I need helping Convincing DH and DFather

[PrincessKellen74]

Hey all!

My mom and I have been in talks about splitting a DVC (100 points at AK) but I am having a hard time convincing DH and my dad that it is worth it. We figured out that my mom and I would pay about 110 bucks a month.....if the only vacas we take are to WDW, we can budget it! ANyway, anyone with suggestions!

 

[secretprincess]

I bought in secret because DH, D parents and inlaws all thought it was a bad idea. Now I have to hide our trips and want to take all the family for a Grand vacation in a Grand Villa - but fear my secret will be revealed. Somethings are not enjoyable if you can't share with loved ones.

You will have to really get DD and DH onboard if they are hesitant I would not push it. You could rent from someone, so you get the DVC feel. Or stay on cash and save the $3000+ bill from that vacation, when you approach them again. You really have to go every year to make it worth whille. I think.

 

[jodifla]

Hey all!

My mom and I have been in talks about splitting a DVC (100 points at AK) but I am having a hard time convincing DH and my dad that it is worth it. We figured out that my mom and I would pay about 110 bucks a month.....if the only vacas we take are to WDW, we can budget it! ANyway, anyone with suggestions!

Did you guys take the tour?

That's what sold it to my DH....looking around at one bedrooms, with their whirlpool tubs, kitchens, patios, etc...Looked SO MUCH BETTER than being stuck in a hotel room on vacation!

 

[ACDSNY]

Be sure to check out the point charts to see how many points you'll need for your vacations since you'll be splitting this.

 

[Deb & Bill]

100 points is awfully low to be splitting between two families, unless you only go every three years. You'll want at least a two bedroom villa with the two families since you'll most likely want a little bit of privacy.

Since you are purchasing real estate that continues to cost through the years (annual dues normally go up every year), you'll really want your husband on board with this purchase. You could always go after a small resale instead of purchasing directly through Disney and pay a bit less.

 

[Duckieluckey]

Have your parents ever heard of a grandchildren magnet? They can push the stroller now and later the grandchildren can push their wheelchair (they will want to do this because people in wheelchairs and their party go to the head of the line).

Who wants to spend a boring week at Grandpa’s?

Who wants to spend a week at Disney World with Grandpa?

 

[paults]

I would go the resale route and get 2 resale contracts, one for each family.

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

I would not try to "talk" DH into anything. Even if you "win", you could lose, overall, in resentment. This is a large $$ purchase, and nobody should feel like they were nagged into it.

That said, here's what worked with my DH: I did all the research and came to the conclusion that DVC was best for us. I presented the research only--not my conclusions--to DH. Then I walked away. By allowing him to reach his own conclusion, he was satisfied that it was a good purchase for our family.

In addition, you and your mom need to reach a defeinte agreement on how a split contract would work. Would you all go together, or alternate, or some other arrangement? Whose name is on the contract? Who's responsible for maintenace fees? If you're both on the contract, either one can use the points--you should have a firm agreement on what is "fair". What if one of you wants to sell--does the other party of first dibs? Do you need enough points for an annual trip?

Those things should probably be spelled out, just so there are no hard feelings later.

But getting back to your original question, I don't ever think it's a good idea to try to convince an unwilling spouse. I am a firm believer in finding out their sticking points and being able to address them in a positive manner, though!

And I can't imagine trying to hide such a purchase. What would be the point? Who cares what the in-laws think? I just don't get that.

 

[skorpie]

My method of getting DH to agree was to rent points and stay at a DVC resort. We were able to rent at OKW but at the time they were selling WVL. My DH didn't care for OKW, but when he saw the beauty of WVL he agreed! I think it was the "manliness" of WVL-the dark wood, the leathers of the lobby sofa etc. He imagines himself as a "frontiersman" and he loved the atmosphere of the Lodge.

Why not try that route-pick a resort that your DH might like and stay there. Try to rent points or pay cash then switch for the last 2 days to a Value Resort. The shock of the room size itself could sway him!

 

[Lisa P.]

If you are considering this purchase for DVC stays that do NOT include major holiday weeks, you might consider taking other timeshare routes to get there.

Rent points from other members for a trip or two, to see what your DH and father think of the experience, firsthand.

Or, buy a quality resale timeshare week elsewhere that has the trade power to trade into DVC (again, NOT during major holidays) for a fraction of the cost of buying the points outright. It has its limitations - more advance planning, fewer options for resorts, rarely available on major holiday weeks, full week stays only. We've done this and for the right situation, it's a great, cost-effective way to vacation at Disney resorts. Feel free to email me or PM for more specifics.

 

[rsinj]

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[SandraVB79]

I bought in secret because DH, D parents and inlaws all thought it was a bad idea. Now I have to hide our trips and want to take all the family for a Grand vacation in a Grand Villa - but fear my secret will be revealed. Somethings are not enjoyable if you can't share with loved ones.

You will have to really get DD and DH onboard if they are hesitant I would not push it. You could rent from someone, so you get the DVC feel. Or stay on cash and save the $3000+ bill from that vacation, when you approach them again. You really have to go every year to make it worth whille. I think.

OMG, HOW do you hide buying into DVC?????

 

[kikiq]

Have your parents ever heard of a grandchildren magnet? They can push the stroller now and later the grandchildren can push their wheelchair (they will want to do this because people in wheelchairs and their party go to the head of the line).

Who wants to spend a boring week at Grandpa’s?

Who wants to spend a week at Disney World with Grandpa?

I was just telling my neighbor who also owns DVC, that our grandkids can say that they staying at Grammy's house at WDW or DLR. Definitely a grandchildren magnet.

 

[secretprincess]

OMG, HOW do you hide buying into DVC?????

Yeah, kind of regret it now. We are taking a cash trip in August and hoping he will just love it. I am going to really try to make it stress free, fun trip. Make sure he sees how much the kids enjoy it. Take the tour, Then want to buy in ?? Sounds even worse typing it. I thought it would be ok, going to vegas, DL, Hawii over the next few years, if not....There is always resale.