I need advice on a dilema I am in

[birdiesunshine]

O.k. here's the dilly......I have been invited to a wedding for June 12th and I've known about this wedding for about 6 months now. The invitations came about 3 weeks ago and I responded that my DH and myself will be attending. About 3 days ago I got a bridal shower invitation for my step sister for the same day as the wedding

My question is do I go to the wedding and tell my step mom that I'm sorry but I had a prior engagement or do I skip the ceremony (which is the most important part of the wedding) and go to the shower and leave and then drive an hour to get back for the reception?

On a side note, my step mom is taking care of my very sick father, so I also feel guilt it I don't go to the shower as she may feel that I owe it to them to attend!!!!!!!!

Please help me figure out what the right thing to do is!!!!!

Thanks.

 

[Serena]

You already have plans. I would try to work around it, but you commited yourself already.

 

[ScarlettO]

To me a Wedding is a mor "important" event that a showere. I'd give her the gift ahead of time and say you already had a prior event .

 

[dianeschlicht]

I would call your step mom and tell it exactly as is the truth. You had already RSVPd for a wedding that same day. Go over with a shower gift AHEAD of time and express you good wishes and then go to the wedding.

 

[Pop Daddy]

go to the movies

 

[TigerBear]

I personally would base it on how close you are to the person getting married. If it is not someone you consider to be a close friend, I would attend the shower, leave early, and then go to the wedding reception.

 

[DoeWDW]

Drop off a gift prior to the shower, with a card expressing that you are sorry you couldn't be there but you are wishing her well. Then attend the wedding guilt-free.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

If the wedding is something YOU do not want to miss then go to that.
Do damage control beforehand, explain the circumstances and drop off the gift ahead of time for the shower.

 

[birdiesunshine]

Thank you all for your replies! I have decided to tell my step mom that I have a prior commitment.

I will be in Disney the week before both events and nothing can get me down when I'm at WDW. I will go to my Dad's house the night before the shower/slash wedding with my shower gift and spend a few hours with them!! I promise not to feel guilty about this decision

 

[minniecarousel]

Wise choice!

 

[Rajah]

Originally posted by DoeWDW
Drop off a gift prior to the shower, with a card expressing that you are sorry you couldn't be there but you are wishing her well. Then attend the wedding guilt-free.

 

[CBRorBust]

I would go to the wedding.

Send a gift to the shower.

Your Step-Sister as a bride will realize how important it is to show up to weddings when your R.S.V.P. Think of it this way. Depending on how large the wedding is going to be the bride that you are thinking about skipping out on could have spent $20-200 for you and your husband to join them on their day! I bet your step sister will understand.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Originally posted by DoeWDW
Drop off a gift prior to the shower, with a card expressing that you are sorry you couldn't be there but you are wishing her well. Then attend the wedding guilt-free.

This is what I'd do too.

 

[birdiesunshine]

Originally posted by CBRorBust
I would go to the wedding.

Send a gift to the shower.

Your Step-Sister as a bride will realize how important it is to show up to weddings when your R.S.V.P. Think of it this way. Depending on how large the wedding is going to be the bride that you are thinking about skipping out on could have spent $20-200 for you and your husband to join them on their day! I bet your step sister will understand.

Just to clarify, I wasn't going to skip out on the reception, just the ceremony, but after reading everyone's posts, I have made up my mind to skip the shower and attend the entire wedding!!

 

[kild]

Or you could just send me a few hundred dollars and we will call it even