DH had purchased these)
1 gas GC
1 Starbucks GC
1 itunes GC
1-package with lip gloss and a small travel size of sunscreen
1 package with 2 candy bars
1-DVD of the Sisterhood of the Traveling pants #2
1-package of pony tail holders
and...the Wisconsin Badgers keyring/lanyard.

Thanks for all the help with this! I had fun putting this together!!! And...DD is totally curious on what is in the big present (the pile is covered up with 2 blankets - so it looks like 1 huge present - not the pile of 16 that it is.

clh2

 

[cheermom1]

So - the final list of 16 presents is:

4 pieces of luggage
2 lawn chairs
1 beach towel
1 set of new car mats for the car she will be driving (DH had purchased these)
1 gas GC
1 Starbucks GC
1 itunes GC
1-package with lip gloss and a small travel size of sunscreen
1 package with 2 candy bars
1-DVD of the Sisterhood of the Traveling pants #2
1-package of pony tail holders
and...the Wisconsin Badgers keyring/lanyard.

Thanks for all the help with this! I had fun putting this together!!! And...DD is totally curious on what is in the big present (the pile is covered up with 2 blankets - so it looks like 1 huge present - not the pile of 16 that it is.

clh2

SO Cool she is going to love it!!!! I had sooo much fun putting my dd presents together. Have fun wrapping.

 

[clh2]

SO Cool she is going to love it!!!! I had sooo much fun putting my dd presents together. Have fun wrapping.

The wrapping is DONE...YEAH!!! They are all sitting by the fireplace, and DD is curious about the "present". She has no clue that there are 16 there. I've got 2 blankets over the top...so I think she thinks that it is 1 present.

I cheaped out a little on the wrapping - I used a bunch of the plastic table cloth things from the dollar store. I don't mind spending money on gifts...but that much wrapping paper...would put me in the poor house. I don't think DD will mind

 

[cheermom1]

The wrapping is DONE...YEAH!!! They are all sitting by the fireplace, and DD is curious about the "present". She has no clue that there are 16 there. I've got 2 blankets over the top...so I think she thinks that it is 1 present.

I cheaped out a little on the wrapping - I used a bunch of the plastic table cloth things from the dollar store. I don't mind spending money on gifts...but that much wrapping paper...would put me in the poor house. I don't think DD will mind

LOL that is so funny, I bet she will get a kick out that.

My dd didn't know she had 16 either till she started unwrapping them all. They were all small things and in a bag it was funny. Although my mil stole it as she gave dd her present and it was in a bag with 16 presents inside. It kind ticked my off as I am the mom and I wanted it to be somehting special I did. Oh well.